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Am I Translating What You Say Accurately? | Communication between the Sexes

If you have ever heard your partner say “Thanks for taking care of that for me” and translated it to “Your getting lucky tonight”  or less extreme, She said “I had a really hard day today with my coworker” and you thought “I will fix it” Then you may...

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If you have ever heard your partner say “Thanks for taking care of that for me” and translated it to “Your getting lucky tonight”  or less extreme, She said “I had a really hard day today with my coworker” and you thought “I will fix it” Then you may need an AI that translates your partner in real time. Don’t have one? uh oh…

Let’s face it, for being the same species men and women speak 2 very different languages and it often gets us into a lot of trouble in our relationships. Communication between the sexes is frustrating because we want to be on the same page as our partner, but we usually aren’t.  The majority of the time saying “Am I Translating What You Say Accurately” Is a bad idea.

So what do we do?

In this Episode of The Fallible Man Podcast you will…

  • Test you translation skills
  • Learn 4 Keys to Translating your Partner better
  • Learn to understand what she is actually looking for when she ask you things
  • Identify some of the knowledge you should be leaning about your partner to help your relationship more

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Transcript

1 00:00:00,630 --> 00:00:04,019 If you ever heard your partner say, Hey, thanks for taking care of that for me, and 2 00:00:04,025 --> 00:00:07,980 it translated in your head, I'm getting lucky tonight, or something less extreme. 3 00:00:07,980 --> 00:00:10,980 She said, I really had a hard day today with my coworker 4 00:00:10,980 --> 00:00:12,660 and you thought, I'll fix it. 5 00:00:12,660 --> 00:00:13,080 It's okay. 6 00:00:13,860 --> 00:00:16,410 In this episode of the Fall Boy Man podcast is for you. 7 00:00:16,830 --> 00:00:17,370 Let's go. 8 00:00:18,510 --> 00:00:20,070 Here's the million dollar question. 9 00:00:20,580 --> 00:00:24,090 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into the men 10 00:00:24,090 --> 00:00:27,440 we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 11 00:00:27,780 --> 00:00:29,580 working, being good husband. 12 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,060 Fathers and still take care of ourselves. 13 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:35,640 That's the question in this podcast. 14 00:00:35,940 --> 00:00:37,230 We'll help you with those answers. 15 00:00:37,230 --> 00:00:40,350 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 16 00:00:40,410 --> 00:00:41,640 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 17 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:43,560 You're home for all things, man, husband, and father. 18 00:00:43,890 --> 00:00:47,250 Big shout out, fallible nation, and a warm welcome to our first time listeners. 19 00:00:47,254 --> 00:00:49,650 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. 20 00:00:50,310 --> 00:00:51,990 Let's face it for being the same species. 21 00:00:51,990 --> 00:00:56,160 Men and women speak two very different languages, and it often gets us in 22 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:57,360 a lot of trouble with our relat. 23 00:00:58,319 --> 00:01:01,739 Communication between the sexist is frustrating because we wanna be on 24 00:01:01,739 --> 00:01:05,530 the same page as our partner, but we usually aren't the majority of 25 00:01:05,530 --> 00:01:09,149 the time saying, am I translating what you're saying accurately? 