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How to Keep YOUR Family Safe in an Unpredictable World | Secure Dad Andy Murphy

When security-minded Andy Murphy was a teenager, he realized his safety was his own responsibility and now, with the Secured Dad podcast, he educates parents on how to keep their families safe from home, in public and online, challenging them to take...

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When security-minded Andy Murphy was a teenager, he realized his safety was his own responsibility and now, with the Secured Dad podcast, he educates parents on how to keep their families safe from home, in public and online, challenging them to take ownership of their own security.

"My safety was my own responsibility. I started to develop my own version of what is today called situational awareness. That was not something that existed or that term didn't exist back then. And so I tried to think about, okay, if something bad happens, how do I get away? If I were going to do something bad, how would I do it? So I reverse engineer that to look at, okay, so what do I need to do to keep myself safe?" - Andy Murphy

Andy Murphy is the host of the Secure Dad Podcast and author of two books on home security and secure passwords. He has a background in IT and is passionate about helping parents keep their families safe in the digital age.

Andy Murphy had always been security conscious, and he wanted to make sure his family was safe. After the attack on Columbine, Andy realized that his safety was his own responsibility and began developing his own version of situational awareness. He now hosts the Secured Dad podcast to educate parents on small things they can do to protect their family at home, in public, and online. He stresses the importance of training to protect yourself, setting expectations for how your children should behave online, and making sure they don't share sensitive information. Andy's story shows that safety is everyone's responsibility and it's important to be aware of potential threats.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

 

1. Taking Responsibility for Your Safety: Learn how to be security minded and make safety a priority for your family.

2. Training for Real Life Threats: Understand the importance of training in self defense and first aid to be prepared for life-threatening situations.

3. Keeping Kids Safe Online: Establish expectations for online behavior and learn how to protect your kids from online predators.

 

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1 00:00:00,380 --> 00:00:03,660 Andy, what is the big takeaway you want everyone to hear today? 2 00:00:05,010 --> 00:00:09,120 The big takeaway is that your safety really is your responsibility. 3 00:00:09,120 --> 00:00:10,380 It is up to you. 4 00:00:10,740 --> 00:00:12,690 You don't need to be intimidated by that. 5 00:00:12,750 --> 00:00:14,730 You absolutely can do this. 6 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:17,460 I don't care what your physical or mental shape is. 7 00:00:17,790 --> 00:00:21,810 You have the ability to take care of yourself and your loved ones. 8 00:00:22,170 --> 00:00:24,210 Don't shrink away from that responsibility. 9 00:00:24,210 --> 00:00:25,290 You can absolutely do. 10 00:00:26,415 --> 00:00:26,775 Here's the 11 00:00:26,780 --> 00:00:27,975 million dollar question. 12 00:00:28,485 --> 00:00:32,145 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into the men we 13 00:00:32,145 --> 00:00:36,285 dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, working, 14 00:00:36,465 --> 00:00:40,965 being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 15 00:00:41,835 --> 00:00:43,515 That's the question in this podcast. 16 00:00:43,845 --> 00:00:45,135 We'll help you with those answers. 17 00:00:45,135 --> 00:00:48,285 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 18 00:00:48,555 --> 00:00:50,445 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast, your home for all 19 00:00:50,445 --> 00:00:51,855 things, man, husband, and father. 20 00:00:52,185 --> 00:00:53,505 Big shout out to Fallible Nation. 21 00:00:53,775 --> 00:00:56,415 You guys make shows like this possible and a warm welcome 22 00:00:56,475 --> 00:00:57,615 to our first time listeners. 23 00:00:57,975 --> 00:01:00,825 My name is Brent, and today my guest is author and host of the 24 00:01:00,825 --> 00:01:02,945 Secure Dad podcast, Andy Murphy. 25 00:01:03,535 --> 00:01:05,415 Andy, welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 26 00:01:05,895 --> 00:01:08,325 Hey, Brent, thank you so much for the opportunity to be here. 27 00:01:08,325 --> 00:01:10,365 I'm excited to talk to you and your folks. 28 00:01:11,490 --> 00:01:12,554 It's gonna be a great show, man. 29 00:01:12,554 --> 00:01:13,704 I've been looking forward to it. 30 00:01:13,974 --> 00:01:15,144 I enjoyed reading your book. 31 00:01:15,384 --> 00:01:19,404 You have some amazing points in it, but before we get serious, 32 00:01:19,674 --> 00:01:20,754 we have to get a little silly. 33 00:01:21,084 --> 00:01:25,764 So I open the show with one silly question and it's the average person in 34 00:01:25,764 --> 00:01:28,434 the US opens, what, 13 times per day? 35 00:01:28,614 --> 00:01:28,884 Is it? 36 00:01:28,974 --> 00:01:30,534 A, the front door? 37 00:01:30,924 --> 00:01:35,184 B, a can of soda, C the refrigerator, or d, 38 00:01:35,274 --> 00:01:35,704 a window. 39 00:01:35,704 --> 00:01:37,451 I guess I'm gonna go with the refrigerator. 40 00:01:37,841 --> 00:01:38,551 That would be my. 41 00:01:39,176 --> 00:01:41,486 Okay, the official answer is refrigerator. 42 00:01:41,636 --> 00:01:42,806 Now guys, don't cheat. 43 00:01:42,836 --> 00:01:44,486 Don't pause this and go look it up. 44 00:01:44,846 --> 00:01:47,006 Make your guest wait for the end of the show and we'll find 45 00:01:47,006 --> 00:01:48,086 out if he's right about that. 46 00:01:49,166 --> 00:01:50,111 Andy, I don't do big introductions. 47 00:01:51,176 --> 00:01:53,186 In your own words, who is Andy Murphy? 48 00:01:53,906 --> 00:01:54,416 Sure. 49 00:01:54,416 --> 00:01:59,137 So, Andy Murphy is a guy who has always been security minded. 50 00:01:59,163 --> 00:02:02,593 I did a podcast not long ago with a lady and I was telling her about, 51 00:02:02,593 --> 00:02:04,903 you know, with some of the stuff I used to do when I was growing up. 52 00:02:04,903 --> 00:02:05,913 Cause I was always the person. 53 00:02:06,413 --> 00:02:08,863 I wanted to make sure everybody got home safe and all that sort of things. 54 00:02:08,863 --> 00:02:13,093 And she was like, oh, so you were a dad of the group and when you were a teenager. 55 00:02:13,093 --> 00:02:14,833 And I'm like, oh no. 56 00:02:14,833 --> 00:02:18,403 I think I was, it's kind of a, a horrible thing to realize 57 00:02:18,403 --> 00:02:19,423 now, but it's kind of funny. 58 00:02:19,441 --> 00:02:22,551 But in my life I was always somebody who was security minded. 59 00:02:22,602 --> 00:02:28,734 And I wanted to make sure that I brought up my family where safety was something 60 00:02:28,734 --> 00:02:30,294 that was very important to our family. 61 00:02:30,714 --> 00:02:35,904 And so what I try to do with a secure dad is I try to educate parents on 62 00:02:35,904 --> 00:02:40,134 what they can do, the small things that they can do in their lives every day. 63 00:02:40,509 --> 00:02:42,009 To be just a little bit safer. 64 00:02:42,249 --> 00:02:46,599 I'm not one of these people who is thinks, oh, you know, you have to have a moat and 65 00:02:46,599 --> 00:02:50,319 a fence with, you know, razor wire on it around your house to be safe all times. 66 00:02:50,352 --> 00:02:51,372 That's not what it is. 67 00:02:51,732 --> 00:02:55,242 There's just some simple things that you can do every single day that's gonna 68 00:02:55,242 --> 00:02:58,662 make you and your family a whole lot safer at home and public and online. 69 00:02:58,932 --> 00:03:02,247 So, I'm somebody who, Always being security minded. 70 00:03:02,547 --> 00:03:06,297 Realize there's other parents out there just like me who are wanting to be able 71 00:03:06,297 --> 00:03:12,597 to like haul in all of these thoughts that they have and focus them into what 72 00:03:12,597 --> 00:03:14,397 is necessary to protect their family. 73 00:03:14,397 --> 00:03:16,563 And that's really how the Secure Dad was born. 74 00:03:17,283 --> 00:03:18,363 Okay, and 75 00:03:19,023 --> 00:03:21,861 for those of you guys listening you'll have to look at the artwork. 76 00:03:22,311 --> 00:03:25,581 Andy's logo is really cool for this Cure Dad podcast, by the way. 77 00:03:25,971 --> 00:03:27,051 Big kudos on that brother. 78 00:03:27,471 --> 00:03:28,040 That's oh yeah. 79 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:28,240 Thank. 80 00:03:28,660 --> 00:03:28,810 It's 81 00:03:28,810 --> 00:03:29,500 very sharp. 82 00:03:29,920 --> 00:03:31,870 I'm liking that it look good on a hat too. 83 00:03:31,900 --> 00:03:36,233 It's hard to make those designs look good both on print, it's embroidery. 84 00:03:36,893 --> 00:03:37,103 Mm-hmm. 85 00:03:37,433 --> 00:03:41,483 , I've had to change my logo a couple times cause of like, we can't embroider that. 86 00:03:42,113 --> 00:03:43,373 Right, right. 87 00:03:43,733 --> 00:03:44,243 Bummer. 88 00:03:44,903 --> 00:03:48,353 Now, Andy, if you could have a conversation with anyone in history, 89 00:03:48,353 --> 00:03:49,673 past, present, or future, who would 90 00:03:49,853 --> 00:03:50,093 it be? 91 00:03:50,093 --> 00:03:52,598 And, Oh man. 92 00:03:53,078 --> 00:03:53,768 Oh, let's see. 93 00:03:54,158 --> 00:03:55,709 Past, present, or future. 94 00:03:55,733 --> 00:03:59,093 You know, being a Christian, I think I'm always supposed to say Jesus. 95 00:03:59,129 --> 00:04:01,439 I think that's always the answer cuz if I don't say that I'm afraid 96 00:04:01,439 --> 00:04:03,438 I might get in trouble when I get to heaven that sort of thing. 97 00:04:03,438 --> 00:04:05,178 But obviously talking to Jesus would be fun. 98 00:04:05,178 --> 00:04:08,778 But, you know, probably more, I think realistically, I think it would be cool to 99 00:04:08,778 --> 00:04:14,448 talk to George Washington knowing all of the stress that guy was, Just being who he 100 00:04:14,453 --> 00:04:20,031 was being considered a re a rebel against, you know, the British crown and being 101 00:04:20,031 --> 00:04:25,071 able to take a ragtag group of civilians and turn them into a fighting force to 102 00:04:25,071 --> 00:04:26,768 fight off the greatest army in the world. 103 00:04:26,768 --> 00:04:31,278 I mean, that guy had to have, Some pretty good insights about how to live life, 104 00:04:31,278 --> 00:04:34,158 and I think that's just, I know a lot, there's a lot of things that are just kind 105 00:04:34,158 --> 00:04:36,948 of trumped up about him that, you know, the whole, I, I cannot tell lie thing is 106 00:04:36,948 --> 00:04:41,221 not true, but just to be able to sit down and talk to the real man who made all 107 00:04:41,221 --> 00:04:44,193 of those decisions and had to look those soldiers in the eye and say, Hey man, 108 00:04:44,193 --> 00:04:48,093 we're gonna cross this river in the dead of night and it's frozen at Christmas day. 109 00:04:48,093 --> 00:04:50,566 We're gonna pop up and try to win our first battle here. 110 00:04:50,566 --> 00:04:52,518 That's some leadership, that's some guts. 111 00:04:52,578 --> 00:04:54,090 And I would like to be able to sit down 112 00:04:54,090 --> 00:04:55,608 and talk to, that would be a cool conversation. 113 00:04:55,608 --> 00:04:56,838 I've never actually had that answer. 114 00:04:57,408 --> 00:04:58,848 Jesus is one answer. 