Supercharge Your Success: The Power of Positive Habits with Yoni Rios

[00:00:00] You know, whatever you dream of it is possible. I dream of being a professional soccer player, but the life I live right now, it's better than a professional soccer player. And it has nothing to do financially. It's always, it has to be of who I am now, how I'm able to impact people. I coach the youth a lot on the soccer and it's crazy how you're able to impact, and I know for sure, um, I love this country so much that adopted me and to me to serve this country by being a better person, being a better leader.

Brother, father, just, that's the way to honor this country. So I always wanna, you know, um, kind of like preach it, that I just always do your best to be the best version of yourself and create the man you admire. Won't waste another minute. Here's the million dollar question. How do men like us reach our full potential?

Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities. Working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. Well, that's the big question. [00:01:00] In this podcast, we'll help you answer those questions and more. My name is Brent and welcome to the Fable Man podcast.

Welcome to this album, man podcast, your home for all things, man, husband, and father. Big shout out to Fallible Nation. You guys make things like this possible and a warm welcome to our first line listeners. Thanks for giving us a chance. I hope you enjoy the show. My name's Brent, and today my special guest is Entrepreneur Yani Rios.

Yani, welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast, man. Thank you for hosting me, man. It's a, it's an honor. Thank you. Appreciate that. Uh, I'm excited. We're gonna have a great conversation today, Yani, we like to start on the lighter side here, so we have random trivia questions. Okay. Okay. So here's, here's the question.

The show. What does the D in D-Day actually stand for? Is it a domes B, dark C day, or d Dunkirk day? All right. Day is his answer. Now. You guys [00:02:00] know the rules. Don't cheat. Don't go look it up. I know it's tempting. Don't pause the show, just play our little game and, uh, we'll get back to this at the end of the show.

Now, Yani, I don't do huge introductions because it just really, I, I get to research you guys and. Accolades don't mean anything to our audience. So, in your own words today, right now, who is Janni Rios? Uh, um, you know, this, uh, kind of like a young guy who just, uh, you know, I wouldn't say beat the odds, but definitely beat the trajectory that was planned, uh, as a young, um, as a young adult.

Um, someone who, who's definitely been through, through some type of adversity and through perseverance, it's, uh, you know, it definitely overcame certain, but I genuinely feel like I'm just getting started. Jan is just getting started on this career path, but there's been, there is a lot of other guys, man, specific, they can't use this light that I.

Been through. And that's the purpose behind this, [00:03:00] to just kind of pay it forward, um, as it is in my belief that the, another way of learning it again is by teaching it. So, um, that's why we're on this mission. Okay. Now, if you could have any superpower, what would it be and why? Uh, to eat and not gain weight.

Ooh, that would be a good superpower. I like that. Yeah, to, I, I love pizza, man, but I can only do pizza, like very rare because those carbs, man, they're hard. They're so hard to break down. I'm an ice cream guy, dude. I just, I almost can't control myself. It's, oh, no, I'm with you. Yeah, I'm with you. Uh, weekends it used to be like every weekend and, you know, we just like, sweet.

So I think that would be my superpower. Okay. Okay. Now if, let's see, if you could have dinner with anybody past, present, wherever that are alive, who would it be and why? [00:04:00] Kobe. Kobe. Kobe. Yeah. Hands out Kobe. He, um, he, uh, his, his, his brain operated in a very simple way, but at the same time, um, the simple seems very hard nowadays.

I had the opportunity to go to a, to go to seven or met him picture with him. But, um, it's just, it's just, just, just the way he simplifies everything. Um, Just, just his ethics and, you know, and, um, what is this say? There's a saying that says like, uh, you can only see, you can only see further in the, in, in the shoulders of giants.

So sometimes we need that giant so they can help us see further. So for sure, for sure. Him just, I read most of his books, um, and I know like as a young teenager, 13, 14 on like summer leagues mm-hmm. There's one summer league that he talks about that he didn't score a single point of the whole season. So, um, just to kind of like, when you're growing up a [00:05:00] certain way, it doesn't mean that's gonna be the finish line, right?

That like, you can change everything and according to your habits and your choices, and we, most of us know what his habits and choices work, which is work ethic. Okay. What purchase of a hundred dollars or less have you made in the last year that's had the biggest impact on your life? Books. Books? Yes. Any one specific, or in the last year you said?

Mm-hmm. Um, never finished. David Goggins. Okay. Yeah. David Goggins inspires a lot of people. Yeah. I read, uh, I read both of his books. Um, and I go frequently on runs, which is like a five 10. The max I ever done is a 30 mile run multiple times. Mm-hmm. Um, It just, it just kind of like, honestly, he does bring that little, like, extra push out of you.

Um, and sometimes we need that, right? Um, for him it's more of a physical form, but we can translate that in, in anything as a, as a, as a role, as a father, [00:06:00] as a, you know, as an employee, as an entrepreneur, as a, as a colleague, you know, there's always room in attack. There's always right. Um, so, and it's, it's kind of like, I love like the whole mindset and I mean, if you guys know his story, the way he was raised, how he saw his stepfather get killed, his best friend, get run over, it's just crazy.