26 00:01:09,149 --> 00:01:13,920 It's, it's probably a bad idea, but as we get into it, play 27 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:14,820 a game with me for a minute. 28 00:01:14,820 --> 00:01:15,120 Okay? 29 00:01:15,479 --> 00:01:16,710 Just, just play a game with me. 30 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:17,460 Stop. 31 00:01:17,460 --> 00:01:19,800 Write these down as you go, or answer 'em in your head. 32 00:01:20,670 --> 00:01:21,990 Answer a couple questions. 33 00:01:22,649 --> 00:01:25,620 If she says, I don't want your advice. 34 00:01:26,685 --> 00:01:28,245 What's the right response? 35 00:01:30,225 --> 00:01:34,185 If she says, there's no way I'm letting my mom come in and change 36 00:01:34,185 --> 00:01:39,075 things around when she gets here for this party, what's the right response? 37 00:01:39,405 --> 00:01:42,105 Hint damn straight is not the answer. 38 00:01:42,765 --> 00:01:45,435 Just saying number three, guys. 39 00:01:45,675 --> 00:01:49,095 If she says, I'm not sure what to do about my manager, they have 40 00:01:49,095 --> 00:01:50,625 really unreasonable deadlines. 41 00:01:51,735 --> 00:01:52,305 What's the right? 42 00:01:55,265 --> 00:01:59,145 , well, we'll get back to that in a few minutes, but with the onset of custom 43 00:01:59,145 --> 00:02:03,255 AI is I'm out actually out there waiting for SCR to trans to come up with scr 44 00:02:03,755 --> 00:02:05,595 translate for relationships, right? 45 00:02:05,805 --> 00:02:08,985 An app I can pull up on my phone and record the conversation and it 46 00:02:09,514 --> 00:02:11,115 translates it in the moment in real time. 47 00:02:12,225 --> 00:02:14,805 Honestly, it'd probably have to be like the Google Glasses thing, like 48 00:02:14,805 --> 00:02:16,275 an augmented reality kind of thing. 49 00:02:16,275 --> 00:02:16,695 Heads up. 50 00:02:17,595 --> 00:02:21,135 So she didn't realize I was using it all the time, cuz I'm sure that 51 00:02:21,135 --> 00:02:22,125 probably wouldn't be acceptable. 52 00:02:22,125 --> 00:02:24,165 They just say I was being lazy about my relationship. 53 00:02:24,795 --> 00:02:27,795 But in the meantime, what do the rest of us do? 54 00:02:27,795 --> 00:02:28,815 What do, what do we do? 55 00:02:28,815 --> 00:02:30,135 We don't have that app yet. 56 00:02:30,524 --> 00:02:36,704 Well, I got five things gentlemen I wanna share with you that will absolutely help 57 00:02:36,704 --> 00:02:38,475 until we get those Grade A eyes going. 58 00:02:38,714 --> 00:02:39,015 Okay. 59 00:02:39,464 --> 00:02:41,625 So let's start with number one, studying your spouse. 60 00:02:42,525 --> 00:02:45,195 I've done several other shows on understanding your spouse's 61 00:02:45,195 --> 00:02:48,105 love language, the way she thinks, the way she communicates. 62 00:02:48,405 --> 00:02:50,924 And if you aren't willing to put in the time to learn your partner, 63 00:02:51,375 --> 00:02:55,515 then you already failed, and this is a dead end show for you. 64 00:02:55,519 --> 00:02:57,075 So go ahead and click off something else. 65 00:02:57,555 --> 00:02:59,505 I'll put a couple of those shows in the show notes. 66 00:03:00,135 --> 00:03:03,225 If you've started learning your partner, then please keep going 67 00:03:03,225 --> 00:03:04,575 and keep going with this show. 68 00:03:05,024 --> 00:03:07,545 But you're gonna have to put in some base effort. 69 00:03:07,545 --> 00:03:10,725 This is more of an advanced level number. 70 00:03:11,609 --> 00:03:12,630 Tune into the moment. 71 00:03:13,290 --> 00:03:17,730 You will feel fail, feel fail, let's say, if I can say it right, you will fail. 72 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:21,540 Every time you communicate with a woman the moment you are not in the 73 00:03:21,545 --> 00:03:27,480 moment, you have to learn to pause everything and be present, intentionally 74 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:31,350 present in the communication process, or you've already failed. 