115 00:04:59,178 --> 00:05:01,848 Yeah, . It's a long answer, but I've actually started telling 116 00:05:01,853 --> 00:05:03,318 people like, ok, pick someone 117 00:05:03,408 --> 00:05:04,308 other than Jesus. 118 00:05:04,488 --> 00:05:06,078 Other than Jesus who is Yes. 119 00:05:06,078 --> 00:05:06,378 Yeah. 120 00:05:07,848 --> 00:05:10,818 , what purchase of a hundred dollars or less you make in the last year. 121 00:05:10,818 --> 00:05:12,108 This had the biggest impact on your 122 00:05:12,108 --> 00:05:12,370 life. 123 00:05:12,370 --> 00:05:12,913 Let's see. 124 00:05:15,643 --> 00:05:18,571 Probably it's going to be. 125 00:05:19,071 --> 00:05:23,005 I got a new, it's just, it's funny I'm a knife guy, so I got a new 126 00:05:23,005 --> 00:05:26,035 pocket knife not long ago and it's one of the higher end ones. 127 00:05:26,035 --> 00:05:28,855 Cause I was always one of those guys, like, oh, I'll break it or whatever and I 128 00:05:28,855 --> 00:05:30,835 don't ever wanna like lose it or whatever. 129 00:05:30,840 --> 00:05:33,025 So I had to be responsible. 130 00:05:33,025 --> 00:05:37,087 So I got a name brand knife that I carry with me and it's it's nice to 131 00:05:37,087 --> 00:05:40,297 have and it's other people's seat and it's like, oh hey, that's cool. 132 00:05:40,364 --> 00:05:42,837 It's not terribly, you know, expensive or anything, but for. 133 00:05:43,367 --> 00:05:44,777 It's a high-end thing and it's useful. 134 00:05:44,807 --> 00:05:46,849 They're useful every day for all sorts of things. 135 00:05:46,849 --> 00:05:49,759 A lot of people will think, you know, you carry a knife that you're a dangerous 136 00:05:49,759 --> 00:05:51,799 person, or other people make fun of you. 137 00:05:51,799 --> 00:05:53,509 You're gonna fight a bear today at lunch. 138 00:05:53,509 --> 00:05:56,329 And you're like, well, maybe, you know, that sort of thing. 139 00:05:56,599 --> 00:05:58,702 But yeah, that's been something that's really useful. 140 00:05:58,702 --> 00:06:02,762 Being able to have a tool to get in and out of things is, has been a pretty good. 141 00:06:04,332 --> 00:06:05,562 Hey I'm a pocket knife guy. 142 00:06:05,892 --> 00:06:08,622 I got my first pocket knife from my grandfather at six years old. 143 00:06:08,622 --> 00:06:09,582 I still have it, actually. 144 00:06:09,582 --> 00:06:10,902 I managed to hold onto all the years. 145 00:06:10,907 --> 00:06:12,152 Very good, very good. 146 00:06:12,432 --> 00:06:13,602 But I, that's awesome. 147 00:06:13,782 --> 00:06:15,312 I'm never caught without a pocket knife. 148 00:06:15,312 --> 00:06:19,842 It's the most useful tool I think I've actually like, they have a 149 00:06:20,322 --> 00:06:23,712 yearly study that comes out, like the most top 10 most useful tools, 150 00:06:23,952 --> 00:06:25,672 and Mike was always the top one or. 151 00:06:26,397 --> 00:06:29,847 Yeah, I use my pocket knife for everything from cutting steak when 152 00:06:29,847 --> 00:06:33,747 I'm on the go and to prying things off, you'll find most of mine have 153 00:06:33,747 --> 00:06:35,827 the tip broken off where I've, yeah. 154 00:06:36,072 --> 00:06:36,613 I've done that. 155 00:06:36,613 --> 00:06:39,354 A, got a little carried away in thinking what they could handle as 156 00:06:39,359 --> 00:06:41,404 far as prying things, but mm-hmm. 157 00:06:42,194 --> 00:06:42,684 . Yeah. 158 00:06:42,684 --> 00:06:49,201 And just we're talking one that has half of a serrated blade on it because there's 159 00:06:49,201 --> 00:06:51,751 a lot of times you just really need to like saw into something to cut it. 160 00:06:52,396 --> 00:06:55,726 And not necessarily poke it or stab yourself, which I may 161 00:06:55,726 --> 00:06:57,106 or may not have done before 162 00:06:57,611 --> 00:06:59,446 So lesson learned there. 163 00:06:59,656 --> 00:07:02,356 Half blade, my suggestion, half blade, at least serrated. 164 00:07:03,286 --> 00:07:03,496 Okay. 165 00:07:04,426 --> 00:07:06,736 What's just one randomly strange fact 166 00:07:06,736 --> 00:07:07,136 about you? 167 00:07:07,136 --> 00:07:08,020 . This one is weird. 168 00:07:08,020 --> 00:07:10,030 I didn't think this is the first thing that popped into my head. 169 00:07:10,049 --> 00:07:10,938 So, I. 170 00:07:11,598 --> 00:07:16,698 I actually gotten to meet Patrick Swayze when I was a kid, and so he was, my dad 171 00:07:16,698 --> 00:07:21,994 was an extra in a TV series that he was in, so I sometimes freak people out when 172 00:07:21,994 --> 00:07:25,924 I tell people that Patrick Swayze once held me in his arms because I was four. 173 00:07:26,239 --> 00:07:27,829 And he was posing for a picture. 174 00:07:28,099 --> 00:07:30,529 So that's just kind of a, a random funny thing. 175 00:07:30,534 --> 00:07:34,339 And there's this picture o of me, my mom, dad, and Patrick Swayze from this shoot. 176 00:07:34,609 --> 00:07:35,659 So it's really cool. 177 00:07:35,659 --> 00:07:39,576 And he was always a really nice guy on set to my dad and a couple other people. 178 00:07:39,576 --> 00:07:41,917 So I've always had a big respect for him and I was sad when he 179 00:07:41,917 --> 00:07:43,087 passed away a few years ago. 180 00:07:43,927 --> 00:07:44,557 That's very 181 00:07:44,557 --> 00:07:44,947 cool. 182 00:07:45,637 --> 00:07:48,757 What is one thing that everyone should know about you before 183 00:07:48,757 --> 00:07:49,907 we dig into this podcast? 184 00:07:49,907 --> 00:07:51,402 I don't take myself too serious. 185 00:07:51,463 --> 00:07:53,200 I like to make self-deprecating jokes. 186 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:55,690 I will fully admit I do not know everything. 187 00:07:56,080 --> 00:08:00,280 And so when I do say something, it's because I've researched it 188 00:08:00,340 --> 00:08:02,110 or I've experienced it, or both. 189 00:08:02,530 --> 00:08:06,290 So it's, when I say something, it's, there's some weight behind it. 190 00:08:06,294 --> 00:08:08,484 And I'm not gonna sit here and think that I'm an expert in 191 00:08:08,489 --> 00:08:09,774 everything because I, I'm not. 192 00:08:10,584 --> 00:08:11,074 Okay. 193 00:08:11,154 --> 00:08:11,604 Fair enough. 194 00:08:12,324 --> 00:08:14,334 Guys, we've been getting to know Andy just a little bit. 195 00:08:14,334 --> 00:08:16,674 I want you to know who this is we're talking to. 196 00:08:17,289 --> 00:08:20,420 And why this conversation is important coming up, we're gonna dive 197 00:08:20,420 --> 00:08:23,270 into keeping your family safe, but what's really going on out there? 198 00:08:23,270 --> 00:08:24,890 Why this should be a priority to you. 199 00:08:25,220 --> 00:08:28,130 We're gonna roll to one of our sponsors and we'll be right back with Murphy. 200 00:08:29,330 --> 00:08:32,180 One thing I usually don't share is how impactful the podcast 201 00:08:32,180 --> 00:08:33,290 has been for me personally. 202 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:36,920 There's a lot I love and appreciate because I have the podcast. 203 00:08:37,220 --> 00:08:39,470 I become somebody who can approach people easier. 204 00:08:39,500 --> 00:08:41,900 I have a better network of people to call upon when I need 'em. 205 00:08:42,350 --> 00:08:46,070 I get to meet new people all the time from all walks of life and all over the 206 00:08:46,070 --> 00:08:50,530 globe and connect with 'em at a deeper level, and I have a voice to do what I. 207 00:08:51,255 --> 00:08:54,855 I'm always put into situations where I'm having to stretch and learn something new. 208 00:08:55,185 --> 00:08:57,885 I've really grown as a person and a professional since I started doing 209 00:08:57,885 --> 00:09:01,755 my podcast, and that was even before my show really started growing. 210 00:09:02,655 --> 00:09:05,955 I hired a company called Grow Your Show, who's our sponsor, by the way, 211 00:09:06,615 --> 00:09:07,845 and I wanted to share them with you. 212 00:09:08,295 --> 00:09:11,025 The owner, Adam, has one of the very best podcasts for teaching 213 00:09:11,025 --> 00:09:12,435 you how to be a podcaster. 214 00:09:12,885 --> 00:09:14,055 I honestly wish I had found it. 215 00:09:15,185 --> 00:09:18,365 One thing that they've done to help me is to bring me to a much larger 216 00:09:18,365 --> 00:09:21,545 listener base so that my voice is being heard around the world. 217 00:09:22,025 --> 00:09:25,505 There's a good chance, in fact that they helped us connect, but they 218 00:09:25,505 --> 00:09:27,455 also do editing and post-production. 219 00:09:27,995 --> 00:09:31,355 They can even help you launch and start your podcast, which could 220 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,445 really help you in your business or whatever you're trying to achieve. 221 00:09:35,345 --> 00:09:37,055 So I just wanted to give them a quick shout out. 222 00:09:37,145 --> 00:09:41,165 I love to share great people and companies that I believe in, that I use personally. 223 00:09:41,885 --> 00:09:44,585 So that's Grow Your show@growyourshow.com. 224 00:09:44,915 --> 00:09:48,305 I have a link in the show notes and if you have a podcast or you wanna start 225 00:09:48,305 --> 00:09:51,605 a podcast or you're thinking about it, just scroll down there, click that 226 00:09:51,605 --> 00:09:53,675 link and go work with my friend Adam. 227 00:09:53,885 --> 00:09:56,195 He's gonna treat you right guys, welcome back. 228 00:09:56,375 --> 00:10:00,365 We started with some getting to know Andy Murphy a little bit, and Andy Murphy 229 00:10:00,370 --> 00:10:03,065 is the host of the Secure Dad Podcast. 230 00:10:03,635 --> 00:10:05,795 In the first part of the show, we just wanted to talk to him a little bit 231 00:10:05,795 --> 00:10:07,295 and see who he is, what he's about. 232 00:10:07,775 --> 00:10:09,695 In this section of the show we're gonna get into. 233 00:10:10,115 --> 00:10:11,795 What's really going on out there? 234 00:10:11,855 --> 00:10:14,945 What you need to know about keeping your family safe and secure in the 235 00:10:14,945 --> 00:10:16,835 world we're living in these days now. 236 00:10:16,835 --> 00:10:20,675 Andy, you've written a book, home Security, the Secure Dad's Guide, 237 00:10:20,855 --> 00:10:22,955 easy Home Defense Techniques to Keep Your Family Safe. 238 00:10:23,885 --> 00:10:26,555 I can't believe I actually all got my copy here. 239 00:10:27,215 --> 00:10:27,905 It's a big title. 240 00:10:28,580 --> 00:10:28,970 Thank you. 241 00:10:29,300 --> 00:10:29,450 You 242 00:10:29,450 --> 00:10:32,660 actually have another book as well on Secure Passwords, which mm-hmm. 243 00:10:32,900 --> 00:10:34,820 . I know more than a few people who could use that. 244 00:10:34,887 --> 00:10:38,411 I have a background as an IT guy, Uhhuh, so I know more than 245 00:10:38,411 --> 00:10:39,641 a few people who need that one. 246 00:10:40,271 --> 00:10:43,302 You actually have a podcast, the Secure Dad's podcast. 247 00:10:43,302 --> 00:10:45,102 What sets you on this path? 248 00:10:45,107 --> 00:10:47,862 You said earlier that you were always kind of security minded. 249 00:10:47,862 --> 00:10:49,092 What took you down this? 250 00:10:50,097 --> 00:10:50,607 Sure. 251 00:10:50,622 --> 00:10:55,089 And I'll tell you this story and I don't wanna, I don't necessarily think that 252 00:10:55,089 --> 00:10:57,159 we need to follow this particular path. 253 00:10:57,189 --> 00:10:58,119 Only if you want to. 254 00:10:58,539 --> 00:11:03,552 So, I was in high school at the same time the attack happened 255 00:11:03,552 --> 00:11:04,632 on Columbine High School. 256 00:11:04,632 --> 00:11:06,222 Now I was thousands of miles away. 257 00:11:06,222 --> 00:11:06,882 It was not there. 258 00:11:07,512 --> 00:11:10,632 And I remember her going to school the next day and thinking, 259 00:11:11,352 --> 00:11:13,512 man, one of my classmates. 