Before 40: 7 Goals for High Value Men to BUILD Your Masculine Frame!

1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:05,130 As Men, we're often told to be strong, confident, successful, but 2 00:00:05,370 --> 00:00:06,990 how do we actually achieve that? 3 00:00:07,440 --> 00:00:09,840 Well, in this episode of the Fallible Man Podcast, we're gonna give you 4 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:14,400 seven tangible goals to help you build a strong masculine frame and 5 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:15,810 become the best version of yourself. 6 00:00:16,170 --> 00:00:19,290 So if you're ready to take your life to the next level, keep listening. 7 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:26,630 Here's the million dollar question. 8 00:00:27,060 --> 00:00:28,800 How do men like us reach our full? 9 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:33,870 Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 10 00:00:34,230 --> 00:00:38,610 working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. 11 00:00:39,599 --> 00:00:43,440 Well, that's the big question In this podcast, we'll help you 12 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:44,789 answer those questions and more. 13 00:00:44,970 --> 00:00:51,429 My name is Brent and welcome to the Album Man podcast on the mission. 14 00:00:51,810 --> 00:00:53,280 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 15 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:54,959 Your home for all things, man, husband, and. 16 00:00:55,590 --> 00:00:56,940 Big shout to Fallible Nation. 17 00:00:56,970 --> 00:01:00,869 You guys make this all possible and a warm welcome to our first time listeners. 18 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:04,319 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 19 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:08,339 And on today's show, guys, I'm really excited that this one is specifically 20 00:01:08,339 --> 00:01:11,220 aimed at all of you under the age of 40. 21 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,369 Now, I know that some of my listeners are over that age, and that's fine. 22 00:01:14,399 --> 00:01:18,899 You can apply these things to your life too, but this is really in 23 00:01:18,905 --> 00:01:22,530 particular for those of you guys who are just getting a good launch on life. 24 00:01:23,875 --> 00:01:28,365 The world is kind of nuts these days and really confusing as modern men. 25 00:01:28,365 --> 00:01:31,845 Let's face it, it feels like the world doesn't really want us to be men 26 00:01:31,845 --> 00:01:35,835 sometimes, and our roles have grown, change expanded, and even for previous 27 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,384 generations, it's, it's a different world. 28 00:01:39,465 --> 00:01:42,615 We've talked about masculine framing before, but for a quick refresher 29 00:01:42,615 --> 00:01:45,755 on why we're using that term or if you're unfamiliar with the. 30 00:01:46,884 --> 00:01:48,345 Masculine frame is a man's foundation. 31 00:01:48,405 --> 00:01:51,375 It's what supports him and allows him to take action in the world. 32 00:01:51,795 --> 00:01:55,785 A strong frame conveys confidence, power, and authority, and it's the first 33 00:01:55,785 --> 00:01:59,145 thing that's really noticed about you by other people and kind of sets the 34 00:01:59,145 --> 00:02:00,645 tone for how they interact with you. 35 00:02:01,155 --> 00:02:03,705 We're not talking about having a bad attitude or anything like that. 36 00:02:03,710 --> 00:02:04,755 It's a presence. 37 00:02:05,175 --> 00:02:07,185 So why before 40? 38 00:02:07,725 --> 00:02:08,984 Because I called the show. 39 00:02:10,050 --> 00:02:10,740 Just that, right? 40 00:02:10,740 --> 00:02:12,030 That's what I titled this before. 41 00:02:12,030 --> 00:02:13,260 40 Things You Want to Achieve. 42 00:02:13,260 --> 00:02:14,850 Well, two reasons, guys. 43 00:02:15,510 --> 00:02:21,900 At 43, I can tell you that it's easier before you hit 40 than after you hit 40 to 44 00:02:21,900 --> 00:02:26,910 achieve some of the things on this list, and it's easier to maintain what you've 45 00:02:26,915 --> 00:02:28,680 already built than to build them later. 46 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:33,270 You can do it after, but it will help your journey a lot to establish some of these 47 00:02:33,270 --> 00:02:35,340 things before you ever get to my age. 48 00:02:36,285 --> 00:02:39,375 Number two is at 40, I've gained some perspective that 49 00:02:39,375 --> 00:02:41,085 comes with Asian experience. 