And to see who he is now, it's like, dude, um, you know, so definitely he, he definitely inspired me a lot. Okay. And I think those books are like 10, 15 bucks. Oh yeah. No, they're, they're very reasonable. Uh, I find a lot of people like a book, is it? Right? But there's usually that one that's just like, you know, I've read a lot of books, but this, this one, this one was just it.

Right? And, and I think that, yes, as we go through phases of our life, as we grow, as we mature, as we experience different things, parts of our life, we, we identify with that book. It's like, this one always knew me, but in this season of my life, this one right. So there is no wrong answer. [00:07:00] I just always like to give our audience something.

It's like, what? What made an impact on you that they can try, right? Mm-hmm. So, yeah, so I think, I think just going back to the Goggins, I think Goggins is, especially when I'm in a run, because I, I apply it to my run, right? That you can go that extra mile. You can go like, so that's why I do that. But definitely there's been, uh, I share quite a few of 'em on my Instagram, my stories, uh, and there's been quite a handful that have kind of like Twitch life and it's one Twitch that you do and they can just make the most impact in your life.

Um, and there's few of those that I, that I always recommend. What are you most proud of at this point in your life? What I'm most proud of? Um,

that I've, uh, changed the narrative of the, of the story. How, how I was supposed to go, um, as a felon at 18. Father at 20 undocumented, immigrant at two [00:08:00] years old? Um, I don't think, uh, I don't think I had the, the, I honestly, I was thinking about it earlier when I went for my food that I don't think that, I thought that current life, and it's not a financial life.

It's the, this, the who I am now. This was a dream. Like it was, it was just a dream. I could never see it happening. So I think I am very proud of who I become. Okay. What is one, just random fact that people dunno about you, what is one random fact that I, people don't know about it? Um, that I fall asleep.

Like easy, like it takes me like a minute to just lay down and I'm. Blacked out, like I am blacked out. Ooh, that's a gift. I like that. Yeah, like every, some people I hear like, oh, I can't have trouble C I was like, oh man, I don't have T trouble C at all. Like most of the time it takes me one minute concentrate on my breathing and then I to remember what happened.

What is something that [00:09:00] everyone should know about you before we get into today's subject matter? Um. That, um, values and morals to me matter more than anything. Uh, morals your principles, your values. That's what I stand for. And one of my main that I kind of stand for, that I stand for is my word and being impeccable with my word.

Um, and that's what everyone knows. So if everyone, if, if we make appointments and we're gonna be here today, At two 30, I'm gonna be here at two 30. I don't need reminders. That's my word. Okay. And guys, we've been spending just a few minutes this morning or today on the show, getting to know Yani a little bit, uh, because the people we talk to here on the show are real people.

They're you and me, they're fathers, husbands, their men. Are trying to live their best lives, and it's important that you understand who they are and where they're coming from. In the next part of the show, we're [00:10:00] gonna drive into Yanis story then. Now Yoni's got a very compelling story and I'm not gonna mess with that.

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In this moment, in this [00:11:00] part of the show, we're gonna dive into Yoni's story. Yani has an amazing story. I. About his life and I want him to just share that with you. There is so much. I'm not gonna interrupt at this point. I'm gonna let him talk about it a little bit and then I'm gonna ask some questions before we go to the next part of the show.

But I want him to just be able to share his story 'cause it moved me and I think it's gonna move you share with us. Yeah. Um, so at this, uh, point in my life, 34 years old, I live in, uh, closely downtown la. Um, you know, I'm very proud of, uh, being a Mexican immigrant. My parents brought me at a very young age.

At this point, we run a pretty successful trucking and brokerage company as well as, uh, real estate wholesaling and flipping houses. It's all cool. It's all fun. It, it is actually, um, I always say in my social media, I'm living my dream life and it's not. Because of the money. It's more because, uh, uh, like, because we, to do this, we don't have to do this, do this, we [00:12:00] to go to work.

We don't have to go to work. Although we have to, we gotta pay the bills. But we see it from that perspective. Um, but not, none, not everything was like this. Right At uh, um, I always liked sports. I got, uh, my discipline and mindset got kind of like, Uh, lit up through sports, through the competitiveness of wanting to win.

And, um, but there's that fine line of like winning and, you know, confidence and arrogance. So I was very, I was pretty talented in the soccer space and I pursued my career. Um, you know, I. Playing a little bit professional in Mexico and, uh, and, uh, but you know, it's that, it's that, um, you know, when you give too much talent to the right people and it would take it to the wrong places.

And I was hanging around with the wrong crowd and I ended up, uh, driving a car that I wasn't supposed to be driving. Got it. Uh, hit and run and I almost, uh, uh, murdered, uh, a lady. Unfortunately, she, no, unfortunately she did not pass away. Um, so I got at 18 years old, incarcerated with a hit and run felony.

Um, as well as attempted murder. Um, I was [00:13:00] released not, you know, had to serve a little bit of time. Um, I was, um, put under, um, formal probation for five years. Um, I was still, you know, I had to end my career 'cause I had to serve my time as well as my commuter service. Um, And, uh, I had to pay, uh, 58,000 of restitution fee to this victim that I couldn't pay at the time, but we had to get on a payment plan.