75 00:03:31,920 --> 00:03:34,110 I know it doesn't seem fair, but that's just how it works. 76 00:03:34,710 --> 00:03:35,730 This will be difficult. 77 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:36,420 Men. 78 00:03:36,420 --> 00:03:38,970 We have to switch gears in our brains. 79 00:03:39,420 --> 00:03:43,680 We have to step into a different place in our minds and be here in 80 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:48,960 this moment, in this time, in this place, and shut out everything else. 81 00:03:49,890 --> 00:03:55,560 You may have a ton going on, but this is what has to happen. 82 00:03:56,070 --> 00:03:58,720 If you want to successfully communicate with your partner, everything 83 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:02,370 gets put on hold because you can't translate what she's saying with 84 00:04:02,370 --> 00:04:04,840 any kind of accuracy, accuracy. 85 00:04:05,895 --> 00:04:07,335 While you're focused on other things. 86 00:04:07,335 --> 00:04:08,325 That's just how it works. 87 00:04:08,475 --> 00:04:09,765 It's just the factual truth. 88 00:04:10,815 --> 00:04:15,015 Sorry, I know some of you wanna multitask, but it's not gonna work in this situation. 89 00:04:15,015 --> 00:04:16,425 So put everything else on. 90 00:04:16,425 --> 00:04:16,845 Stop. 91 00:04:18,045 --> 00:04:19,454 Focus on being in the moment. 92 00:04:19,845 --> 00:04:23,835 Focus on being present in the conversation, and that's where 93 00:04:23,835 --> 00:04:24,705 we're gonna start with this. 94 00:04:25,245 --> 00:04:27,855 Number three, park your fact finder. 95 00:04:28,635 --> 00:04:31,335 Now, some of you are old enough to remember the quote, just the 96 00:04:31,335 --> 00:04:32,685 facts, ma'am, just the facts. 97 00:04:33,719 --> 00:04:35,040 If you aren't, look it up. 98 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:35,520 Google it. 99 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:40,770 The majority of men lean into their fact-based logic thinking pattern. 100 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:45,780 It may excel at some things and act as like a like power break on others. 101 00:04:45,780 --> 00:04:50,850 Sometimes the old concept of left brain logic and right brain creative 102 00:04:50,850 --> 00:04:53,640 artistic has long since been shed, okay? 103 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:56,850 That's not how it actually works, but that's how we kind of 104 00:04:56,850 --> 00:04:58,110 imagine it working a lot of time. 105 00:04:59,159 --> 00:05:00,450 However, the fact that we. 106 00:05:01,665 --> 00:05:05,205 Think more on facts, logic and data hasn't changed. 107 00:05:05,205 --> 00:05:07,035 That's just the way our brains are hardwired. 108 00:05:07,575 --> 00:05:11,175 Not that women don't have those thoughts, but our brain is just hardwired where 109 00:05:11,175 --> 00:05:13,515 that is our, our default response. 110 00:05:14,445 --> 00:05:19,065 Unless she asks you for a databased answer directly, it's not what 111 00:05:19,065 --> 00:05:20,295 she wants you to dwell on. 112 00:05:20,565 --> 00:05:22,005 It's not where she wants your mind. 113 00:05:22,965 --> 00:05:26,655 While there are exceptions for anything, there are some universal truths and 114 00:05:26,655 --> 00:05:30,045 most women are not trying to have a conversation with a database like. 115 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:32,581 It's just not what gets 'em going. 116 00:05:32,586 --> 00:05:35,790 Guys, we aren't far from talking to robots. 