50 00:02:41,445 --> 00:02:44,685 I'm not saying I'm some old wise man or claiming to be brilliant, 51 00:02:45,105 --> 00:02:49,005 but enough people have come and gone in my life through death, through 52 00:02:49,215 --> 00:02:50,955 moving through all kinds of things. 53 00:02:51,555 --> 00:02:55,935 But I've started to see with some clarity what would've helped me live the life I 54 00:02:55,935 --> 00:03:01,995 wanna live if I started it out earlier, instead of feeling like I'm scrambling. 55 00:03:03,435 --> 00:03:06,375 So that's why we're doing this show and that's why I'm prefacing it. 56 00:03:06,525 --> 00:03:10,335 Four guys under the age of 40, specifically, like I said, there's 57 00:03:10,335 --> 00:03:11,565 something for all of you in this. 58 00:03:11,565 --> 00:03:16,335 Please don't think this doesn't apply to the rest of us, but I wanna talk to 59 00:03:16,335 --> 00:03:18,405 the younger guys just for a little bit. 60 00:03:19,215 --> 00:03:23,235 The first thing is, the first goal you want to achieve, right, 61 00:03:23,895 --> 00:03:26,595 is to have an awareness of. 62 00:03:27,555 --> 00:03:27,915 Right. 63 00:03:28,365 --> 00:03:29,445 I know that sounds kinda weird. 64 00:03:29,865 --> 00:03:33,555 As a man, it's important to have an awareness of our own mortality. 65 00:03:34,155 --> 00:03:37,575 The awareness will motivate you to make the most of the time and to 66 00:03:37,575 --> 00:03:39,555 prioritize things that truly matter. 67 00:03:40,335 --> 00:03:44,415 Remembering that our time is limited will help us focus on things that are 68 00:03:44,535 --> 00:03:49,005 more important and most important to you, and it will give you the courage 69 00:03:49,005 --> 00:03:50,875 to pursue your goals fearlessly. 70 00:03:51,510 --> 00:03:53,670 It's not morbid guys, it's perspective. 71 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:54,840 I wasted a lot of time. 72 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:59,220 I can never recover on shit that doesn't matter and didn't make my life better. 73 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:04,680 And at 43 is something I wish I had been more focused on. 74 00:04:05,700 --> 00:04:09,300 Point number two is financial freedom and stability. 75 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:14,280 Achieving financial stability is essential to build a strong masculine frame. 76 00:04:15,030 --> 00:04:19,440 We derive a lot of our value from our ability to make a decent living and to 77 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:20,909 provide for the people we care about. 78 00:04:21,959 --> 00:04:24,450 It really does a number on men's brains. 79 00:04:24,810 --> 00:04:27,419 This means being able to support yourself and your loved ones. 80 00:04:27,419 --> 00:04:30,150 Having a solid financial plan and investing in your own future, 81 00:04:30,750 --> 00:04:34,140 building a successful career, or starting a business will give you the 82 00:04:34,140 --> 00:04:36,870 freedom to live life on your terms. 83 00:04:37,260 --> 00:04:40,409 It will give you the confidence and it'll give you the means to pursue your. 84 00:04:41,670 --> 00:04:43,500 This doesn't look the same for all PA people. 85 00:04:43,500 --> 00:04:44,070 I know that. 86 00:04:44,070 --> 00:04:44,849 And that's okay. 87 00:04:45,060 --> 00:04:49,020 You don't have to look like my trip to success, financial success, 88 00:04:49,740 --> 00:04:51,000 and by God, I hope you don't. 89 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:52,320 God hope you, I hope you do it better. 90 00:04:52,890 --> 00:04:58,349 But you have a better chance now at a younger age than an ever history to 91 00:04:58,349 --> 00:05:02,730 actually achieve financial freedom and stability at a much, much younger age. 92 00:05:02,820 --> 00:05:07,080 Used to you had to work 40 years in a fairly significant 93 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:08,490 job after a lot of years of. 94 00:05:09,945 --> 00:05:14,565 To ever have a really solid financial future, and that's not the case anymore. 95 00:05:15,825 --> 00:05:20,715 Number three, invest in yourself to become a high value man, 96 00:05:21,285 --> 00:05:23,175 you must invest in yourself. 97 00:05:23,445 --> 00:05:26,715 This means taking courses, reading books, attending workshops, and learning 98 00:05:26,715 --> 00:05:29,565 new skills by investing in yourself. 99 00:05:30,510 --> 00:05:34,200 You'll be better equipped to handle any cha challenge that comes your way, and 100 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:37,710 you'll be able to contribute more to your community and the world at large 101 00:05:38,340 --> 00:05:40,740 and just live the life that you want to. 102 00:05:41,280 --> 00:05:43,200 Knowledge really is power. 