Um, I was still kind of like, you know what, what do they say when things, uh, things don't get any better? They have to get worse so they could get better. So, um, you know, just kind of like found from when balancing from job to job. And, uh, I had one of the blessings, I think, like God said, Hey, um, you're under, um, You're kinda like being very responsible.

The only way so we can help you man up and become a better person is to make you a father. So now I was like a very responsible teen at 19 years old and my girlfriend at the time was pregnant. At 20 years old, I became a father and that's when my life changed. And I don't encourage [00:14:00] anyone when you're under a lot of pressure to have a kid.

But that's, we kind of did it for me. Um, I became a father at 20 years old. Um, uh, at a little bit over a year. Me and my girlfriend at the time, my, my son's mom, we split. So it was, it was a lot of pressure. Um, my financials were, were very, very bad. Um, but it was that light that gave me, it gave me that source of responsibility.

1. Um, and yeah, I mean, I became a father and my mission from there was just being a good father. That's really my mission, what it was. And, uh, to this day I've, I see my son grow. He's, he's, he's 13, uh, 13, almost gonna be 14 years old in August. And that was kinda like the light because I wanted to be a responsive, a father, not be, not that my, not that my father wasn't there for me 'cause he was always, always there for me, but he was always busy.

So my goal was to be present for my son. Um, you know, you fast forward a little bit after we have. Great relationship with my son. Um, 2013, we launched our company family business with some close friends. Um, we launched it [00:15:00] until today we're still in business, um, in a and know, but every face of your life has, uh, has a flat toe, right?

We went on, we did pretty well. And then after two, three years, you're still stuck. So you have to do something different. And then you do that for another two, three years, stay stuck. You have to do something different. So every year we've been changing, um, and it's been through, through, um, raising your self-awareness.

And through. And by raising your self-awareness is when you are able to eliminate certain relationships, certain habits, and better choices to become the man you admire. So the goal and my purpose in life is to become the man I admire. And every year it changes because every year certain things I give more priority to priority to than other things at the moment.

And you know, at the, there was a face in my life where like, Bar hopping and drinking weekly and stuff like that because, um, that was, I mean, that was a priority. Now it's not. Now it's like every day doing my best, becoming closer to man. I admire and just be present when my [00:16:00] being present with my son, with my family.

And just, just kind of like I have a saying, if you, it doesn't bring me, uh, closer to my goals. It doesn't help me make money. It doesn't bring me peace of mind. I don't want, I don't wanna know about it. So I'm very, very careful with my time. And going back to my mission statement, my mission statement is, I accomplished a few goals that I've never in my million, never in my life that I imagined.

It was just a dream, honestly, those things that I imagined it, they were just so far away. They were a dream. And, and, and. Through the man I became, I, I accomplished these things. So now I want to just pay it back forward and tell people, like if an ordinary guy from Huntington Park, California was able to break these bad habits by breaking, by, making better choices and better, um, and creating better habits, better relationships, anybody can do it.

And, um, English was my second language, my Spanish. First language is Spanish. Um, you know, just a regular kid playing soccer every day. I was not a bad kid. I was actually a pretty good kid. I [00:17:00] graduated with a, with a decent, uh, 3.8 g p a. I did the ceremony speech in front in my high school, but if an ordinary, like I was actually a good kid who just made a wrong choice.

Um, and it could happen to all of us. And, and it could be you that you've made a lot of right bad choices, but this, you can also turn your life around. But it, you got it. Dig deep, dig deep and want to change. You kind of, you don't have to kind of wanna change. You really have to have that burning desire to change.

So that's why I'm Yani. I, I was looking into your stuff before the show is true. Is it true you're almost legally blind? Yes. Um, and I was about 20, I've been using glasses since I was like, I don't know, like 11. Um, about eight years ago I got, um, diagnosed with a cer, a certain condition, which is called Keratoconus.

Um, it's a very unique condition. It happens to one, every three or 500,000, but it's a very unique condition. So it's when your iPod starts, like popping out, sort of like. [00:18:00] Like this. So it starts like that. Um, one of the, or I think orthopedic doctor told me that, that I could be going, like not seeing anything for five years.

Um, um, I got really, really sad and I. Depressed for like two days. I didn't really, I was like, well, you know, but if I'm gonna c for five years, well I'm gonna make more it. Right? Um, so I just kind of patted myself in the back and I continued to work and I, and I researched this, uh, really good doctor, um, here in la, the best in the world.

Um, and it just happens to be very, very expensive. So my goal was just to get surgery about six, seven years ago. I did three surgeries on my eyes, um, and I had negative 12 and negative nine on the other, on the other, and they improve a 50%. And now I can drive, I, you know, I can live a regular life. With glasses, of course now I don't, 'cause I don't need it for a short distance, need it for long distance.