260 00:11:14,712 --> 00:11:17,772 Could be the next school shooter, you know? 261 00:11:17,796 --> 00:11:22,246 I had never, ever once thought about the attacker being my fellow classmate. 262 00:11:22,251 --> 00:11:27,256 And I realized that while my school did have a school resource officer that s 263 00:11:27,261 --> 00:11:32,116 r o was not gonna be able to get to my classroom in time if something went wrong. 264 00:11:32,266 --> 00:11:38,206 So I realized in that moment that my safety was my own respons. 265 00:11:38,836 --> 00:11:39,736 And that's huge. 266 00:11:39,856 --> 00:11:44,626 Most people don't have that understanding until they've been the victim of a 267 00:11:44,626 --> 00:11:49,186 crime or until they have thought, I'm in my last moments of life. 268 00:11:49,666 --> 00:11:55,246 So to have that thought without being physically threatened is 269 00:11:55,396 --> 00:11:57,286 kind of a lightning strike event. 270 00:11:57,646 --> 00:12:01,126 And so that's just one of those things that always stuck with me. 271 00:12:01,396 --> 00:12:04,726 I started to develop my own version of what is today 272 00:12:04,726 --> 00:12:06,226 called situational awareness. 273 00:12:06,616 --> 00:12:10,036 That was not something that existed or that term didn't exist back then. 274 00:12:10,157 --> 00:12:14,357 And so I tried to think about, okay, if something ha bad happens 275 00:12:14,362 --> 00:12:15,947 over here, how do I get away? 276 00:12:16,367 --> 00:12:19,306 If you know, if I were going to do something bad, how would I do it? 277 00:12:19,306 --> 00:12:22,749 So I reverse engineer that to look at, okay, so what do I 278 00:12:22,749 --> 00:12:24,051 need to do to keep myself safe? 279 00:12:24,591 --> 00:12:27,531 And so that's really kind of where all of this started. 280 00:12:27,921 --> 00:12:29,211 I started really focusing. 281 00:12:30,486 --> 00:12:34,366 What is happening in my environment that could affect me? 282 00:12:34,366 --> 00:12:37,339 What did those pre-event indicators look like? 283 00:12:37,759 --> 00:12:42,122 Now I've since then, you know, kind of been able to study with the best people 284 00:12:42,122 --> 00:12:46,262 in the world on this topic, and so been able to refine it a whole lot better. 285 00:12:46,532 --> 00:12:50,072 But that's kind of where things started, was sitting in my classroom 286 00:12:50,402 --> 00:12:53,492 the day after Columbine and thinking, wow, that could happen here. 287 00:12:54,092 --> 00:12:55,802 My safety's my own responsibility. 288 00:12:56,072 --> 00:12:57,002 Well, what am I gonna do? 289 00:12:58,772 --> 00:13:01,082 That is a mic drop moment when people start to actually 290 00:13:01,082 --> 00:13:02,192 realize it's like, oh wait. 291 00:13:03,302 --> 00:13:03,602 Yeah. 292 00:13:03,669 --> 00:13:05,760 The good guys aren't coming to save me necessarily. 293 00:13:05,829 --> 00:13:07,689 I see that meme on social media all the time. 294 00:13:07,869 --> 00:13:12,729 It actually kinda drives me nuts at this point, but it's because it, to me, it's 295 00:13:12,729 --> 00:13:18,997 like that's always been part I had that early understanding fairly early on. 296 00:13:19,067 --> 00:13:20,147 In the same kind of things. 297 00:13:20,357 --> 00:13:23,027 I think we're fairly in the same main age range. 298 00:13:23,027 --> 00:13:23,597 I remember that. 299 00:13:23,597 --> 00:13:24,167 Very fresh. 300 00:13:24,259 --> 00:13:24,649 . Oh yeah. 301 00:13:24,739 --> 00:13:25,039 Yeah. 302 00:13:25,459 --> 00:13:28,054 And it's always been like, okay, this is gonna be me, right? 303 00:13:28,134 --> 00:13:28,744 Mm-hmm. 304 00:13:28,824 --> 00:13:30,634 . So now I see that all the time on Instagram. 305 00:13:30,634 --> 00:13:31,714 No one's coming to save you. 306 00:13:32,644 --> 00:13:33,334 Right? 307 00:13:33,544 --> 00:13:34,204 That reminder. 308 00:13:35,259 --> 00:13:35,460 Apparently lot 309 00:13:35,819 --> 00:13:36,139 of people do. 310 00:13:36,829 --> 00:13:37,309 Yeah. 311 00:13:37,519 --> 00:13:40,909 A lot of people, you know, they live in bubbles and they think that, 312 00:13:41,059 --> 00:13:42,619 you know, everybody is like them. 313 00:13:43,039 --> 00:13:46,309 That they're good people who go to work nine to five every day. 314 00:13:46,309 --> 00:13:49,009 And that, you know, murder doesn't happen all the time. 315 00:13:49,279 --> 00:13:50,779 People aren't trying to scam people. 316 00:13:50,779 --> 00:13:53,843 People aren't trying to, you know, abduct your children, that sort 317 00:13:53,843 --> 00:13:55,104 of thing, and that is happening. 318 00:13:55,344 --> 00:13:58,341 And it's a lot of cases, it's like it's outta sight, outta mind for. 319 00:13:59,086 --> 00:14:01,966 But once it gets on your radar, it should never disappear. 320 00:14:02,386 --> 00:14:05,656 And you just need to understand that, hey, this is the reality of life, you know? 321 00:14:05,686 --> 00:14:10,366 You know, on the sinus side is life's life service, you know, being scam, 322 00:14:10,366 --> 00:14:13,126 scammed for, you know, all of your money in the bank and things like that. 323 00:14:13,126 --> 00:14:17,026 There are unfortunately bad people out there who want to take advantage 324 00:14:17,031 --> 00:14:19,186 of the good people, always. 325 00:14:19,786 --> 00:14:21,586 Now tell us a little bit about the Secure Dads 326 00:14:21,586 --> 00:14:22,096 podcast. 327 00:14:23,001 --> 00:14:23,331 Sure. 328 00:14:23,601 --> 00:14:26,001 So the Secure Ad podcast is a lot like yours. 329 00:14:26,001 --> 00:14:30,141 I follow format where I will have a guest on and then I'll do a solo show, but they 330 00:14:30,141 --> 00:14:35,811 usually focus on topics that are relevant to parents, and I call my audience. 331 00:14:35,841 --> 00:14:38,151 Protect your parents and protect your parents. 332 00:14:38,151 --> 00:14:42,411 Are those people who realize that keeping my family safe is 333 00:14:42,411 --> 00:14:45,321 something that I absolutely need to make a priority in my life. 334 00:14:45,321 --> 00:14:49,431 Now, every parent wants to be a protector, but not necessarily all of them. 335 00:14:49,851 --> 00:14:51,471 Own up to that responsibility. 336 00:14:51,741 --> 00:14:54,597 That's some part of parenting that some people just don't want to 337 00:14:55,037 --> 00:14:55,977 activate that part of their brain. 338 00:14:56,772 --> 00:15:01,332 My particular audience is always looking for ways to make themselves safer. 339 00:15:01,332 --> 00:15:06,962 And so I will on a weekly basis, either talk to experts or do research from what 340 00:15:06,962 --> 00:15:10,292 I've experienced, from what I've seen, from what I've learned, and talk about 341 00:15:10,292 --> 00:15:14,762 different safety ideas that come from the perspective of trying to keep somebody 342 00:15:14,762 --> 00:15:17,402 safe at home, in public and online. 343 00:15:17,852 --> 00:15:19,882 And the really over the past two years, the. 344 00:15:21,202 --> 00:15:26,362 Safety and security has really exploded, and I just did a podcast that is on 345 00:15:26,392 --> 00:15:29,812 preventing child abductions now, you know, since you and I just talked 346 00:15:29,812 --> 00:15:32,722 about how we're kind of close in age when, you know, we were little, 347 00:15:32,722 --> 00:15:36,082 we were talk, hey, talk, never talk to strangers, that sort of thing. 348 00:15:36,082 --> 00:15:39,232 Because we were told that if we went to Kmart, you know, every other 349 00:15:39,237 --> 00:15:40,562 adult there wants to steal you. 350 00:15:40,702 --> 00:15:42,322 And that's just, you know, not the case. 351 00:15:42,682 --> 00:15:46,912 Today, in 2023, most child abductions start. 352 00:15:47,947 --> 00:15:52,537 When a predator or a groomer reaches out online, establishes a relationship, 353 00:15:53,047 --> 00:15:56,887 works with your kid to build this fake friendship, and then there's 354 00:15:56,887 --> 00:16:01,267 eventually going to be an invite for a meetup in person, and that's when that 355 00:16:01,267 --> 00:16:04,147 individual is going to entice your kid. 356 00:16:04,702 --> 00:16:06,172 To leave with them. 357 00:16:06,502 --> 00:16:09,172 It's not really going to be a snatch and grab off the street. 358 00:16:09,352 --> 00:16:10,012 Don't get me wrong. 359 00:16:10,012 --> 00:16:11,452 Those do happen, but they're rare. 360 00:16:11,752 --> 00:16:15,802 So really in a lot of ways to keep your kids physically safe, it has 361 00:16:15,802 --> 00:16:20,242 to start online because that's where our kids in 2023 are living 362 00:16:20,242 --> 00:16:21,562 a lot of their lives right now. 363 00:16:22,172 --> 00:16:23,022 Absolutely. 364 00:16:23,962 --> 00:16:28,042 Now, most men think they understand the concept of being a protector pretty well. 365 00:16:28,162 --> 00:16:28,252 Mm-hmm. 366 00:16:28,492 --> 00:16:28,582 . Right? 367 00:16:28,582 --> 00:16:29,632 It's part of our role as men. 368 00:16:29,822 --> 00:16:30,242 Yes. 369 00:16:30,242 --> 00:16:31,349 Or at least we like to think we. 370 00:16:32,264 --> 00:16:34,494 What are some of the things that you see are often 371 00:16:34,964 --> 00:16:35,324 overlooked? 372 00:16:37,014 --> 00:16:37,404 Sure. 373 00:16:37,404 --> 00:16:42,064 So I think a lot of people, it's not necessarily overlooked. 374 00:16:42,064 --> 00:16:44,154 I think a lot of people overestimate what they can do. 375 00:16:44,544 --> 00:16:48,624 I think if you've like never really been trained to fight you 376 00:16:48,624 --> 00:16:49,914 know, especially as an adult. 377 00:16:50,319 --> 00:16:53,919 You may not be as good as you were when you had three fights, and the 378 00:16:53,919 --> 00:16:55,449 last one was in the seventh grade. 379 00:16:55,749 --> 00:16:59,589 It's gonna be a little bit different now that you are an adult. 380 00:16:59,594 --> 00:17:03,586 So I always, you know, stress to people to train on all sorts of things. 381 00:17:03,586 --> 00:17:08,896 Train on how to fight, how to protect yourself, train in self-defense, train on. 382 00:17:09,034 --> 00:17:12,274 You know, how to render aid, first aid, you know, stop the 383 00:17:12,274 --> 00:17:13,294 bleed, that sort of thing. 384 00:17:13,594 --> 00:17:15,274 Those sorts of things are gonna make you better. 385 00:17:15,274 --> 00:17:19,204 A lot of people will think, oh, well, if this happens, I will definitely 386 00:17:19,209 --> 00:17:24,034 be able to just magically get the skills necessary to survive this 387 00:17:24,039 --> 00:17:25,654 situation and look like a hero. 388 00:17:26,284 --> 00:17:27,904 Unfortunately, that's just not reality. 389 00:17:27,909 --> 00:17:28,774 When you were under. 390 00:17:29,939 --> 00:17:33,070 Absolute stress of a life-threatening attack on yourself or your kid. 391 00:17:33,095 --> 00:17:36,021 You're going to just fall back to your lowest level of training. 392 00:17:36,051 --> 00:17:38,991 And if you don't have any, then you're gonna have nothing. 393 00:17:39,471 --> 00:17:40,791 So that's why I really. 394 00:17:41,676 --> 00:17:44,046 You know, people overlook that, and that's one of the things that I 395 00:17:44,046 --> 00:17:47,860 really want to stress to people is, you know, even me I encourage people. 396 00:17:47,860 --> 00:17:50,680 I've encouraged my listeners to go out at least once a year 397 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:52,120 and get training on something. 398 00:17:52,450 --> 00:17:55,450 As a matter of fact, I've got a training opportunity coming up later this 399 00:17:55,450 --> 00:17:59,590 month that I'm really excited about, and so that's why I encourage people 400 00:17:59,590 --> 00:18:01,180 to go get outta that comfort zone. 401 00:18:01,570 --> 00:18:03,820 Don't think that you're automatically going to have the answers. 