117 00:05:35,790 --> 00:05:37,410 In fact, a lot of us live with 'em at our home. 118 00:05:38,250 --> 00:05:39,720 But she can do that if she wants to. 119 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:44,190 She can go talk to Alexa all she wants, but if that's what she wanted, 120 00:05:44,190 --> 00:05:45,360 she wouldn't bother to talk to you. 121 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:47,850 AI is still logic based. 122 00:05:47,850 --> 00:05:52,050 They're getting more creative and more in touch with that, which is sad 123 00:05:52,050 --> 00:05:56,640 cuz robotic AI may be outpacing us on that part, so we better step it up. 124 00:05:57,645 --> 00:05:59,925 If that's what she wanted, she'd be chatting with Alexa or 125 00:05:59,925 --> 00:06:01,935 whatever assistant she has, not. 126 00:06:01,935 --> 00:06:07,725 You lean into the words that articulate feelings, emotion, dreams, 127 00:06:07,725 --> 00:06:12,195 and thoughts of what could be and what's imagined, because that's where 128 00:06:12,195 --> 00:06:13,755 she's gonna be communicating from. 129 00:06:14,085 --> 00:06:16,125 Cuz that's her base and that's okay. 130 00:06:16,155 --> 00:06:17,745 It's just different than what you're used to. 131 00:06:18,855 --> 00:06:25,035 She doesn't wanna know that your coffee is black, Italian, roast dark and piping. 132 00:06:26,340 --> 00:06:30,180 That's not what she's asking When she asks about your coffee, she wants to 133 00:06:30,180 --> 00:06:35,490 know about what memory or thought is stirred as you smell it, why it makes 134 00:06:35,490 --> 00:06:40,860 you smile, how the warmth in your hands makes you feel, how it feels as it 135 00:06:40,860 --> 00:06:45,300 goes down your body and warms you up, and what that inspires in your brain. 136 00:06:46,425 --> 00:06:50,085 Do you drink it black because you always have, or because you found 137 00:06:50,085 --> 00:06:53,325 out that's the way you prefer it, and what's the story behind that? 138 00:06:53,595 --> 00:06:56,715 Or have you never tried other things and she wants to know why you haven't 139 00:06:56,715 --> 00:06:58,665 tried the other ways of having? 140 00:06:58,670 --> 00:07:00,255 Have you tried it every other way you can? 141 00:07:00,705 --> 00:07:03,945 What experience did you have that made you prefer black coffee as opposed 142 00:07:03,945 --> 00:07:05,445 to a latte or something like that? 143 00:07:06,015 --> 00:07:08,055 What's the story behind the choice? 144 00:07:08,355 --> 00:07:10,965 Does it inspire you to greatness as you drink your coffee 145 00:07:10,965 --> 00:07:11,895 and get ready for the day? 146 00:07:11,895 --> 00:07:14,055 Does it make you feel like you're stronger, ready to handle the. 147 00:07:15,344 --> 00:07:19,034 Now if that seems like headache, this is the difference in the way we communicate. 148 00:07:20,565 --> 00:07:22,755 I went to coffee because I understand that, but this is the 149 00:07:22,755 --> 00:07:24,255 difference in the way we communicate. 150 00:07:24,675 --> 00:07:29,325 If I ask you about your coffee, I'm asking, you got sugar and cream in it? 151 00:07:29,625 --> 00:07:31,844 What kind of roast is it hot, cold? 152 00:07:33,405 --> 00:07:36,284 That's not what women are asking guys, and we need to understand 153 00:07:36,284 --> 00:07:38,235 the way they're asking questions. 154 00:07:39,315 --> 00:07:41,145 Versus the way we ask questions. 155 00:07:41,235 --> 00:07:42,435 How well do you sleep at night? 156 00:07:42,555 --> 00:07:45,135 Do you toss and turn and wake up more tired than when you went to bed? 157 00:07:45,645 --> 00:07:48,315 Sleep is commonly one of the critical elements people 158 00:07:48,315 --> 00:07:49,665 fall short on in their life. 159 00:07:49,935 --> 00:07:52,815 The quality of sleep you get directly affects your ability to control 160 00:07:52,815 --> 00:07:56,205 your weight, your ability to add muscle, your stress levels, and your 161 00:07:56,205 --> 00:07:57,945 everyday job and life performance. 