Um, and then I just saw him about three months ago and [00:19:00] there's technology's advancing, so, um, I'm gonna get another surgery. So yeah, I, at one point I was legally blind. I, and it's, it's, it's really, and it, I just come back to like, everything lives in your mind. And I did get pretty sad for two days, probably less.

And, you know, my, my, my dad's just patted back, patted myself in the back, cheer up. You always figured it out. And. You know, like we figured it out right now. Your start was a little rough for a lot of people. Right? There are a lot of things to overcome just listening to your story. A lot of setbacks along the way, but today is a very different life.

You've built a very successful business. Our two or three at this point. Uh, I don't know how you structure your organization, so I don't know if they're all under one corporation or split up. No, they're different. Yeah. You've built several success businesses. Right. And you're taking care of your life and living a better life that you want to live on your terms.

Correct. [00:20:00] So, you know, guys, huge takeaway is where you start is not where you're stuck. You, you could have thrown up the towel at any point, right? Correct. You, you could have been like, oh, this sucks. I'm screwed. Life's against me. I, I'm, I'm, screw it. I'm just gonna, you know, get by and not do this. I'm not gonna try.

But you stuck with it. You're, you credit that to your soccer and your sports background, where that hard work mindset comes in. Absolutely. I think that every kid should play a sport, play an instrument, anything that has adversity because we're forced. Me as a soccer player, you were forced through play, through adversity.

You were the underdog a lot of times in your career, and it's through you build that, that, that mindset of doing it. Already. [00:21:00] So we already did that. Like I was the underdog, like big deal. Right? Um, I don't know. Like I was, at least at one point you're like the. Worst team. Your the worst player on the team, hard work.

And you become that starter and the, you take their bread and that's really how life is. Because if you translate it to the new, you are the new guy at the, at the job. So you know, people, you know, they're probably gonna give you a hard time, you know, and it's your hard work, your ethics, being on time, doing your best, not taking anything personal.

Keep being impeccable with your word, that's just gonna get you to the line. And it's like through sports, you're like, dude, I kind of remember this. I, and, and I see it in, in, in my son. He was like the worst player of his, of his team. And now he's like, he, and then he excelled to be the best player of his team.

He got recruited and then he got recruited and it's like, dude, you see? So that's why I see like every kid should play a sport, but, you know, and, and because it te it teaches, it teaches them that, that, that, that mindset of like, okay, I can be better. I can, and then you're, you know, and, and, and, Honestly, [00:22:00] you, um, you learn from your losses.

I don't think you learn from your wins. You learn from adversity. You learn like, damn, this relationship, I could have done this better. You know, there's a few games that, uh, Pete Carroll, what he threw that one game away, that one play that changed everything you learn from. So I think that you learn through adversity and as an athlete or you play an instrument, maybe you mess up on a certain note and you just learn from there.

So, um, I think that it is, I think everyone should be facing adversity at one point. So there should always be. And then when you translate it into real, into the real world, like into, into, into your circle of influence, if your circle of influence is not putting you under pressure, you, you need a better pawn, you need a better relationship.

They get. Force you to be there. If you are like, what do they say? If you're the smartest kid in the room, you're in the wrong room. You need, you need, you need dudes that would help you elevate yourself. And I tell people through my coaching program, I'll drag your ass across the finish line because I don't, and, and, and if you [00:23:00] don't, you know, if you're not, yeah, I'll drag your ass for the first, you know, few months.

But then after, you know, you gotta pick up. And now it's your, it's your responsibility to help the other people. But at the same time, you gotta make some time to come and spend it with us, because we're gonna force you to elevate yourself. Um, but yeah, it's all through sports. It's all through sports. What do they say?

You, um, um, you, you're the average of the five people you spend the most around time. So, you know, you're, that's it. So I really believe every kid should play a sport instrument, marching band, I don't know, something that has some type of adversity and, and, and a little bit of competitiveness. It's, it's a different, to choose adversity is a different kind of mindset, but we're gonna get more into that in the next part of the show, guys.

We've been getting to know Yoni's story a little bit, right? He, he did not start with easiest life, but he chose to make something with himself and knows that anybody can do that. In the next part of the show, we're gonna talk about the mindset that got [00:24:00] him there and what that looks like and how you can build that same mindset to take you from anywhere you are to where you want to go.

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Adam will take care of you. I guarantee it. I trust him. He's my friend, he's my business colleague, and I wouldn't trust anybody else with my show. All right guys, welcome back. In the last part of the [00:25:00] show, we were finding out who. Yani, where was as far as where he came from, his backstory, the life he's lived and where he is now, because there are very different places from where he started, and of course he worked to get there.

In this part of the show, we're gonna talk about mindset, because mindset really is critical for you taking those steps to make your life what you want it to be. Now Yanni was, have you always had a growth mindset or was that something you learned as you went? How did, how did you get started on that path of going, you know what, it's my future and I'm gonna take control of it.

Do what I'm gonna do. Uh, no, I never, I, I had the competitiveness in me, but I never had that, that growth mindset. It wasn't until I was probably seven years ago, you know, that I wanted to win. You know, you had the competitiveness in it. But I'm like, you know what? It's gonna take something different for me to, if you gotta do something different, if you want a different outcome, or if not, [00:26:00] that's insanity.