402 00:18:03,820 --> 00:18:06,790 You're not gonna all of a sudden gain the skills of Chuck Norris and you're 403 00:18:06,790 --> 00:18:08,470 gonna be able to fight off 16 people. 404 00:18:08,770 --> 00:18:10,000 That's just not gonna happen. 405 00:18:10,270 --> 00:18:13,130 So go out there and train for the reality of what's happening. 406 00:18:13,138 --> 00:18:14,253 I love that cuz I, 407 00:18:14,258 --> 00:18:17,118 that's, I hate to say that, but that's so man. 408 00:18:17,328 --> 00:18:17,688 Like we, 409 00:18:17,838 --> 00:18:19,698 we all think it's, yeah, it is. 410 00:18:19,908 --> 00:18:20,898 And I thought that way too. 411 00:18:21,018 --> 00:18:21,858 I really did too. 412 00:18:21,858 --> 00:18:22,428 So, yeah, 413 00:18:23,178 --> 00:18:25,818 we all got through school and, you know, we like action movies and I 414 00:18:25,818 --> 00:18:27,708 was like, oh yeah, I'd be fine in a. 415 00:18:28,593 --> 00:18:30,903 It's like you actually got punched, dude. 416 00:18:31,623 --> 00:18:32,113 Yeah. 417 00:18:32,673 --> 00:18:33,153 . Yeah. 418 00:18:33,813 --> 00:18:34,053 Right. 419 00:18:34,053 --> 00:18:36,513 Was it Tyson who said, everybody thinks they're pretty tough 420 00:18:36,513 --> 00:18:37,173 until they get punched in 421 00:18:37,178 --> 00:18:37,593 the face. 422 00:18:38,443 --> 00:18:38,933 Yeah. 423 00:18:38,933 --> 00:18:39,093 Yeah. 424 00:18:39,098 --> 00:18:39,873 Everybody's got a planet. 425 00:18:39,873 --> 00:18:40,833 They'll get punched in the mouth. 426 00:18:40,838 --> 00:18:41,013 Yeah. 427 00:18:41,013 --> 00:18:41,933 That's the quote, right? 428 00:18:42,063 --> 00:18:42,393 Yeah. 429 00:18:42,393 --> 00:18:43,083 It's a good one. 430 00:18:43,143 --> 00:18:43,803 It's a good one. 431 00:18:43,863 --> 00:18:44,182 Yeah. 432 00:18:44,182 --> 00:18:47,340 We all think we're pretty tough and it's like last time you were 433 00:18:47,340 --> 00:18:51,240 in a fight, like you hadn't even to get like your full hype yet. 434 00:18:52,395 --> 00:18:53,595 Right, right. 435 00:18:55,155 --> 00:18:55,425 . Yeah. 436 00:18:55,425 --> 00:18:58,172 And especially, you know, if you're older and you've got, you know, an old 437 00:18:58,172 --> 00:19:01,382 football injury or whatever, and you go to take a swing and you pull something 438 00:19:01,382 --> 00:19:05,312 in your back, man, you know, if you're not aware, you're gonna put yourself 439 00:19:05,312 --> 00:19:09,062 into a situation where you're not gonna be able to respond like you think. 440 00:19:09,152 --> 00:19:12,386 So that's why training and knowing your limits is a really good idea. 441 00:19:13,226 --> 00:19:13,886 I always found 442 00:19:13,886 --> 00:19:15,686 myself very physically capable growing. 443 00:19:17,156 --> 00:19:19,796 You know, looking now it's like, man, I've, yeah. 444 00:19:19,841 --> 00:19:22,306 I've torn up my shoulder, I've broken my back twice. 445 00:19:23,296 --> 00:19:23,386 Ooh. 446 00:19:23,416 --> 00:19:25,636 I dunno if I can move like that anymore. 447 00:19:25,641 --> 00:19:27,106 Or about speed. 448 00:19:27,158 --> 00:19:27,405 Yeah. 449 00:19:27,405 --> 00:19:33,451 The reality is eventually we stop being 18, 19 year old spry in the prime of our 450 00:19:33,831 --> 00:19:35,791 physical . Yeah. 451 00:19:35,791 --> 00:19:36,001 Yeah. 452 00:19:36,001 --> 00:19:38,161 Time March is on . I'm definitely 453 00:19:38,161 --> 00:19:41,221 stronger than I was at 18, but I'm certainly not faster or 454 00:19:41,226 --> 00:19:42,421 more limber or anything like. 455 00:19:43,411 --> 00:19:43,861 Right. 456 00:19:44,191 --> 00:19:47,349 You touched on it a little bit and it's this topic I definitely 457 00:19:47,349 --> 00:19:51,279 wanna touch on a little deeper here is online security, right? 458 00:19:51,279 --> 00:19:51,369 Mm-hmm. 459 00:19:51,609 --> 00:19:55,539 , this is such a prevalent issue in our world today. 460 00:19:55,719 --> 00:19:59,949 I homeschool my kids, my wife, well I should say my wife homeschools our kids 461 00:19:59,949 --> 00:20:04,959 and does an amazing job, but you know, you are, people are online so much these days. 462 00:20:05,409 --> 00:20:05,499 Mm-hmm. 463 00:20:05,739 --> 00:20:08,043 and as a former IT guy, I know the vulnerabilities 464 00:20:08,043 --> 00:20:09,723 involved in that very easily. 465 00:20:09,723 --> 00:20:09,873 For sure. 466 00:20:09,873 --> 00:20:10,023 Yeah. 467 00:20:10,203 --> 00:20:10,603 For. 468 00:20:11,493 --> 00:20:15,813 So what are some things, particularly around social media and stuff that we 469 00:20:15,813 --> 00:20:18,693 need to look at as parents in keeping our 470 00:20:18,693 --> 00:20:19,293 family safe? 471 00:20:20,778 --> 00:20:21,228 Sure. 472 00:20:21,263 --> 00:20:23,861 So, you know, you have in your IT background talking 473 00:20:23,861 --> 00:20:25,061 about, you know, the exploits. 474 00:20:25,066 --> 00:20:26,201 You know how all of that works. 475 00:20:26,591 --> 00:20:30,911 A few years ago I realized I was not where I needed to be to 476 00:20:30,911 --> 00:20:32,531 understand what online threats were. 477 00:20:32,531 --> 00:20:36,581 So I really put in a focus to understand what was gonna happen to my family. 478 00:20:36,941 --> 00:20:40,841 When I looked at this issue, I found that there's a lot of analog 479 00:20:40,841 --> 00:20:42,731 solutions to digital problems. 480 00:20:43,121 --> 00:20:47,741 And so one of the things that I kind of developed from this is to. 481 00:20:49,076 --> 00:20:54,176 Tell your children that they need to behave online as they would in person. 482 00:20:54,896 --> 00:20:57,746 A lot of people think that since they're behind that keyboard, they 483 00:20:57,746 --> 00:21:00,852 say and do all things of things never say, and somebody's face. 484 00:21:01,122 --> 00:21:05,772 So you need to tell your kids that, Hey, we have this expectation when you go to 485 00:21:05,777 --> 00:21:08,982 school that you're gonna behave like this, or we go to the store, we go to church. 486 00:21:09,352 --> 00:21:11,742 Wherever you're going, we have an expectation that this is the way 487 00:21:11,742 --> 00:21:14,952 you're supposed to behave, and we need to set that same expectation for. 488 00:21:15,792 --> 00:21:19,432 We need to tell kids, Hey, you don't need to make threatening 489 00:21:19,437 --> 00:21:20,442 comments to classmates. 490 00:21:20,442 --> 00:21:24,852 You don't need to post pictures of your classmates, you know, in memes. 491 00:21:24,852 --> 00:21:27,882 You don't need to take pictures and, you know, clothing. 492 00:21:27,882 --> 00:21:31,542 That's, you know, that you wouldn't go out in public in those sorts of things. 493 00:21:31,752 --> 00:21:35,472 And that's gonna help you avoid a lot of trouble right there. 494 00:21:35,772 --> 00:21:41,310 And also and a big one that's happened is, When, especially when online gaming. 495 00:21:41,700 --> 00:21:46,114 When online gaming happens you make a contact and that contact in the gaming 496 00:21:46,114 --> 00:21:50,644 world's called a friend, but they're not really your friend to little kids. 497 00:21:50,644 --> 00:21:51,724 They don't understand that. 498 00:21:51,724 --> 00:21:53,854 So if they're playing Minecraft or something like that, you're 499 00:21:53,854 --> 00:21:56,734 like, oh, I added this friend, this person is my friend. 500 00:21:56,774 --> 00:21:59,374 Humans have an understanding of what friendship is. 501 00:21:59,854 --> 00:22:02,824 But when you put it into a digital perspective, it's completely different. 502 00:22:03,094 --> 00:22:06,184 So you have to tell your kids, okay, just because this person has called 503 00:22:06,184 --> 00:22:09,844 a friend on this gaming platform does not mean that they have full access 504 00:22:09,844 --> 00:22:12,454 to you as a person all the time. 505 00:22:12,694 --> 00:22:14,884 So you don't tell them where you go to school. 506 00:22:15,364 --> 00:22:18,424 Don't tell them, you know your age, don't tell them your birthday. 507 00:22:18,429 --> 00:22:22,204 Don't send them pictures, don't let them send you things. 508 00:22:22,504 --> 00:22:23,224 That sort of thing. 509 00:22:23,229 --> 00:22:27,124 So if you can set the expectation for how your kids are supposed to 510 00:22:27,124 --> 00:22:30,934 behave and then tell them what side, what sort of information they are not 511 00:22:30,934 --> 00:22:35,854 supposed to share, they're gonna be far ahead of everybody else and they're 512 00:22:35,854 --> 00:22:38,044 going to be a harder target for. 513 00:22:39,514 --> 00:22:39,724 Okay. 514 00:22:40,324 --> 00:22:42,544 I actually have a personal pet peeve. 515 00:22:42,544 --> 00:22:46,924 I blame Facebook for the destruction of the concept of friends. 516 00:22:47,344 --> 00:22:47,644 Right? 517 00:22:47,649 --> 00:22:48,044 Yeah. 518 00:22:48,154 --> 00:22:48,437 Yeah. 519 00:22:48,462 --> 00:22:48,787 I see. 520 00:22:48,787 --> 00:22:49,117 Yeah. 521 00:22:49,687 --> 00:22:53,497 When they named, they were the first ones to say, this person you made 522 00:22:53,502 --> 00:22:55,627 contact with is a friend's list. 523 00:22:55,627 --> 00:22:55,717 Mm-hmm. 524 00:22:56,137 --> 00:23:00,937 . It was like, now I got like a couple friends that, that's it. 525 00:23:00,942 --> 00:23:01,057 Mm-hmm. 526 00:23:01,137 --> 00:23:02,287 , I got a lot of acquaintances. 527 00:23:02,917 --> 00:23:04,987 I got a lot of people, like, I'll go around the way and 528 00:23:04,987 --> 00:23:05,767 be like, Hey, what's up? 529 00:23:05,848 --> 00:23:09,398 Let's go out, let's get a coffee or something, but, Actual concept of 530 00:23:09,398 --> 00:23:11,108 friend really started to fall apart. 531 00:23:11,108 --> 00:23:14,648 I think with Facebook labeling all your contacts as your friends. 532 00:23:15,158 --> 00:23:15,458 Mm-hmm. 533 00:23:16,178 --> 00:23:16,988 that you're right. 534 00:23:17,168 --> 00:23:18,308 Yeah, man, you are right. 535 00:23:18,548 --> 00:23:20,091 Do you remember back when oh, what was it? 536 00:23:20,091 --> 00:23:20,991 Was it MySpace? 537 00:23:21,591 --> 00:23:24,471 Was cutthroat where you had to put your top eight friends on your 538 00:23:24,471 --> 00:23:26,301 profile page or something like that. 539 00:23:26,301 --> 00:23:27,891 I remember that caused problems. 540 00:23:28,281 --> 00:23:28,821 So yeah. 541 00:23:28,956 --> 00:23:29,952 That's yeah, you're right. 542 00:23:29,952 --> 00:23:33,672 The Facebook, we, another thing to blame Facebook for , you know, 543 00:23:33,672 --> 00:23:35,922 not, there's not a real shortage of 544 00:23:36,252 --> 00:23:36,942 those, but, 545 00:23:37,152 --> 00:23:37,272 you know. 546 00:23:37,272 --> 00:23:42,012 No, that's, to me, just tracing it back, that's always where it's like, mm-hmm. 547 00:23:42,097 --> 00:23:44,622 , man, this really kinda started to get diluted right here. 548 00:23:45,072 --> 00:23:45,372 Mm-hmm. 549 00:23:46,002 --> 00:23:47,952 . Now Andy, there are a lot of people. 550 00:23:49,557 --> 00:23:50,907 Think we're a little overprotective. 551 00:23:51,157 --> 00:23:51,767 Mm-hmm. 552 00:23:52,047 --> 00:23:53,418 , you know what I can be a little overprotective. 553 00:23:53,437 --> 00:23:54,790 I'm sure I'll accept that. 554 00:23:55,450 --> 00:23:58,300 But let's talk about the difference between awareness, 555 00:23:58,305 --> 00:23:59,710 preparedness, and paranoia. 556 00:24:00,580 --> 00:24:01,060 Sure. 557 00:24:01,570 --> 00:24:08,106 It's a fine line and it is it's, is as much as an individual as you are. 558 00:24:08,127 --> 00:24:13,214 There will be times that when you start to learn about situational awareness. 