103 00:05:44,130 --> 00:05:45,630 Now gonna roll this sponsor real quick. 104 00:05:45,690 --> 00:05:48,330 Will be right more back with four more things that you guys 105 00:05:48,330 --> 00:05:49,770 really wanna work on, I promise. 106 00:05:50,700 --> 00:05:54,360 Now before we go any further, I wanted to share with you guys, I don't always tell 107 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:57,720 you how much I love doing my podcast. 108 00:05:58,185 --> 00:06:02,955 Like I passionately love what I'm doing and one of the things that makes my 109 00:06:02,955 --> 00:06:06,885 life better as a podcaster is to work with a company like Grow Your Show. 110 00:06:07,455 --> 00:06:09,705 Grow Your Show is a one stop podcast. 111 00:06:09,705 --> 00:06:10,275 Do it all. 112 00:06:10,575 --> 00:06:13,604 Now I use Grow Your Show for my marketing, but Grow Your Show 113 00:06:13,604 --> 00:06:14,985 is literally a one stop shop. 114 00:06:14,985 --> 00:06:17,325 You can record your episode and just drop it off with them 115 00:06:17,325 --> 00:06:18,255 and they take it from there. 116 00:06:18,284 --> 00:06:18,885 It's amazing. 117 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:23,520 If you are interested in picking up podcasting, it's a hobby, or maybe 118 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,610 you're looking to expand your business and use podcasting in that aspect, 119 00:06:27,090 --> 00:06:28,979 talk to my friends over Grow Your Show. 120 00:06:28,979 --> 00:06:30,030 Adam will take care of you. 121 00:06:30,030 --> 00:06:30,960 I guarantee it. 122 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:31,950 I trust him. 123 00:06:31,950 --> 00:06:36,539 He's my friend, he's my business colleague, and I wouldn't trust 124 00:06:36,539 --> 00:06:37,560 anybody else with my show. 125 00:06:37,849 --> 00:06:39,120 Welcome back guys. 126 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:39,480 We got. 127 00:06:39,854 --> 00:06:45,015 Seven goals for high value men to build before 40 to help carry 128 00:06:45,015 --> 00:06:46,875 and build that masculine frame. 129 00:06:47,414 --> 00:06:50,234 We've already talked about points one through three, so if you miss it, go back. 130 00:06:50,685 --> 00:06:56,685 Number four is take care of your health, of your physical shape. 131 00:06:57,645 --> 00:06:59,955 I mean, it's, it's important guys. 132 00:07:00,544 --> 00:07:02,265 I, I can't overstress that. 133 00:07:02,925 --> 00:07:06,075 Taking care of your official physical shape is crucial to 134 00:07:06,075 --> 00:07:07,725 building a strong masculine frame. 135 00:07:07,725 --> 00:07:08,475 It just is. 136 00:07:09,075 --> 00:07:12,585 This means eating a better, healthier diet, getting regular exercise, and 137 00:07:12,585 --> 00:07:14,355 taking care of your mental health as well. 138 00:07:14,985 --> 00:07:18,015 By prioriti, prioritizing your physical health, you're gonna 139 00:07:18,015 --> 00:07:21,284 have more energy, you're gonna be more productive, and you're gonna 140 00:07:21,284 --> 00:07:23,325 feel more confident in yourself. 141 00:07:23,925 --> 00:07:28,695 And I can tell you at 43, it is also so much harder as time goes. 142 00:07:30,090 --> 00:07:34,980 To get into shape if you haven't been in decent shape and you stand a much 143 00:07:34,980 --> 00:07:39,510 better chance of maintaining it or staying in that healthy lifestyle, 144 00:07:39,510 --> 00:07:43,170 if you build and develop it early in life and just carry that with 145 00:07:43,170 --> 00:07:44,880 you than if you try and do it later. 146 00:07:46,050 --> 00:07:48,720 Number five, learn the art of cooking. 147 00:07:49,260 --> 00:07:50,890 My goodness, this is so important. 148 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:53,670 I can't even begin to stress it enough and it doesn't get talked about. 149 00:07:54,645 --> 00:07:58,965 Cooking is an essential life skill that every man should learn. 150 00:07:59,835 --> 00:08:03,885 Not only will it help save you money and help you eat healthier, but it's 151 00:08:03,890 --> 00:08:08,025 also a great way to impress loved ones and show them how much you care. 152 00:08:08,025 --> 00:08:09,135 I'm a southern person. 153 00:08:09,224 --> 00:08:11,835 I come from southern family, so that's love. 154 00:08:11,835 --> 00:08:13,065 In our house, we cook for you. 155 00:08:13,065 --> 00:08:14,305 You will eat in my house. 156 00:08:15,855 --> 00:08:20,655 But by learning cook, you'll also be able to take care of your family yourself. 