So, um, I used to go like to seminars, like mindset seminars. I went to Tony Robbins, I went, you know, to a few of them. And, and it, it wasn't until like, dude, you don't know anything. Like, you're not even, no, like, like there's just so much more to grow. And then I started, I, I read, um, several, I like to read, right?

So I read several books. I started picking up. Positive habits. Um, and, and, and that just kind of like it, it became a right to me. I read the book, the Richest Man of Babylon. Um, being in the, in, in a kind of minority, we're just used to spending Mexicans. We party every weekend. I don't party every weekend, but we have a way to celebrate everything like, People do gender reveals now, like that's crazy, right?

People find a way to, so I used to, you know, save a couple thousand dollars. I was waiting for the next event so I could spend it. So I learned to detach from the money after reading that book. And then I started investing a little bit. First property that we bought, it was like six, seven years ago. Um, so that, that [00:27:00] became, and then I started doing, just kind of like working on myself, going to the gym and it just started.

Getting a little better. Um, and then I started, you know, success leaves clues. There's several books, um, out there now. There's very good podcasts such as this one that you can get clues. So I started picking up out of successful people and um, as I said before, Kobe's one of the athletes and people that made the most impact on his world to me.

So he worked out at four in the morning. So I just wanted to be like Kobe to be honest. So I started go to the gym. At four in the morning, about six, seven years ago, and through applying these small habits, I, I just started getting better, better results, but my mindset wasn't that strong. So whenever I have like certain temptations to go out Bart hop stuff, like they will, um, I will kind of deviate from that.

But I understood that. Let's just say I, I went out with my boys and I drank, and the next day I was sluggish. I didn't, I didn't go back to my morning routines or my journaling or, you know, my. My morning [00:28:00] ritual, which I call My Miracle Morning from another book. So, um, I understood that these habits were making me feel a certain way.

The positive of habits and then neg negative habits were holding me back from my positive ones. So slowly I started eliminating certain habits from my life and it just started to. I was feeling better, I was performing better. I was a better father. By being a better father. You can only be a better father if you take care of yourself, your health, your soul, your spirit, like being a better you.

So that's how you perform being a better father, a better son, a better spouse, a better a boss worker, whatever you want to call it, but just being a better you. Um, and, and it, it just applying better habits and that's really how it kind of went about. And it be, it became a. Addicting. I've been journaling for seven, eight years.

I don't know. I have a stack, like maybe like this higher, this high that I don't miss. I journal every single day of the things that I'm grateful for because the secret to a, a. Gratitude is a secret to a great attitude. So [00:29:00] every day I'm journaling, what am I grateful for? The things, the three things that made me happy in the last 24 hours.

My financial affirmations and my being affirmations. And I just started being, started believing these things and they all came through positive habits. So that's how I build that mindset. And, and you know, the crazy thing that. Everyone can do it. These are not it. The thing with these positive habits, these, these good habits, they're so simple that if I told everyone how simple they are, they wouldn't do it.

They would think that I'm, I'm crazy and I genuinely believe. It's through my journaling. I. That it, that it helped me become who I am. Now, I'm not attached to the journal, but I know for a fact that that's my, that's my space where I feel like myself, four morning journaling, I don't get phone calls.

There's no temptations that everyone's asleep, and then I'm just to myself and I, that's the time that I'm able to just dedicate to myself. So, um, I really believe that's what helped me. The, the, the building positive habits. Okay. As, as a coach and [00:30:00] a, and a personal trainer, I, I'm right there with you with the whole, I, I can tell you how to do this, but it's gonna be really simple and you're just gonna blow me off because some of the most powerful things you do are just little, very easy, very reachable things.

But you tell somebody that and they're like, yeah, whatever. I'm gonna go find another coach. You suck. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It, it's, it's, it's, it's just so simple and, and sometimes we lack that accountability partner. I'm that type of coach that I will tell 'em off sometimes a little rude. But we need that, like, we need that, like now it's like we're, we're, we're in this new era that we're disrespecting everyone.

Like generally, um, I'm gonna, can I cuss a little bit? Yeah. Okay, so, um, I was gonna run a half a marathon about three, four months ago. My son's 13 and. I just told him, Hey, I'm gonna go run half [00:31:00] a marathon. You gonna run it or you gonna bitch out? He's like, have I ever bitched out? I was like, alright, let's run it.

So we ran a half a marathon, you know, so in other people, the way I said that, they were like, oh, that's disrespectful. You can't, it's like, no, I. I want my son to hear these things. There's a time and a place, right? Because when they hear shit for the first time, they won't even say the word shit, even if it fits in their mouth because, you know, you could, fuck, you can, I'm sorry.

You can, uh, you know, hurt some people's feelings and stuff. Like, no, like, this is real life stuff. Um, you know, I, I, I detour a little No, no, it's fine. I, I, I've been lifting for years and it always. When I interact with people, I'm, I'm very choosy about clients. I don't work with anybody who wants to work with me.