559 00:24:13,574 --> 00:24:16,754 It's kinda like the old adage when you get a nice hammer, 560 00:24:16,934 --> 00:24:18,164 everything looks like a nail. 561 00:24:18,164 --> 00:24:21,014 So you just wanna, you know, hammer in that new nail that you see. 562 00:24:21,023 --> 00:24:24,035 And there'll be a time when you start to look at situational awareness, understand 563 00:24:24,035 --> 00:24:26,015 what it is, and you will get paranoid. 564 00:24:26,045 --> 00:24:29,255 That's just part of, I think, the human learning process. 565 00:24:29,615 --> 00:24:32,405 And you've got to understand that yes, you do have this skillset 566 00:24:32,405 --> 00:24:34,205 to look for pre attack indicator. 567 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:39,500 But chances are 99% of the places you walk into, you're not gonna see that 568 00:24:39,500 --> 00:24:41,000 because nothing's actually happening. 569 00:24:41,330 --> 00:24:43,130 And sometimes you just kind of wanna make it up. 570 00:24:43,130 --> 00:24:46,115 And that's where the paranoia and the anxiety can come in. 571 00:24:46,655 --> 00:24:51,275 And it's important to note those things so that when you start to feel that way, 572 00:24:51,275 --> 00:24:54,705 you start to have like this physiological response to something that's going on. 573 00:24:55,595 --> 00:24:58,265 Especially in those early days, you gotta say, okay, is this really 574 00:24:58,265 --> 00:25:02,075 happening or do I just kind of want this to happen so I can use my new skill? 575 00:25:02,465 --> 00:25:06,848 So it's it's just something that you've got to learn as you go and you 576 00:25:06,853 --> 00:25:10,268 just gotta put in the experience to understand what's really going on. 577 00:25:10,478 --> 00:25:12,818 Because there'll be, sometimes you'll look at something and you'll say, 578 00:25:12,818 --> 00:25:14,348 Hey, that wasn't really anything. 579 00:25:14,618 --> 00:25:18,713 But then you'll see that exact same behavior on like, Ring video that's 580 00:25:18,713 --> 00:25:22,103 been uploaded to Instagram and it was actually the, a pre event indicator to 581 00:25:22,108 --> 00:25:23,783 a crime in that particular scenario. 582 00:25:24,173 --> 00:25:27,443 So it's really all based on who you are and where you are. 583 00:25:27,500 --> 00:25:32,960 But don't let that scare you in starting your journey to be prepared. 584 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:37,010 Don't let that scare you in your journey to understand human behavior, because 585 00:25:37,010 --> 00:25:38,810 it's all part of the learning process. 586 00:25:38,900 --> 00:25:39,380 And. 587 00:25:40,070 --> 00:25:42,800 Once you get a handle on it, it's actually, it's really good. 588 00:25:43,130 --> 00:25:47,040 So one of the things that I like to do, a lot of people get burned out 589 00:25:47,070 --> 00:25:49,350 when they start to try to understand what's going on around them. 590 00:25:49,980 --> 00:25:53,700 Because your brain can only handle so much of this type of processing, cuz after 591 00:25:53,700 --> 00:25:55,170 a while it's just gonna get burned out. 592 00:25:55,170 --> 00:25:57,360 So you can't do it all the time. 593 00:25:57,360 --> 00:26:01,860 So I tell people to develop what's called secure habits and those secure 594 00:26:01,860 --> 00:26:05,058 habits and we'll make up, you said, you know, invite a friend out for coffee. 595 00:26:05,148 --> 00:26:06,528 That was something you said a second ago. 596 00:26:06,528 --> 00:26:10,209 So like, if I were to meet a friend for coffee, I would sit to where I 597 00:26:10,209 --> 00:26:11,739 could kind of see what was going on. 598 00:26:12,069 --> 00:26:13,839 And you wanna be present in those moments. 599 00:26:13,839 --> 00:26:17,109 You don't wanna be completely paranoid looking at all of the exits. 600 00:26:17,319 --> 00:26:20,049 This guy's reaching into a bag over here, what's he gonna pull out? 601 00:26:20,054 --> 00:26:20,769 What's gonna happen? 602 00:26:20,774 --> 00:26:21,669 And all that sort of stuff. 603 00:26:21,669 --> 00:26:23,533 You're not Jason Bourne, that sort of thing. 604 00:26:23,833 --> 00:26:27,673 So it's really every once in a while when there's a break in the conversation, 605 00:26:27,673 --> 00:26:31,513 take a quick look around, see who is, you know, acting like they're 606 00:26:31,973 --> 00:26:36,073 supposed to be in that environment who maybe looks agitated, who maybe. 607 00:26:37,088 --> 00:26:38,588 Too calm, that sort of thing. 608 00:26:38,588 --> 00:26:40,838 And those are the things you're supposed to pay attention to, but then come 609 00:26:40,838 --> 00:26:44,708 back to the person that you're there present with, whether it's your friend 610 00:26:44,708 --> 00:26:47,598 that you're getting coffee with or your wife on a date, that sort of thing. 611 00:26:47,621 --> 00:26:50,091 And pay attention to her because that's why you're here. 612 00:26:50,091 --> 00:26:50,931 That's what you're doing. 613 00:26:51,201 --> 00:26:53,981 But then also use the secure habits to every once in a while. 614 00:26:54,356 --> 00:26:56,606 Just take stock of what's happening around you. 615 00:26:57,116 --> 00:27:00,206 And then if you do see something, you may have to divert a little bit more 616 00:27:00,206 --> 00:27:03,686 attention to that to make a decision as to what you need to do next. 617 00:27:04,016 --> 00:27:07,796 But if you just work it in those little areas, you know, the person 618 00:27:07,796 --> 00:27:10,556 you're with a little further out to what's going on at the restaurant. 619 00:27:10,556 --> 00:27:13,028 And then I'm gonna take a look around at what's going on the door. 620 00:27:13,358 --> 00:27:16,418 If you could just rotate between those three things, that's a great start. 621 00:27:17,318 --> 00:27:17,528 Okay. 622 00:27:18,578 --> 00:27:19,670 I I had a c. 623 00:27:20,430 --> 00:27:23,904 Who I knew him enough years that I got to see him go from, you 624 00:27:23,904 --> 00:27:27,804 know, younger guy who like was shy away from family conversations 625 00:27:27,804 --> 00:27:30,594 to engage to married to children. 626 00:27:30,984 --> 00:27:31,164 Right. 627 00:27:31,164 --> 00:27:34,044 I worked with him long enough over the years and he had 628 00:27:34,044 --> 00:27:36,204 a son and was loving life. 629 00:27:36,624 --> 00:27:42,264 He came to me when his son was like a year and a half old and he just had this like, 630 00:27:42,594 --> 00:27:48,024 almost distressed look about him, and I asked him like, Hey man, what's going on? 631 00:27:48,789 --> 00:27:49,689 My wife's pregnant. 632 00:27:49,779 --> 00:27:51,339 I was like, dude, congratulations. 633 00:27:51,410 --> 00:27:52,550 That's amazing news. 634 00:27:52,550 --> 00:27:53,030 Why do you look? 635 00:27:53,450 --> 00:27:55,700 He's like, how do you sleep at night? 636 00:27:56,090 --> 00:27:59,960 Cause I have two daughters and he had just found out his wife was suspecting 637 00:27:59,960 --> 00:28:06,680 a little girl, and he was just like, he, he said everything changed. 638 00:28:07,310 --> 00:28:07,400 Mm-hmm. 639 00:28:07,730 --> 00:28:07,820 , right? 640 00:28:07,820 --> 00:28:11,043 I, I don't know, I didn't feel about this with my son, but the minute 641 00:28:11,823 --> 00:28:15,123 she said she was pregnant with a girl, like I said, yes, everybody 642 00:28:15,123 --> 00:28:16,743 in the world became a creep and an. 643 00:28:17,448 --> 00:28:17,958 Yes. 644 00:28:18,198 --> 00:28:18,588 Yes. 645 00:28:19,248 --> 00:28:19,758 . I like it. 646 00:28:19,758 --> 00:28:20,808 You're right, you're right. 647 00:28:21,318 --> 00:28:25,578 I told him, I was like, the trick is to not fall into that paranoia, 648 00:28:25,638 --> 00:28:31,578 because that's, that's the hardest thing when you get that news, is you 649 00:28:32,138 --> 00:28:33,438 instinctively wanna protect your child. 650 00:28:33,798 --> 00:28:33,948 Mm-hmm. 651 00:28:34,428 --> 00:28:38,688 , you instinctively, especially right, men are drawn to protect women. 652 00:28:39,708 --> 00:28:40,518 Than we are boys. 653 00:28:40,546 --> 00:28:43,239 We're top boys are supposed to be rough and tumble, but mm-hmm. 654 00:28:43,389 --> 00:28:45,429 , you know, having a father makes you a little more paranoid. 655 00:28:45,849 --> 00:28:47,619 Having girls makes you really paranoid. 656 00:28:47,739 --> 00:28:49,419 Cause every guy is now a creep. 657 00:28:49,839 --> 00:28:52,389 You never look at a girl quite same way again. 658 00:28:52,719 --> 00:28:53,679 Right, right, right. 659 00:28:53,709 --> 00:28:56,169 All those little teenage girls on Instagram, I'm just like, 660 00:28:56,199 --> 00:28:57,399 put some clothes on, man. 661 00:28:57,404 --> 00:28:57,709 Yeah. 662 00:28:58,989 --> 00:28:59,439 . Yeah. 663 00:28:59,559 --> 00:28:59,769 He's 664 00:28:59,769 --> 00:29:00,039 gone. 665 00:29:00,419 --> 00:29:01,029 Mm-hmm. 666 00:29:01,035 --> 00:29:02,829 , go to this gym, you're like, get dress. 667 00:29:03,564 --> 00:29:04,494 Just get dressed. 668 00:29:04,499 --> 00:29:04,974 What's wrong with you? 669 00:29:07,284 --> 00:29:10,734 . But the trick is to not go too far down that rabbit hole. 670 00:29:11,154 --> 00:29:11,394 Right? 671 00:29:11,399 --> 00:29:11,544 Right. 672 00:29:11,643 --> 00:29:15,663 Life has gotta continue and you should always be aware it's going around you. 673 00:29:15,775 --> 00:29:19,885 I've had to, being around a lot of military guys and intelligence 674 00:29:19,885 --> 00:29:24,385 community guys and officer of the law and just watching them over the 675 00:29:24,385 --> 00:29:27,355 years in all these public situations. 676 00:29:27,970 --> 00:29:31,000 And I had a friend who he could never sit with his back to the door. 677 00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:34,660 He worked in military intelligence when he was the military and like 678 00:29:35,710 --> 00:29:39,460 he wouldn't strike most people as paranoid, but it was fun to watch 679 00:29:39,465 --> 00:29:41,170 and observe him right the way. 680 00:29:41,170 --> 00:29:46,670 He watched room very casually, very comfortably, right? 681 00:29:46,780 --> 00:29:50,500 He didn't look paranoid, he didn't look worried, but I knew without a doubt, he 682 00:29:50,500 --> 00:29:52,630 was aware of everything that was happen. 683 00:29:53,845 --> 00:29:55,945 and that's what we're talking about with situational awareness, right? 684 00:29:55,945 --> 00:30:02,125 It's not necessarily letting it rapidly change who you are as much as just 685 00:30:02,635 --> 00:30:06,415 being more aware, paying attention to what's going on around you, right? 686 00:30:06,415 --> 00:30:07,375 Not being oblivious. 687 00:30:07,375 --> 00:30:09,055 People walking around with their phones down and their 688 00:30:09,060 --> 00:30:10,525 hand or their head down on their 689 00:30:11,575 --> 00:30:12,185 mm-hmm. 690 00:30:13,045 --> 00:30:14,215 It's driving me nuts. 691 00:30:14,365 --> 00:30:14,815 I see that all. 692 00:30:14,815 --> 00:30:14,875 Yeah. 693 00:30:14,875 --> 00:30:15,805 It drive me crazy. 694 00:30:15,835 --> 00:30:16,045 Yeah. 695 00:30:16,045 --> 00:30:19,408 I I took my wife Christmas shopping at the mall, I think last 696 00:30:19,408 --> 00:30:20,848 Christmas, two Christmases ago. 697 00:30:21,088 --> 00:30:22,378 And I just don't go to malls. 698 00:30:22,408 --> 00:30:24,748 I'm not a mall guy, you know, that sort of thing. 699 00:30:25,048 --> 00:30:28,738 So I took her and she wanted to go to this, you know, sale or whatever, and so 700 00:30:28,743 --> 00:30:31,258 I'm like, oh, I'm just gonna sit in people watch, you know, cuz that's what I do. 701 00:30:31,258 --> 00:30:34,414 And I do like to do that, see, you know, practice skills, all this sort of stuff. 702 00:30:34,894 --> 00:30:38,704 So I realize when I'm sitting there on this bench that I'm the only 703 00:30:38,704 --> 00:30:42,484 person who doesn't have their, Everybody else has their phone out. 704 00:30:42,489 --> 00:30:46,204 And that makes me the anomaly in this situation. 