162 00:07:58,515 --> 00:08:02,145 If you're ready to move to the next level, the sleep has to be part of the. 163 00:08:03,090 --> 00:08:06,270 Check out our forensic ghost bed.com if you're ready to get your best sleep. 164 00:08:06,330 --> 00:08:07,230 I love my ghost bed. 165 00:08:07,230 --> 00:08:10,270 I've been sleeping on one for a couple years and has made a 166 00:08:10,275 --> 00:08:11,550 huge difference in how I sleep. 167 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:13,080 Hit ghost bed.com. 168 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:17,040 Use the code, the fallible man 30 to get 30% off your order and start 169 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:18,900 getting better night's sleep tomorrow. 170 00:08:19,950 --> 00:08:21,870 Now let's go on to the show. 171 00:08:21,990 --> 00:08:23,820 Number four, listen to your whole body. 172 00:08:24,210 --> 00:08:27,210 Now, I'm not talking about just looking at her when she's 173 00:08:27,210 --> 00:08:28,320 talking, what you should be. 174 00:08:29,865 --> 00:08:33,555 Or even leaning in a level a little, which is good practice to convey that 175 00:08:33,555 --> 00:08:35,445 you're engaged with good body language. 176 00:08:36,525 --> 00:08:40,125 Best estimate suggests over 80% of communication is non-verbal. 177 00:08:40,935 --> 00:08:45,075 There are some, some experts who will argue that up to 93% of the 178 00:08:45,075 --> 00:08:46,665 way we communicate is non-verbal. 179 00:08:46,995 --> 00:08:50,595 Whether it's 80 or 93 is kind of irrelevant, but get it. 180 00:08:50,625 --> 00:08:55,515 Your body reacts when you're listening and when you're communicating in a big way. 181 00:08:55,545 --> 00:08:56,505 That's the base takeaway. 182 00:08:57,840 --> 00:08:59,970 So how does she smell compared to normal? 183 00:09:00,510 --> 00:09:01,800 Now, that's a really advanced thing. 184 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:03,960 You have to understand what your wife smells like all the time, 185 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:05,250 or your partner or whoever. 186 00:09:06,510 --> 00:09:07,380 But guess what? 187 00:09:07,410 --> 00:09:09,310 It changes with emotional reaction. 188 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:10,680 What's her tone? 189 00:09:11,070 --> 00:09:12,510 What's the speed of her communication? 190 00:09:12,510 --> 00:09:13,650 Is her speech pattern chain? 191 00:09:13,980 --> 00:09:14,820 Is she fidgety? 192 00:09:15,420 --> 00:09:17,910 Is she focused or is she looking around? 193 00:09:18,405 --> 00:09:19,814 Or is she making direct eye contact? 194 00:09:20,145 --> 00:09:20,925 Is she sweating? 195 00:09:20,925 --> 00:09:21,645 Is she flustered? 196 00:09:21,645 --> 00:09:22,515 Is she distracted? 197 00:09:22,785 --> 00:09:23,714 Is her skin flushed? 198 00:09:23,895 --> 00:09:25,275 Is she picking at herself? 199 00:09:25,334 --> 00:09:27,525 Is her skin more oily or dry than usual? 200 00:09:27,854 --> 00:09:29,865 Does she seem relaxed or is she uncomfortable? 201 00:09:30,314 --> 00:09:35,775 These are all things that are speaking to you that you need to dial into 202 00:09:35,985 --> 00:09:37,214 and listen with your whole body. 203 00:09:37,584 --> 00:09:40,094 Number five, stay in the moment. 204 00:09:40,694 --> 00:09:44,055 Yeah, I know we talked about being present back in two. 205 00:09:44,954 --> 00:09:47,354 However, this is the follow up because this is important. 206 00:09:47,925 --> 00:09:50,324 You have to stay on the train the whole ride. 207 00:09:51,314 --> 00:09:52,185 Does that make sense? 208 00:09:52,665 --> 00:09:55,905 If you look like you're anxious to wrap it up or you're watching 209 00:09:55,905 --> 00:09:59,385 the time, the conversation's over, she's mad and you have failed. 