I'm very choosy about clients and like, I'll, I'll kind of like, I basically interview people. It's like, we'll see, oh, I'm gonna hire no. We'll see if I'll work with you. That's, it's not your hiring me. We'll see if I'll [00:32:00] work with you. Yeah. And the amount of people who are just like, well, you know, I'll ask 'em about their workout routine.

They got all these little. All over the place exercises and all these little, oh, when I do this first, like, why, why do you do that variation? Okay. I, I wouldn't even discount that you do it. But why do you do that variation? Why does, why does that help you? Okay, so why don't you do this? Which would do the same thing?

Well, what, right. I'm, I'm very big into just, you know, there are, if you want to get strong, there are just some core basic lifts you have to do, period. If you wanna get super strong, there are just some core basic movements you have to do. And they also happen to reflect in just like life movements and people, it's the same thing.

There are some core, basic things you have to do if you wanna be your best self, right? You gotta take care of yourself. Health, you gotta get enough sleep, right? You, you've got to drink water, continue to put into yourself. You gotta [00:33:00] drink water, right? You gotta keep feeding the mind. There's certain things you have to do.

You tell people that and they're like, yeah, okay. I was actually talking with a colleague of mine before this call. Him and I just catching up. He's another podcaster and I was telling him, I said, you know, I know I knew for years. I knew the neuroscience behind it, and I heard like Dr. Andrew Huberman talk about it.

But you know, sunlight, water movement and fresh air first thing in the morning are just game changers for how I feel the rest of the day. And I've known that for a long time. But it wasn't until my daughter and I recently did a. 50 mile Road mark Challenge and we were getting up every day and going walking a couple miles a day with weight on our backs.

But the only time I have open is early morning. Correct. And so it was like I just got up and drank a little bit of water before we hit the road, took some water with us and then it's a couple miles of movement, fresh air and sunshine. And I was like, I knew [00:34:00] it. I knew it made a difference, but it was like, Okay, now I can't pretend it doesn't anymore.

Like I just kept just like, no, I don't really wanna justify doing that, but I, I couldn't deny it anymore. It's like, okay, I really feel better when I start my way that day, that way. Yeah. It's real simple, but I super simple. I, um, there's that book The Miracle Morning by How Harold mm-hmm. Guy, guy almost died right.

Twice. Um, and. It really goes like, own your morning. Own your life. I'm super inspired by owning your morning, because that's the hardest thing, uh, to do. Um, at least for me, I wake up at 3 45, 3 30, depending on a day. Right. And doing that thing, doing my journal, my prayer, my meditation, my workout, whether it's a workout or a run.

And I do, I I integrated cold showers, right? I was like, I'm. I'm doing stuff that 99% of the population will not do. So by default you get 99% of the results that people will not get. You know, [00:35:00] I'm trained, like I always speak, I, when I speak to, like, I'm, I'm, I'm doing, I'm prepared to like, You think like a phone call would scare me that I'm prospecting a client?

No, that's easy. Like I took a shower, cold shower at four in the morning. Like that was tough. This is easy, like prospecting. This is just easy, right? Getting in front of a camera. This is easy. No, try try getting a workout. So my, my goal this year is to get my mile under six minutes. It is just because that was my best, uh, it was, it was actually under five minutes, my best mile.

But I'm like, I just want to get to under six minutes. And I'm at, uh, I'm like at 6 50, 6 45. It's my best one, but like, I just want to, you know, do, do some something hard, something tough. Like that's how we. You just elevator you feel good. Um, and I don't know who I heard it from, but someone told me you never seen someone who just did a good workout at a gym, come out disappointed.

It's like you come out of the gym so pumped like [00:36:00] hell yeah, I'm ready to, you know, own this day. And what better way to do it in the morning so you could dictate the pace of the day. Oh yeah. No, I, I'm not quite, I, you know, I've, I've done the research on cold showers and I know. They have value and I just, I, I tried it a couple times.

I just, it's like, no, it's, it's tough. The shower has always been like my refuge. That's where I, I go, I turn on a hot shower because I've broken my back twice. So I, I, I go and turn on a hot shower to kind of soothe the muscles a little bit. Usually I'm sore from whatever workout I did two days before or whatever.

And so, but that's my place where I stop and I breathe and I think, and I pray, and, and, and the idea of turning that into cold water, it's just, yeah. It, I mean, I did it, I did it during the winter. Mm-hmm. Um, and I, I did like ice baths, which was a little, like tougher in the winter. I can do ice. [00:37:00] That's what I was gonna tell you because the ice bath is good for the muscles.

Right. It's really good for the muscles. Mm-hmm. But, um, you know, I just started, honestly, I just, I just kind of got bored and I was like, dude, I need something tough. And I was like, let me just do co cold showers. And, uh, I'm, uh, I just been, uh, I did it for a whole year, like two years ago, then I kind of stopped.

You get a little comfortable. I went back to it and now I'm like 90 day, 90 days in. You do, uh, have you tried Tough Muds or Spartan races? No, you, you, oh, I've never done them. I, I was going to, but my son had a tournament, did that weekend, and so I didn't have, but I wanna do a Spartan race at 14. He can start doing the adult Spartan races with you at 14?