705 00:30:46,204 --> 00:30:48,094 That makes me look like the weird guy. 706 00:30:48,454 --> 00:30:51,724 Oh, everybody else here has their phone, but that dude over there doesn't, 707 00:30:52,174 --> 00:30:53,464 you know, and he looks like nice. 708 00:30:53,469 --> 00:30:54,694 And he's smiling at people. 709 00:30:54,694 --> 00:30:55,684 What's wrong with him? 710 00:30:55,954 --> 00:30:56,284 You know? 711 00:30:56,284 --> 00:30:58,984 And so I was like, well, I guess I gotta get my phone out so I 712 00:30:58,984 --> 00:31:01,414 don't appear to be that abnormal. 713 00:31:01,624 --> 00:31:03,034 So I would just hold my phone up. 714 00:31:03,034 --> 00:31:04,204 It's like still on my lock. 715 00:31:05,089 --> 00:31:07,939 So I just look down at it every once in a while and then look back 716 00:31:07,939 --> 00:31:10,459 up around at everybody else who had their face in their phone. 717 00:31:10,759 --> 00:31:13,279 And I'm thinking, man, like I could have walked up to like a number 718 00:31:13,279 --> 00:31:15,619 of people and then just picked their purse up and just walked off. 719 00:31:15,619 --> 00:31:16,980 And I don't think they ever would've noticed. 720 00:31:17,002 --> 00:31:19,497 I'm trying not to laugh here guys and laugh over him talking 721 00:31:19,502 --> 00:31:20,877 because it's killing me. 722 00:31:20,882 --> 00:31:23,637 Cuz I, I know, I knew exactly how that story was gonna play. 723 00:31:23,717 --> 00:31:24,197 Mm-hmm. 724 00:31:24,567 --> 00:31:24,837 . Cause I've done that. 725 00:31:25,047 --> 00:31:26,667 I've been sitting in like a waiting room. 726 00:31:27,327 --> 00:31:27,417 Mm-hmm. 727 00:31:27,657 --> 00:31:28,398 and I love to watch. 728 00:31:29,577 --> 00:31:30,627 And I've been sitting in a waiting room. 729 00:31:30,627 --> 00:31:34,347 I notice everybody's like in the, it's all pull out my phone 730 00:31:34,352 --> 00:31:35,937 and holding up my hand and Yeah. 731 00:31:36,387 --> 00:31:39,417 look up and watch a little bit and look down at my phone. 732 00:31:41,007 --> 00:31:41,307 Yeah. 733 00:31:41,397 --> 00:31:41,697 Yep. 734 00:31:41,997 --> 00:31:45,897 You realize that's how I stand out right now. 735 00:31:46,917 --> 00:31:49,167 And honestly, that's part of situational awareness too, is you 736 00:31:49,437 --> 00:31:51,027 don't wanna stand out all the time. 737 00:31:51,087 --> 00:31:52,077 Right, right. 738 00:31:52,887 --> 00:31:56,367 You know, they, most of the guys I've known over the years who 739 00:31:56,367 --> 00:31:57,597 worked in like special forces. 740 00:31:58,602 --> 00:32:03,819 Amazing men, but they were never what they don't look like 741 00:32:03,819 --> 00:32:05,739 Arnell, Soze nigger, right? 742 00:32:06,279 --> 00:32:12,279 It doesn't look like the movies they're experts at looking like everybody else. 743 00:32:12,339 --> 00:32:15,429 Not standing out, not being noticeable. 744 00:32:16,329 --> 00:32:17,919 That's the last thing they generally want. 745 00:32:18,369 --> 00:32:20,366 Hey guys we're having some fun conversation about this, 746 00:32:20,366 --> 00:32:21,506 talking about the situation. 747 00:32:22,316 --> 00:32:26,636 When we come back from a break, we're going to get into how you. 748 00:32:26,981 --> 00:32:32,081 Can start to implement better actions, better choices, and build yourself a plan 749 00:32:32,531 --> 00:32:34,391 for how you can keep your family safer. 750 00:32:34,391 --> 00:32:36,394 Because ultimately, we all wanna keep our family safe. 751 00:32:36,994 --> 00:32:40,384 We all wanna take care of the people we love and Andy's gonna help us do that. 752 00:32:40,384 --> 00:32:43,684 In this next section of the show, how well do you sleep at night? 753 00:32:43,804 --> 00:32:46,414 Do you toss and turn and wake up more tired than when you went to bed? 754 00:32:46,924 --> 00:32:50,434 Sleep is commonly one of the critical elements people fall short on in their. 755 00:32:51,199 --> 00:32:54,079 The quality of sleep you get directly affects your ability to control 756 00:32:54,079 --> 00:32:57,469 your weight, your ability to add muscle, your stress levels, and your 757 00:32:57,909 --> 00:32:59,179 everyday job and life performance. 758 00:32:59,779 --> 00:33:03,709 If you're ready to move to the next level, then sleep has to be part of the plan. 759 00:33:04,339 --> 00:33:07,549 Check out our friends@ghostbed.com if you're ready to get your best sleep. 760 00:33:07,609 --> 00:33:08,509 I love my ghost bed. 761 00:33:08,514 --> 00:33:11,629 I've been sleeping on one for a couple years and has made a 762 00:33:11,629 --> 00:33:12,799 huge difference in how I sleep. 763 00:33:13,189 --> 00:33:17,209 Hit ghost bed.com and use the code, the Fallible Man 30 to get 30% off your 764 00:33:17,214 --> 00:33:18,979 order and start getting better night's. 765 00:33:18,979 --> 00:33:20,149 Sleep tomorrow. 766 00:33:21,214 --> 00:33:23,164 Now let's go on to the show. 767 00:33:24,304 --> 00:33:24,994 Welcome back guys. 768 00:33:24,994 --> 00:33:28,714 We're here with the host of the Secure Dad Podcast, Andy Murphy, talking 769 00:33:28,714 --> 00:33:30,994 about keeping our loved ones safe. 770 00:33:31,504 --> 00:33:36,874 We're gonna help you build a plan to make it easier on you, to make you more 771 00:33:36,874 --> 00:33:38,764 prepared, and help you protect that. 772 00:33:38,824 --> 00:33:40,084 What's most important to you? 773 00:33:40,834 --> 00:33:45,754 Now, Andy, you have something you called a layered home defense strategy? 774 00:33:46,144 --> 00:33:49,257 Yes, and I want him to introduce that concept to our listen. 775 00:33:49,947 --> 00:33:53,607 So they can understand what's going on there and how this is more beneficial. 776 00:33:53,607 --> 00:33:53,847 Right. 777 00:33:53,847 --> 00:33:56,898 Because a lot of us wanna fall back to, oh, well, you know, 778 00:33:56,967 --> 00:33:59,037 I'll just fight my way out of it. 779 00:33:59,037 --> 00:34:00,763 And that's probably not the best answer. 780 00:34:01,213 --> 00:34:01,693 Sure. 781 00:34:02,203 --> 00:34:02,803 So, yeah. 782 00:34:02,803 --> 00:34:07,061 When when it comes to home security, and this is where this comes in, it's you 783 00:34:07,061 --> 00:34:12,641 wanna have a plan because when the alarm goes off or the dog starts barking, or 784 00:34:12,641 --> 00:34:15,881 you hear somebody kicking in the front door, that is not the time to make a. 785 00:34:16,466 --> 00:34:20,006 That's the time to execute your plan, which means you've had to 786 00:34:20,006 --> 00:34:23,426 think about this well in advance. 787 00:34:23,846 --> 00:34:26,366 So, what you need to understand first is you gotta take 788 00:34:26,366 --> 00:34:29,876 responsibility That you know your safety is your own responsibility. 789 00:34:29,876 --> 00:34:31,616 That's the thing that you have to understand. 790 00:34:31,886 --> 00:34:35,936 And if you're a dad, Then the, your responsibility is also your wife. 791 00:34:35,966 --> 00:34:37,026 It is also your children. 792 00:34:37,055 --> 00:34:41,745 So the, that's a big thing that you've got to get straight first mentally. 793 00:34:41,946 --> 00:34:45,455 So really like the precursor to the layer home defense strategy is 794 00:34:45,460 --> 00:34:48,485 going to be your mental awareness. 795 00:34:48,485 --> 00:34:52,926 It's gonna be what you have prepared to do, what you know that you've done, 796 00:34:52,985 --> 00:34:54,545 and you've made a plan in advance. 797 00:34:54,935 --> 00:34:58,926 So when you take a look at this, the first step in. 798 00:35:00,125 --> 00:35:04,176 This process I actually call discipline and what is in discipline. 799 00:35:04,176 --> 00:35:07,236 You know, there's like the five D's of home security and nobody 800 00:35:07,236 --> 00:35:08,586 can ever remember what they are. 801 00:35:08,591 --> 00:35:09,875 So I came up with my own. 802 00:35:10,206 --> 00:35:13,895 So the first one is discipline, and it's really going to be the 803 00:35:13,986 --> 00:35:16,686 day-to-day stuff of locking your doors. 804 00:35:17,631 --> 00:35:22,472 Locking your windows, making sure that you know if a a cleaning service has been 805 00:35:22,472 --> 00:35:25,830 in your house or technicians have been in your house, making sure that the windows 806 00:35:25,830 --> 00:35:27,990 are closed and locked after they left. 807 00:35:27,990 --> 00:35:31,804 In my particular area, there was a case where there was a home cleaning 808 00:35:31,804 --> 00:35:35,974 service that was kind of a fly-by-night operation, and they were going around 809 00:35:35,974 --> 00:35:38,464 and cleaning up people's houses, but they would leave one window. 810 00:35:39,334 --> 00:35:42,004 Because then the rest of their crew would come in later when they knew 811 00:35:42,004 --> 00:35:43,114 that the homeowner wasn't there. 812 00:35:43,384 --> 00:35:46,354 They would open up that window, steal whatever they wanted to slip back 813 00:35:46,354 --> 00:35:47,944 out that window, and they were gone. 814 00:35:48,304 --> 00:35:52,188 The problem with this particular crew is they they did it like three 815 00:35:52,193 --> 00:35:55,668 times in one week, so the police found them like pretty quick. 816 00:35:55,668 --> 00:35:59,406 That was a pretty easy one to figure out, but if you have the discipline, 817 00:36:00,111 --> 00:36:03,512 To go around every night make sure that your doors and windows are locked. 818 00:36:03,512 --> 00:36:06,242 Make sure that the, you know, alarm system is set on. 819 00:36:06,572 --> 00:36:08,922 That's gonna be the thing that helps you. 820 00:36:08,971 --> 00:36:14,398 Byron Rods is an executive protection guru and he was on my show one time and he was 821 00:36:14,398 --> 00:36:18,478 like, man, you can have all the greatest defenses in the world, but if you don. 822 00:36:18,883 --> 00:36:21,043 You know, arm your alarm system. 823 00:36:21,253 --> 00:36:24,036 If you don't make sure that your weapons are ready to go. 824 00:36:24,036 --> 00:36:27,456 If you don't make sure your doors are locked, it doesn't matter because if 825 00:36:27,456 --> 00:36:33,096 you can't handle the discipline of what this is, then you are, you know, 826 00:36:33,110 --> 00:36:37,788 you're, Not gonna win because you have chosen not to take this seriously. 827 00:36:37,788 --> 00:36:39,048 So discipline is the first part. 828 00:36:39,618 --> 00:36:41,898 So the next part is deterrence. 829 00:36:42,198 --> 00:36:46,908 And this is something when it comes to home security that I don't think people 830 00:36:46,968 --> 00:36:53,103 understand and that is, You don't want somebody to break into your house. 831 00:36:53,343 --> 00:36:56,793 I there's all sorts of memes online about and there's like a standup comedian 832 00:36:56,793 --> 00:36:59,535 who's like, oh, I have this fantasy about somebody breaking into my house where 833 00:36:59,535 --> 00:37:01,292 I do all of these things and all that. 834 00:37:01,862 --> 00:37:02,702 It's not gonna happen. 835 00:37:02,707 --> 00:37:05,882 Kind of like we alluded to earlier, you're not gonna gain the skills of Chuck Norris. 836 00:37:06,092 --> 00:37:09,612 The best thing for you to do with your family is to win the. 837 00:37:10,112 --> 00:37:14,222 Before it ever starts, and that means you make your home a hard 838 00:37:14,222 --> 00:37:19,022 target so that it has never chosen for a break-in in the first place. 839 00:37:19,352 --> 00:37:24,422 You just subtly communicate to somebody who wants to break into your home. 840 00:37:24,422 --> 00:37:26,042 But hey, this is gonna be. 841 00:37:26,352 --> 00:37:27,432 A lot harder to do. 842 00:37:27,432 --> 00:37:29,262 The juice is not worth the squeeze here. 843 00:37:29,652 --> 00:37:33,733 Go check out the neighbor's house and that can be done by at night. 