210 00:09:59,505 --> 00:10:00,435 That's how it works. 211 00:10:01,245 --> 00:10:04,935 This is why it's extremely important to schedule in a regular time to 212 00:10:04,935 --> 00:10:10,245 communicate with your partner and it will help you keep from avoid or it will 213 00:10:10,250 --> 00:10:12,314 help you not fall into this trap, guys. 214 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:15,180 The minute you look like you're trying to get away from it, you're done. 215 00:10:15,180 --> 00:10:16,440 She's done communicating with you. 216 00:10:17,220 --> 00:10:18,840 That's bad, okay? 217 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:22,620 You've got to stay engaged and stay on the train the entire time. 218 00:10:22,620 --> 00:10:23,550 No jumping off Earl. 219 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:28,020 Now, this may seem like a lot, but if you love your partner, if 220 00:10:28,020 --> 00:10:31,830 you love your spouse, then this is the way you need to communicate. 221 00:10:31,830 --> 00:10:35,940 Now, this is good communication habits with anybody, but this is critical when 222 00:10:35,940 --> 00:10:39,600 it comes to a healthy relationship, all of these things will contribute. 223 00:10:40,530 --> 00:10:42,350 So how did you do on the first three question? 224 00:10:43,415 --> 00:10:44,685 I don't want your advice. 225 00:10:45,765 --> 00:10:49,215 This is the, there's no way I'm letting my mom come in and change things around. 226 00:10:50,325 --> 00:10:51,945 I'm not sure what to do about my manager. 227 00:10:51,945 --> 00:10:52,935 They're really unreasonable. 228 00:10:54,345 --> 00:10:56,385 Now, here are the correct responses. 229 00:10:56,655 --> 00:10:59,145 I, I didn't tell you there are actually correct responses. 230 00:11:00,495 --> 00:11:02,295 When she says, I don't want your advice. 231 00:11:03,765 --> 00:11:07,215 The correct response is, it sounds like you would just like be understood. 232 00:11:07,215 --> 00:11:07,815 So let me listen for. 233 00:11:10,095 --> 00:11:12,435 When she says, there's no way I'm letting my mom come in and change 234 00:11:12,435 --> 00:11:13,755 things around for this party. 235 00:11:15,405 --> 00:11:18,075 The correct answer is, you sound pretty determined to establish 236 00:11:18,075 --> 00:11:18,915 some healthy boundaries. 237 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:20,265 How can I help support you? 238 00:11:22,485 --> 00:11:25,095 If she says, I'm not sure what to do about my manager, they really 239 00:11:25,095 --> 00:11:26,835 have unreasonable deadlines. 240 00:11:27,885 --> 00:11:31,305 The correct answer is, sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure 241 00:11:31,305 --> 00:11:35,985 at work now if you landed something close to one of those, right? 242 00:11:35,985 --> 00:11:36,975 Give yourself credit for. 243 00:11:38,025 --> 00:11:39,645 It doesn't have to be those exact words. 244 00:11:40,064 --> 00:11:43,574 And if you didn't land anywhere near that, don't worry. 245 00:11:43,574 --> 00:11:47,084 Hey, I didn't, the first time I got faced with those questions, 246 00:11:47,685 --> 00:11:51,974 like this actually comes out of a workbook from a marriage seminar. 247 00:11:53,025 --> 00:11:55,125 I promise I didn't even come close to the exam. 248 00:11:55,574 --> 00:11:55,875 Okay? 249 00:11:55,905 --> 00:11:59,865 I'm still a work in progress, so don't fret if you didn't land fret. 250 00:11:59,895 --> 00:12:00,584 Is that a good word? 251 00:12:00,854 --> 00:12:02,444 Don't freak out if you didn't get it, guys. 252 00:12:02,474 --> 00:12:04,785 I, like I said, I didn't come anywhere close. 253 00:12:04,964 --> 00:12:05,444 Trust me. 254 00:12:05,594 --> 00:12:06,555 That's how I know. 255 00:12:07,875 --> 00:12:12,074 That first answer of uh, damn straight isn't the right answer. 