Yeah. Okay. At 14 he can do, I, I think you have to be 15 or 16 to do his mother, but at 14 you can start having the, because my, my daughters run the kids races and I run the adult races. Oh, nice. But, uh, at 14, I think he can start doing the adult races with you, but they're very different events. Spartan [00:38:00] races, the obstacles are designed to kind of wear down.

Either your grip or, uh, your leg strength or, or each obstacle is designed to break something down. Okay? Whereas tough mud is very flamboyant. Obstacles, like just over the top insanity. Uh, there's one called the Arc Enema where you slide into a giant ice tank and then have to like duck under a wall in the middle of it and then wage your way out.

Uh, there's shock therapy, a couple thousand volts coming down, just wires hanging out. You gotta run through it. So, oh, snap. Yeah. It's, it's very extreme obstacles. Instead of trying to break you down physically, it's most of us breaking you down mentally. Yeah. Yeah. So they're, they're both worth doing. But since you like, adversity, adversity, there you go.

Right there. Yeah. I, I, I think I am, I think I am, I, I, I, I wanna have one of my close friends, he, whenever I want to go, like on a, Long run, I don't know, 10, 15 miles. Mm-hmm. He'll always roll with me. And about three months ago I was [00:39:00] like, dude, I need some excitement in my life. Let's go run until like, I snap.

I think his, his, his, he almost ripped the ligament at like mile 22. I did 30 and I was, I was like, and I was just so worn out next day I couldn't walk. I was like a mummy, but that was just a satisfaction that I needed and a lot of people think I'm crazy now. I was like, What makes you think this is not fun to me, like, honestly, this is really fun to me.

Like I'm like, I enjoy, and I live in California, so I get to go to the beach and run through the, through the, through the strand on the beach. Like this is living, like, I don't even know how this is life. That's what I always look back and I'm like, dude, like I was supposed to be behind bars right now.

This is, this is like, luckily the lady pat lived, right? But if not, I was supposed to be behind bars and I wouldn't have seen of that. So I'm living my dream life every day. Yani. Let's, uh, we'll get focused here for a minute 'cause I'm just enjoying the conversation. And see, I told you, if I get too far off my questions, I'm in trouble.

You've, you've developed this mindset and you [00:40:00] develop these habits and we talk about, uh, mindset and habits here a lot on this show because you're right. So many people, like, I can give you these, these positive habits and so many people are like, really? You want me to drink more water? Okay, lemme go talk to a coach who actually knows something, right?

They don't understand the value of these basic things, but you've built this growth mindset, you've built the structure, these habits that just help you keep getting better, keep moving the direction you want to go. So when you're working with people, right? For, for our audience, how do they walk away from the show?

What are, what are the first three steps they can implement to start their journey forward if, if this is resonating with them, Where do they start? 'cause I found a lot of people, that's the biggest catch for them, right there is there's so much out there. Most people just have no idea where to get started at.

Okay. I think, um, I don't think, I believe everyone [00:41:00] applies this, your life will change forever. You, like you can totally hire a coach, but if you just apply yourself to doing the following, you'll change your life for long, for forever. Own your morning, own your life. You get a routine and your morning. Uh, and it has to be a little bit physical movement, whether it's a walk, stretch, yoga, gym, whatever you want.

Um, I believe that, uh, uh, gratitude is a secret to a great attitude. So journal. You should journal. Um, I believe in a higher power and I, you know, I hope so. I hope everyone does too. So just pray. Be grateful that you got another day. Um, just so journaling a workout, just meditation. Be in space with yourself, you know, put the phone down.

Be in space with yourself. Learn how to just value a love yourself for who you are today. So that's, that's like the first to start, stay committed, do for 90 days minimum. If you're able to build that habit of doing something for a 90 day blitz, you can definitely do 60. You can, I'm sorry, you could do, you could do six months, which is 180 days, but you [00:42:00] cannot get to six months if you can't do 90 days.

So just start small. 90 days. How do you break a bad habit? You know, by applying a, a, a good habit. So, you know, in order to like, stop doing that snooze, just cannot wake up on time. It's really not that hard. Just wake up on time. There's that three second rule, right? A five second rule, I'm sorry, by male robins.

5, 4, 3, 2, 1 we're up. So I really believe that. Next, make a list of the people that you surround yourself the most. The people you text with the most. Are they serving you? Are they providing value for you, or are they, or are they taking energy from you? If these people are taking energy from you, if every time you text call or something, it's always like a gossip or something negative that doesn't influence you.

That doesn't help you or your family. Those are the people you just wanna like, I wouldn't say cut ties, but you know, you just not give 'em as much time. And then the people that are constantly serving that are pushing you, you know, Hey, they'll share you a podcast here and there. I was like, oh, did you this?

Oh look, this is a good opportunity to might invest. These are the people you might wanna surround yourself a little bit more, [00:43:00] so for sure cutting your circle of influence. 'cause if they're not serving you, they're, they're costing you, they're costing you time and peace of mind. So own your morning, own your life.