844 00:37:33,742 --> 00:37:36,952 A lot of people, they turn off all the lights inside and outside 845 00:37:36,957 --> 00:37:38,182 and it is completely dark. 846 00:37:38,392 --> 00:37:40,252 Well, darkness is a thief's best friend. 847 00:37:40,672 --> 00:37:43,822 So what you wanna do is take that darkness away because in that darkness 848 00:37:43,822 --> 00:37:47,002 they can move up close to your house, they can look in the windows, they can 849 00:37:47,002 --> 00:37:50,452 check and see if their front door's unlocked, all those sorts of things. 850 00:37:50,512 --> 00:37:52,732 So if you just simply add light to your. 851 00:37:54,087 --> 00:37:57,237 That's gonna make it a harder target simply because they know, Hey, wait 852 00:37:57,237 --> 00:37:58,347 a minute, if I get close enough. 853 00:37:59,097 --> 00:38:00,267 I'm gonna get spotted. 854 00:38:00,537 --> 00:38:03,567 One of the easiest ways to do that, and I don't necessarily recommend 855 00:38:03,567 --> 00:38:07,257 products because a lot of what I talk about is preparedness and mindset. 856 00:38:07,647 --> 00:38:10,737 But one of the easiest products that you can get right now that's gonna 857 00:38:10,742 --> 00:38:14,847 help make your home safer is something called a dawn to dust light bulb. 858 00:38:15,267 --> 00:38:18,387 And what that is, it's a light bulb with a little photo sensors 859 00:38:18,392 --> 00:38:22,227 in it, and it will know when the sun is up and when the sun is down. 860 00:38:22,407 --> 00:38:23,907 And when the sun is up, it stays off. 861 00:38:23,967 --> 00:38:25,467 When the sun goes down, it comes on. 862 00:38:25,737 --> 00:38:28,197 So you just put that in your porch light, just screw it on. 863 00:38:29,037 --> 00:38:33,417 Flip the switch and walk away, and when the, you know, sunset happens, 864 00:38:33,447 --> 00:38:36,567 it's gonna come on and it's gonna protect your front door, which 865 00:38:36,572 --> 00:38:38,307 is, by the way, the number one. 866 00:38:39,072 --> 00:38:41,420 That criminals get in your home is through the front door. 867 00:38:41,660 --> 00:38:45,050 You think it'd be something a little bit sneakier, but according to all of the 868 00:38:45,050 --> 00:38:48,650 stats over the last few years, people like to come in through the front door. 869 00:38:48,650 --> 00:38:52,700 So put that light up there at church. 870 00:38:52,700 --> 00:38:54,090 You flip, you switch, walk away. 871 00:38:54,095 --> 00:38:56,940 You think you about it again, but it's gonna add that light to your 872 00:38:56,940 --> 00:38:58,860 front door and someone's gonna look at it and say, you know what? 873 00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:00,570 I don't have a clear path here. 874 00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:03,480 And if I try to kick the store in, you know, people are gonna 875 00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:05,280 see me from three to four houses. 876 00:39:06,180 --> 00:39:07,410 I'm just not gonna do that. 877 00:39:07,410 --> 00:39:09,900 I'm gonna go to the house that looks darker. 878 00:39:10,470 --> 00:39:13,740 So that's just a subtle way that you can communicate and that's gonna be 879 00:39:13,740 --> 00:39:17,160 a subtle way that you know, really deter anything from happening. 880 00:39:17,490 --> 00:39:21,570 And you may not ever realize how your deterrents work because. 881 00:39:22,380 --> 00:39:23,580 Nothing ever happens. 882 00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:25,950 It's kind of like, well, I've done all this stuff to my house 883 00:39:25,950 --> 00:39:27,180 and nobody's tried to break in. 884 00:39:27,720 --> 00:39:28,380 Great. 885 00:39:28,620 --> 00:39:30,210 Like, that's the point. 886 00:39:30,570 --> 00:39:31,950 You don't want that to happen. 887 00:39:31,955 --> 00:39:35,010 You don't want somebody to break into your home and you have 888 00:39:35,010 --> 00:39:36,210 to physically defend yourself. 889 00:39:36,210 --> 00:39:41,100 So let's do everything that we can to make sure that doesn't happen. 890 00:39:41,490 --> 00:39:44,170 And so, the next one is fortify. 891 00:39:44,590 --> 00:39:46,300 And this is when you wanna make it. 892 00:39:46,300 --> 00:39:47,200 If somebody does. 893 00:39:48,370 --> 00:39:50,650 Emboldened enough to come and try to break in your door, that 894 00:39:50,650 --> 00:39:54,880 it's gonna take the longest time that it can for that to happen. 895 00:39:55,030 --> 00:39:56,320 It's gonna make a lot of noise. 896 00:39:56,325 --> 00:39:59,740 You're gonna be aware that something is going on and the alarm is gonna go off. 897 00:40:00,130 --> 00:40:03,500 So, one of the things that you can do there, you know, you're a dad. 898 00:40:03,500 --> 00:40:07,430 I'm a dad, so when you look at, excuse me. 899 00:40:07,550 --> 00:40:13,940 So when you look at fortifying your home, you can't fortify it to the point that 900 00:40:13,940 --> 00:40:16,830 you can't get out in the event of a. 901 00:40:17,615 --> 00:40:20,525 A lot of people are like, oh, let's, you know, bar the door, let's do all 902 00:40:20,525 --> 00:40:22,365 these things and put 97 locks on it. 903 00:40:23,255 --> 00:40:25,655 I understand where you're coming from there, but you need to make 904 00:40:25,655 --> 00:40:29,585 smart choices because you need to get, be able to get out in the event 905 00:40:29,585 --> 00:40:31,175 of a fire, something like that. 906 00:40:31,445 --> 00:40:36,005 Or you may need a first responder to come break down your door because your house 907 00:40:36,005 --> 00:40:41,165 is on fire or because you've had some sort of medical emergency and EMS has 908 00:40:41,165 --> 00:40:42,785 gotta get into you, that sort of thing. 909 00:40:42,865 --> 00:40:46,920 So, Depending on the age of your kids, depending on where you 910 00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:48,060 live, those sorts of things. 911 00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:52,950 Make smart decisions about how you need to fortify your door, all that sort of stuff. 912 00:40:53,087 --> 00:40:56,657 And that can be covered there in the book and a few other resources that I have. 913 00:40:57,047 --> 00:40:59,030 So, the, that's just kind of where you start. 914 00:40:59,030 --> 00:41:00,860 Th there's a whole plan to it. 915 00:41:00,860 --> 00:41:04,580 It's not, again, when somebody starts kicking in the door, that's not, when you 916 00:41:04,580 --> 00:41:06,920 think of what to do, that's when you act. 917 00:41:07,970 --> 00:41:08,060 Ok. 918 00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:09,620 And. 919 00:41:10,900 --> 00:41:11,920 The book is an easy read. 920 00:41:12,190 --> 00:41:15,640 Like he, he didn't long and drawn out, he didn't throw in a bunch 921 00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:17,314 of information that was useless. 922 00:41:17,314 --> 00:41:22,356 I sat down and read it in, in one session, and yes, all of it is very valid. 923 00:41:22,746 --> 00:41:24,276 It's very easy to understand. 924 00:41:24,846 --> 00:41:29,496 It's just a step-by-step structure that is completely 925 00:41:30,276 --> 00:41:31,536 understandable and translatable. 926 00:41:31,536 --> 00:41:33,066 That's so, that's important. 927 00:41:33,066 --> 00:41:38,151 I read a lot of books and so the fact that it is, This is what I need to know. 928 00:41:38,261 --> 00:41:38,661 You. 929 00:41:38,661 --> 00:41:41,181 You didn't try and get fancy. 930 00:41:41,186 --> 00:41:42,561 You didn't add a bunch of fluff. 931 00:41:43,371 --> 00:41:44,601 This is what I need to know. 932 00:41:44,961 --> 00:41:45,831 This is what I need to 933 00:41:46,041 --> 00:41:46,491 consider. 934 00:41:46,941 --> 00:41:49,131 It does me a lot of good hearing you say that because 935 00:41:49,131 --> 00:41:50,541 that is exactly what I wanted. 936 00:41:50,541 --> 00:41:54,801 Because you are a busy dad and I wanted you to be able to sit down and read 937 00:41:54,806 --> 00:41:58,761 that book quickly, get everything that you needed to do to empower you to make 938 00:41:58,761 --> 00:42:00,591 good, safe decisions for your family. 939 00:42:00,891 --> 00:42:01,971 So that is awesome. 940 00:42:01,971 --> 00:42:03,501 That is, that is exactly what it's. 941 00:42:04,446 --> 00:42:06,666 Guys, of course that will be in the library. 942 00:42:06,666 --> 00:42:07,266 On the website. 943 00:42:07,266 --> 00:42:10,206 We'll also have links in the show notes and in the description of everything. 944 00:42:10,476 --> 00:42:11,556 So you can get that book. 945 00:42:12,696 --> 00:42:19,446 Now, there's a lot that's gonna go on in these kind of circumstances, right? 946 00:42:19,516 --> 00:42:20,771 In a worse scenario. 947 00:42:20,871 --> 00:42:21,291 Yes. 948 00:42:21,296 --> 00:42:24,791 One of the things you talked about is needing to exercise a family 949 00:42:24,819 --> 00:42:26,377 protection plan and plan it. 950 00:42:26,397 --> 00:42:26,487 Mm-hmm. 951 00:42:26,817 --> 00:42:29,637 , it's not something I had ever considered before, like, You know, 952 00:42:29,637 --> 00:42:30,897 we all think about fire drills. 953 00:42:30,897 --> 00:42:33,267 Well, what happens if the house catches on fire, right? 954 00:42:33,507 --> 00:42:33,597 Mm-hmm. 955 00:42:33,842 --> 00:42:34,647 , we teach our children that. 956 00:42:35,397 --> 00:42:37,017 It's never once occurred to me. 957 00:42:37,017 --> 00:42:38,847 It's like I do. 958 00:42:38,847 --> 00:42:41,968 I teach my children what happens if they hear really loud sounds in the night? 959 00:42:43,097 --> 00:42:43,377 . Mm-hmm. 960 00:42:43,947 --> 00:42:44,187 . Yeah. 961 00:42:44,253 --> 00:42:47,448 Depending on what your kids are mature enough to understand then yeah, you 962 00:42:47,448 --> 00:42:50,958 need to let them know a little along as to what you want them to do. 963 00:42:51,738 --> 00:42:56,298 Also know that in a panic of something like this, your kids may 964 00:42:56,298 --> 00:42:58,008 not respond like they're supposed to. 965 00:42:58,428 --> 00:43:01,188 So you still, as the parent, are still probably gonna have to go 966 00:43:01,188 --> 00:43:03,765 get them put your hands on them, make sure that they're moving away 967 00:43:03,765 --> 00:43:04,845 from danger, that sort of thing. 968 00:43:04,845 --> 00:43:05,455 You can't. 969 00:43:05,865 --> 00:43:10,545 You can't count on young, inexperienced minds to make the best decision in 970 00:43:10,545 --> 00:43:12,585 such a dynamic, stressful situation. 971 00:43:12,975 --> 00:43:16,365 So yeah, like talk to them about, okay, if at night. 972 00:43:17,495 --> 00:43:21,015 Somebody tries to get in through the front door, we meet here, or mommy and 973 00:43:21,015 --> 00:43:24,585 daddy is gonna come and get you, and we're gonna go back to this safe room, 974 00:43:24,585 --> 00:43:26,805 or we are going to flee the house. 975 00:43:26,805 --> 00:43:29,805 We're gonna call this person responsible for calling 9 1 1. 976 00:43:29,811 --> 00:43:33,480 If you have an older person in the home, maybe you actually barricade yourself. 977 00:43:33,510 --> 00:43:35,730 One person barricades themselves with that older person to 978 00:43:35,730 --> 00:43:37,020 protect them, that sort of thing. 979 00:43:37,495 --> 00:43:41,485 Those are all things that are unique to your family that you do need to talk 980 00:43:41,485 --> 00:43:45,205 about, that you do need to have sure you know, a full understanding of what's 981 00:43:45,205 --> 00:43:47,425 going on and actually walk through it. 982 00:43:47,785 --> 00:43:48,985 Don't make it scary. 