256 00:12:12,225 --> 00:12:12,465 Okay? 257 00:12:13,035 --> 00:12:14,505 tells you how badly I did that. 258 00:12:15,795 --> 00:12:17,385 It's okay gentlemen. 259 00:12:17,385 --> 00:12:19,064 We gotta update our game. 260 00:12:19,064 --> 00:12:19,995 We gotta just upgrade. 261 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:23,535 If we're gonna have healthy relationships and we gotta step up 262 00:12:23,540 --> 00:12:25,905 our game is cuz that's what we can do. 263 00:12:25,905 --> 00:12:26,725 We can control us. 264 00:12:27,405 --> 00:12:30,135 We can't control anything else, so we gotta fix it on our end. 265 00:12:30,675 --> 00:12:31,815 Try these five things. 266 00:12:32,085 --> 00:12:33,285 Let us know what you think. 267 00:12:33,705 --> 00:12:35,055 Uh, get back with me. 268 00:12:35,055 --> 00:12:36,015 Tell me if this helps you. 269 00:12:36,015 --> 00:12:37,155 Tell me which one you're gonna apply. 270 00:12:37,155 --> 00:12:39,645 I'd love to hear your take on all this. 271 00:12:40,395 --> 00:12:44,925 Now it is Friday, so I want to shout out to one of our listeners, 272 00:12:45,285 --> 00:12:50,025 walk to Wealth Loved Us, an amazing review that says Amazing show. 273 00:12:50,415 --> 00:12:52,185 I'm so glad I came across this show. 274 00:12:52,185 --> 00:12:55,685 I've taken so many actual and practical nuggets of advice to I. 275 00:12:56,235 --> 00:12:57,375 Love tuning in. 276 00:12:57,705 --> 00:12:58,965 Thank you so much guys. 277 00:12:58,965 --> 00:13:02,625 Those, those reviews super help us to reach out to more people. 278 00:13:03,045 --> 00:13:06,465 It helps Apple Podcast know to put us in front of more people and it 279 00:13:06,465 --> 00:13:07,965 helps us just get the word out. 280 00:13:08,385 --> 00:13:10,335 Also, hey, it's not too late. 281 00:13:10,725 --> 00:13:13,365 The Phoenix Conference, guys, it's 38 days away. 282 00:13:13,425 --> 00:13:15,945 Your tickets are still available, virtual and in person. 283 00:13:16,245 --> 00:13:17,685 Join us at the theme conference. 284 00:13:17,685 --> 00:13:19,995 If you like the podcast, wait till you get to the conference. 285 00:13:20,295 --> 00:13:21,075 You're gonna dig it. 286 00:13:21,225 --> 00:13:22,455 It's an awesome experience. 287 00:13:22,665 --> 00:13:23,985 And if you are looking. 288 00:13:25,020 --> 00:13:26,370 To walk side by side. 289 00:13:26,370 --> 00:13:29,699 Maybe you need some help conquering your goals, building a plan, and 290 00:13:29,699 --> 00:13:30,900 seeking the life that you want. 291 00:13:30,900 --> 00:13:32,819 You just need some help getting over a couple hurdles. 292 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:36,870 Reach out to me at www.fman.com/coaching. 293 00:13:36,870 --> 00:13:38,520 Schedule a free discovery call. 294 00:13:38,819 --> 00:13:42,000 See if working with me directly would be good answer for you. 295 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:44,340 If not, I know some other coaches that I could turn you to. 296 00:13:44,880 --> 00:13:48,569 Uh, we just want to help you here at the follow man, as you make that journey as. 297 00:13:49,620 --> 00:13:52,530 Guys, as always, thanks for listening and be better tomorrow because of what 298 00:13:52,530 --> 00:13:53,910 you do today, and we'll see on there. 299 00:13:54,690 --> 00:13:57,180 This has been The Fallible Man Podcast. 300 00:13:57,780 --> 00:14:01,050 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 301 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:04,230 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 302 00:14:05,100 --> 00:14:11,430 Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get 303 00:14:11,430 --> 00:14:12,960 your own Fallible man gear.