And these are the next one, being impeccable with your word. If you say you're gonna do something, you do it. You just deliver being impeccable with your word. Always do. Always do your best. I way, way more respect Janitor who works long hours full-time, always doing his best than a stock, than compared to a stock broker in Wall Street who half-assed through, through his job.

I respect people who always do your best regardless of their profession. And then you learn. You develop that mindset, that habit of. Always doing your best regardless of the position or title that you hold. Never take anything personal. A lot of the times if we say something, I was like, Hey, that sweater looks really bad on you.

A lot of the times it's their opinion and you can't really, um, it takes so personal, whatever they project, and a lot of the times, most of the bad feedback is whatever their. Battling in their inner world. [00:44:00] So never take anything personal and do not make assumptions. Do not make assumptions that these habits will not work for you.

Do not make assumptions that the life that you wanna live is not work for you. So just, just always do your best. Stay positive, stay consistent, stay committed, and then always remember why you, you know, why you got started. You started to be a better you. And, um, we're started. And the, the, the, the way that I tell everyone who I coach, we're creating the man you admire today.

And it starts by these habits. What's, what's next on the Jennifer Yani Rios? What? What's the next project coming up? Next? Uh, well, the goal, the, the goal financially, um, you know, I want to just, I had a lot of bad investments through this whole recession that happened. I sold 'em almost all. So I'm getting ready to buy more investments, have two new, two new deals in escrow.

I'm growing my, uh, my trucking company. We're becoming very virtual. If, you know, you've probably heard of virtual assistants. So we're, we're doing a lot of the virtual stuff, uh, across sea. So that's, that's taking off, [00:45:00] um, in the real estate space. You know, like I, I delegated a lot of, like, I had a. Overload of projects, uh, and be careful what you wish for.

And I wish for making a million dollars a year and I made it, but I didn't know it was gonna come with a lot of work responsibilities and headaches. So, um, I just, I just started to, and I call it cut, uh, cutting all the fat. So cutting all the projects that were. Baby profitable or slightly profitable, or costing me a lot of peace of mind, so cutting everything and slowly, slowly getting back into the cash flow.

The goal for me, personal goal is a hundred thousand a month in PA and positive cash flow through my real estate business, um, and as well as matching it with my coaching business. Um, so that's what's next and impact as many people's lives. I know if I genuinely do it outta heart, if I speak, um, just kind of like my, my, my experience, people will get some value.

And by default, by doing my best, God in the universe will bless me to whatever I deserve, and I know I deserve a lot. All right. What's the best place for people [00:46:00] to find you? Instagram, uh, for sure. I'm pretty, I'm, I'm pretty active. Instagram, I just, uh, we just hired a new like, uh, content creator and we're doing like very nice videos right now.

They used to be kind of like a little bit of like more, uh, you know, like freestyle it myself, but now they're more professionally edited. Um, so, um, Yoni Rio zero seven. Very active there. I'm on LinkedIn, uh, Facebook. And, uh, I don't think I'm on YouTube yet. So yeah, those are the best ones for sure. I'll be engaging every time and, uh, I'm posting every single day My miracle Morning.

Okay, now I know all you guys are dying to know what does the d and d-day stand for? 'cause I was dying to know when I looked up the question 'cause I just go randomly find these questions. Uh, the options were dooms Dark Day or Dunkirk. You guessed day and you are correct. D-Day simply stands for day Day, ah, yay.

And honestly, I wasn't too sure [00:47:00] it was based on military code and the military at that point in history. Was trying to codify stuff to make it less notable. So hours were represented by h instead of hours and days were just represented by a d instead of, and it was a D dash and that was the date of something and they just called it D-Day.

So guys, you didn't know that. Like I just found that out too. Get ready for this show. Uh, there's a piece of history you may not have known. D-Day is really just dayday. Congratulations on that. Like I totally would've screwed that up. I would've. Doomsday. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. No, honestly, I was very close too, so, no, thank you.

But yeah, I, I, it was good. It was good. It is a, it is a terrific podcast, man. I appreciate the space and, uh, I think I, I know that it will, um, help and impact someone in life and I just wanna make sure that it. You know, whatever you dream of it is possible. I dream of being a professional soccer player, but the life I live right now, it's better [00:48:00] than a professional soccer player.

And it has nothing to do financially. It's always, it has to be of who I am now, how I'm able to impact people. I coach the youth a lot on the soccer and it's crazy how you're able to impact, and I know for sure, um, I love this country so much that adopted me and to me to serve this country by being a better person, being a better leader.

Brother, father, just, that's the way to honor this country. So I always wanna, you know, um, kind of like preach it, that, uh, just always do your best to be the best version of yourself and create the man you admire. Thanks for hanging out with us today, Yani so much. I. Just thank you for sharing with us today and being dedicated to just helping other men and, you know, raising good men too.

Uh, I, I'm a great fan of dedicated dads guys, as always. Be better tomorrow because of what you do today, and we'll see you on the next one. This has been the Followable Man podcast. Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. Be sure to subscribe so you don't [00:49:00] miss a show. Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get your own Fallible man gear.