157 00:08:21,225 --> 00:08:25,335 You'll be able to share your love through your food, but you'll also 158 00:08:25,335 --> 00:08:27,135 be able to get yourself better food. 159 00:08:27,405 --> 00:08:27,885 Okay? 160 00:08:28,245 --> 00:08:32,445 Having to cook food is cheaper than buying food all the time. 161 00:08:32,924 --> 00:08:36,075 It's also one of the most attractive skills to the 162 00:08:36,435 --> 00:08:37,395 opposite sex that men can have. 163 00:08:38,565 --> 00:08:42,685 I dunno about you guys, but my wife's first birthday. 164 00:08:43,530 --> 00:08:47,520 After we got married, we cooked her a six course deal, our six 165 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:49,980 course meal of Asian style food. 166 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:54,300 It was an all day thing and it was amazing, and she loved it. 167 00:08:55,290 --> 00:08:56,459 Goal number six, guys. 168 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:58,740 Comfortable being uncomfortable. 169 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:03,569 Stepping out of your comfort zone is essential to personal growth and 170 00:09:03,569 --> 00:09:05,220 ability and strong masculine frame. 171 00:09:05,970 --> 00:09:09,350 This means taking risk, trying new things, pushing. 172 00:09:10,890 --> 00:09:13,949 I'm stretching your limits by getting out of your comfort zone. 173 00:09:13,949 --> 00:09:15,270 You build resilience. 174 00:09:15,300 --> 00:09:19,020 You learn new skills, you develop the confidence to tackle challenges. 175 00:09:19,770 --> 00:09:25,439 Comfort zones are one of the greatest, greatest killers of 176 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:29,160 growth, of potential and of success. 177 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:34,319 Becoming complacent and being in your comfort zone is accepting your reality, 178 00:09:34,324 --> 00:09:38,280 how it is, and refusing that you deserve more, and that's just a bad. 179 00:09:39,690 --> 00:09:43,350 Last one we wanna talk about is, you know, build high quality relationships. 180 00:09:44,460 --> 00:09:47,490 As a man, it's important to maintain strong relationship with 181 00:09:47,490 --> 00:09:49,110 your friends and your family. 182 00:09:49,950 --> 00:09:53,910 This means taking the time to connect with them, listening to their concerns, 183 00:09:53,915 --> 00:09:55,530 and offering support when needed. 184 00:09:56,310 --> 00:10:00,540 By prioritizing your relationships, you'll build strong support system that will help 185 00:10:00,540 --> 00:10:03,960 you navigate the ups and downs of life. 186 00:10:04,350 --> 00:10:06,870 Your tribe is your strength when life pushes. 187 00:10:07,694 --> 00:10:09,045 So build a strong one. 188 00:10:10,425 --> 00:10:13,064 Now guys, think about it really carefully. 189 00:10:14,055 --> 00:10:15,704 This applies to all men. 190 00:10:16,245 --> 00:10:19,485 I know I specified before you turn 40 because I'm telling 191 00:10:19,485 --> 00:10:24,045 you, starting on this path much earlier will make it much easier. 192 00:10:24,135 --> 00:10:27,645 It'll also bring you a lot more fulfillment and joy earlier in 193 00:10:27,885 --> 00:10:31,935 your life and help you live the life you want much sooner, much. 194 00:10:32,954 --> 00:10:37,305 Much longer because if you wait till you're past 40 to start this journey, 195 00:10:38,115 --> 00:10:43,005 you could have a really long trek and by the time you get there, you may not have 196 00:10:43,010 --> 00:10:47,625 a lot of time, especially with the whole financial stability thing to enjoy that. 197 00:10:47,685 --> 00:10:48,015 Right? 198 00:10:48,015 --> 00:10:50,055 You could be working for years. 199 00:10:50,444 --> 00:10:54,175 Retirements are not what they used to be, so take control of your. 200 00:10:55,199 --> 00:10:58,199 Grab these seven goals before you reach 40. 201 00:10:58,199 --> 00:11:03,060 If you're under 40 and even after, after 40, keep working towards these things. 202 00:11:03,510 --> 00:11:06,060 Remember, building a strong masculine frame takes time. 203 00:11:06,180 --> 00:11:09,990 It takes dedication, hard work by setting these seven goals 204 00:11:09,990 --> 00:11:11,670 for yourself before you turn 40. 205 00:11:12,420 --> 00:11:15,150 You'll be well on your way to becoming the best version of 206 00:11:15,150 --> 00:11:16,829 yourself much earlier in your life. 207 00:11:17,189 --> 00:11:18,749 And that comes with a lot of reward. 208 00:11:18,749 --> 00:11:22,979 Getting to that point way sooner is much, much more rewarding. 209 00:11:23,430 --> 00:11:24,839 So take first steps today. 210 00:11:24,869 --> 00:11:29,219 Start building the life you always wanted, and I promise you'll never regret it. 211 00:11:30,239 --> 00:11:31,050 Now it is Friday. 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