983 00:43:49,225 --> 00:43:52,675 Kind of make it a game, especially if you have younger kids, you know, oh, 984 00:43:52,675 --> 00:43:54,475 hey, there's a problem at the front door. 985 00:43:54,475 --> 00:43:55,015 What do we do? 986 00:43:55,045 --> 00:43:58,165 Okay, we're all gonna get up and we're gonna go to the back door and we're 987 00:43:58,165 --> 00:43:59,455 gonna go out through the backyard. 988 00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,730 And we're gonna go to this neighbor for help, that sort of thing. 989 00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:07,557 And you don't want to, schools are getting into a lot of trouble right now because 990 00:44:07,562 --> 00:44:12,340 a lot of the active shooter training has been too realistic for some kids. 991 00:44:12,409 --> 00:44:16,219 So there's that fine line, and you being the parent of your children, 992 00:44:16,609 --> 00:44:17,719 you know what they can handle. 993 00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:21,199 You know what they're ready for, you know how to speak to them, which is one of the 994 00:44:21,199 --> 00:44:22,609 things that I like about the secure Dad. 995 00:44:22,819 --> 00:44:26,779 I provide the parents information, and then the parents become smarter, and then 996 00:44:26,784 --> 00:44:28,609 they make the choices for their kids. 997 00:44:28,609 --> 00:44:29,959 I don't tell your kids what to do. 998 00:44:30,379 --> 00:44:31,159 You love them. 999 00:44:31,164 --> 00:44:31,939 You know them. 1000 00:44:32,269 --> 00:44:35,029 You educate them in the way that they are ready for. 1001 00:44:36,229 --> 00:44:38,659 I love what you said earlier about you fall. 1002 00:44:39,759 --> 00:44:42,879 Most of us have heard the concept of you fall back to your training. 1003 00:44:43,569 --> 00:44:43,659 Mm-hmm. 1004 00:44:44,169 --> 00:44:45,429 , I liked how you phrased it better. 1005 00:44:45,879 --> 00:44:50,019 You fall back to the lowest point of your training. 1006 00:44:50,379 --> 00:44:50,989 Mm-hmm. 1007 00:44:51,399 --> 00:44:52,689 , you don't necessarily fall back to your best guys. 1008 00:44:53,379 --> 00:44:53,739 Right. 1009 00:44:53,756 --> 00:44:57,813 Always strive to continue to grow, to learn, to improve cuz 1010 00:44:57,813 --> 00:44:59,553 you will go back to the base. 1011 00:45:01,893 --> 00:45:07,083 In the highest trust situation now, Andy, what are the first three steps our 1012 00:45:07,083 --> 00:45:09,603 listeners should take away right now? 1013 00:45:09,933 --> 00:45:13,443 Say they, they listen to this podcast, what are the first three 1014 00:45:13,443 --> 00:45:15,333 steps they can take to start? 1015 00:45:15,333 --> 00:45:15,663 Sure. 1016 00:45:15,733 --> 00:45:16,543 More securely. 1017 00:45:17,718 --> 00:45:20,418 Yeah, first, take responsibility for your own personal safety. 1018 00:45:20,688 --> 00:45:23,328 Do not outsource that to anybody else. 1019 00:45:23,328 --> 00:45:25,248 You don't outsource that to a good Samaritan. 1020 00:45:25,548 --> 00:45:27,588 You don't outsource that to the police. 1021 00:45:27,588 --> 00:45:30,738 I'm not talking bad about first responders, first responders. 1022 00:45:31,248 --> 00:45:32,568 In the word they respond. 1023 00:45:32,598 --> 00:45:34,878 They're not necessarily always proactive. 1024 00:45:35,358 --> 00:45:37,938 They'll call, they'll come when 9 1 1 is called, but you 1025 00:45:37,938 --> 00:45:39,258 gotta survive to that point. 1026 00:45:39,648 --> 00:45:41,358 Then you gotta survive beyond that. 1027 00:45:41,768 --> 00:45:42,588 So it's up. 1028 00:45:42,588 --> 00:45:43,358 It's up to you. 1029 00:45:43,468 --> 00:45:46,156 Take care of yourself and you police officer. 1030 00:45:46,156 --> 00:45:50,056 Let yourself tell you that you've got to do something first for 1031 00:45:50,056 --> 00:45:51,107 somebody else to get to you. 1032 00:45:51,107 --> 00:45:54,586 So number one, you need to take responsibility for your safety. 1033 00:45:55,066 --> 00:45:57,646 If you are married, if you are a. 1034 00:45:58,696 --> 00:46:02,086 You need to take responsibility for the people who live in your house. 1035 00:46:02,356 --> 00:46:04,576 That's gonna be your wife, that's gonna be your kids. 1036 00:46:04,936 --> 00:46:09,466 You have to take this and put it to the, through the perspective 1037 00:46:10,126 --> 00:46:12,196 of everybody who's in your family. 1038 00:46:12,526 --> 00:46:14,296 What are they doing that's good? 1039 00:46:14,296 --> 00:46:16,246 What are they doing that's kind of questionable? 1040 00:46:16,576 --> 00:46:20,386 How can you empower them to make safer decisions for themselves? 1041 00:46:20,806 --> 00:46:25,155 How can you be that good example for what to do? 1042 00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:31,600 And then I think number three is really for kids. 1043 00:46:32,475 --> 00:46:36,645 Right now is to set the expectations of how they need to behave online. 1044 00:46:37,065 --> 00:46:41,505 More and more of their world is shifting online, and like I said 1045 00:46:41,535 --> 00:46:46,155 earlier, a lot of physical face-to-face, you know, abductions start online. 1046 00:46:46,605 --> 00:46:50,835 You really need to sit down and have a conversation with them and say, this is 1047 00:46:50,865 --> 00:46:52,665 how you're expected to behave online. 1048 00:46:52,905 --> 00:46:54,765 This is what you can and can't say. 1049 00:46:55,215 --> 00:46:58,035 You know, like you said, with Facebook, these people aren't really your 1050 00:46:58,035 --> 00:47:01,215 friends, and if you can just really clamp that down, because that's 1051 00:47:01,215 --> 00:47:03,585 where most of our kids want to be. 1052 00:47:03,585 --> 00:47:06,015 They want to be playing games, or they wanna be texting on 1053 00:47:06,015 --> 00:47:07,275 their phone and things like that. 1054 00:47:07,695 --> 00:47:12,255 A lot of our kids' worlds right now is online, so if you can do those three 1055 00:47:12,255 --> 00:47:17,605 steps, you're going to be moving in the absolute right direction, and you're 1056 00:47:17,605 --> 00:47:20,865 going to be a whole lot better off than most of the people around you. 1057 00:47:22,305 --> 00:47:23,405 What's next for Andy? 1058 00:47:23,405 --> 00:47:24,876 What is next for Andy Murphy? 1059 00:47:24,876 --> 00:47:29,420 I am working on a new book that's going to be all about safety conversations 1060 00:47:29,420 --> 00:47:31,670 that we need to have with our kids. 1061 00:47:31,670 --> 00:47:35,660 I will show you what those conversations are, the main points that you need 1062 00:47:35,660 --> 00:47:39,890 to hit, how to even start those conversations, cuz a lot of people are 1063 00:47:39,890 --> 00:47:43,310 like, oh, I want to talk to my kid, you know, about like online grooming 1064 00:47:43,310 --> 00:47:45,470 and kind of what that looks like, but I just don't know how to do it. 1065 00:47:45,860 --> 00:47:47,930 I will show you how to do that in this new upcoming. 1066 00:47:47,978 --> 00:47:48,218 That's 1067 00:47:48,218 --> 00:47:48,578 awesome. 1068 00:47:48,608 --> 00:47:51,818 That's gonna be a really important book, guys, is that as a conversation 1069 00:47:51,818 --> 00:47:53,258 you seriously need to be having. 1070 00:47:54,098 --> 00:47:55,748 Where is the best place for people to 1071 00:47:55,748 --> 00:47:55,928 find. 1072 00:47:56,888 --> 00:48:01,418 Sure you can find everything about me@thesecuredad.com. 1073 00:48:01,688 --> 00:48:05,801 You can also check me out on Instagram with the username, the secure dad. 1074 00:48:05,850 --> 00:48:07,950 It's also the same on Twitter, by the way. 1075 00:48:07,950 --> 00:48:10,170 I do have a free reference for you. 1076 00:48:10,226 --> 00:48:13,144 If you go to the link in the show notes, you'll be able to see this. 1077 00:48:13,144 --> 00:48:14,134 This is like a. 1078 00:48:14,414 --> 00:48:18,824 Quick start, guide to home security that I want everybody to have, and it's yours 1079 00:48:18,824 --> 00:48:20,534 for free because I want you to have it. 1080 00:48:20,534 --> 00:48:24,944 I want you to not only feel safer when you go to bed at night, I want 1081 00:48:24,944 --> 00:48:26,894 you to know that you are safer. 1082 00:48:28,454 --> 00:48:30,254 Oh, bummer on me. 1083 00:48:30,259 --> 00:48:32,954 I thought I had that already pre-planned when I was recording the show. 1084 00:48:33,014 --> 00:48:33,734 I thought I had that link. 1085 00:48:34,034 --> 00:48:35,744 Guys, it will be on the screen. 1086 00:48:35,749 --> 00:48:38,864 If you're watching this on YouTube, it will be in the show notes and in 1087 00:48:38,864 --> 00:48:41,714 the description, whatever platform you're enjoying the show on. 1088 00:48:42,344 --> 00:48:43,634 Now, going back to. 1089 00:48:44,599 --> 00:48:45,409 Silly question. 1090 00:48:45,799 --> 00:48:47,599 The average person in the US opens, what? 1091 00:48:48,099 --> 00:48:48,769 13 times per day. 1092 00:48:49,159 --> 00:48:52,579 Is it a front door, a can of soda, a refrigerator, or a window? 1093 00:48:52,819 --> 00:48:54,439 And you guessed refrigerator. 1094 00:48:55,279 --> 00:48:55,459 I did. 1095 00:48:55,699 --> 00:48:57,709 The truck is 1096 00:48:58,219 --> 00:48:58,849 refrigerator. 1097 00:48:58,849 --> 00:48:59,419 You're right. 1098 00:49:01,039 --> 00:49:03,379 opens their refrigerator 13 times a day. 1099 00:49:03,649 --> 00:49:06,199 If you're a father, you know your children do it a lot more than that. 1100 00:49:06,939 --> 00:49:09,199 Yes, guys. 1101 00:49:10,189 --> 00:49:11,869 Andy has laid a lot at our. 1102 00:49:11,949 --> 00:49:13,029 It's our responsibility. 1103 00:49:13,089 --> 00:49:15,159 We know we're supposed to be the protectives of our family, 1104 00:49:15,789 --> 00:49:17,829 but there is so much to take in. 1105 00:49:18,099 --> 00:49:24,399 Andy is offering you solid tools to help make your life easier as a father when 1106 00:49:24,404 --> 00:49:26,079 it comes to taking care of your family. 1107 00:49:26,499 --> 00:49:29,859 Andy, what is the big takeaway you want everyone to hear today? 1108 00:49:31,209 --> 00:49:35,289 The big takeaway is that your safety really is your responsibility. 1109 00:49:35,289 --> 00:49:36,579 It is up to you. 1110 00:49:36,939 --> 00:49:38,889 You don't need to be intimidated by that. 1111 00:49:38,949 --> 00:49:40,929 You absolutely can do this. 1112 00:49:41,259 --> 00:49:43,659 I don't care what your physical or mental shape is. 1113 00:49:43,989 --> 00:49:48,009 You have the ability to take care of yourself and your loved ones. 1114 00:49:48,369 --> 00:49:50,409 Don't shrink away from that responsibility. 1115 00:49:50,409 --> 00:49:51,819 You can absolutely do this. 1116 00:49:52,869 --> 00:49:53,169 Thanks for 1117 00:49:53,169 --> 00:49:54,129 hanging out with us today. 1118 00:49:54,229 --> 00:49:55,269 Thank you, Andy, for being on the. 1119 00:49:56,394 --> 00:49:58,194 Be better tomorrow because of what you do today. 1120 00:49:58,284 --> 00:49:59,214 We'll see you on the next one. 1121 00:50:00,174 --> 00:50:00,624 This has 1122 00:50:00,624 --> 00:50:02,664 been the Fallible Man Podcast. 1123 00:50:03,264 --> 00:50:06,654 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 1124 00:50:07,434 --> 00:50:09,774 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 1125 00:50:10,584 --> 00:50:17,814 Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get your own Fallible 1126 00:50:17,814 --> 00:50:18,444 man gear.

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Andy Murphy

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Andy Murphy founded The Secure Dad in 2016 because he realized that Every Parent is a Protector. It’s up to us as Protector Parents to make sure our family is safe. Through his book, podcast, and online learning Andy works to help educate families on how they can live safer, happier lives.