Stop Complicating Your Relationship with Women

[00:00:00] Women are complicated, or at least most men think they're complicated. There have been at least two versions of the movie, What Women Want. And in the, and in the movie, we hear this. Sigmund Freud once said, Despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, I've never been able to answer the great question.

What does a woman want? I may not be able to answer the question in every aspect of a woman's life, but today we're going to answer this question when it comes to relationships. You see, men overcomplicate this idea. Because we've been compelled to believe that women are so complicated beyond our understanding that we're never going to get this right guys.

It's just not true. So let's get into it and help you understand what every woman wants in a relationship.

Here's the million dollar question. How do men like us reach our full potential? [00:01:00] Growing into the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? Well, that's the big question. In this podcast, we'll help you answer those questions and more.

My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast.

So the dreaded V Day has come and gone, and some of you are in trouble. Some of you are waiting for this weekend to do whatever you had planned since V Day kind of fell in the middle of the week. Some of you don't care, and some of you hate it because you're not in a relationship. And I understand that.

That's OK, too. Either way, this is a valid question that needs answered for every man. The funny thing is that we're going to answer the question for all of your female relationships, whether that's a good friend or your children are. Your mom or whoever, whatever female is in your life [00:02:00] today, you get the answer you need for every female relationship in your life.

Now, I know that's a big claim, but I promise I'm going to deliver on this one for you guys. By the way, my name is Brent and welcome to the fallible man podcast. Your home for all things, man, big shout out to fallible nation. That's our private community. And right now membership to the community is free at the entry level.

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Now, I'm sure that all largely depends on whether I can deliver on this promise. So most men know this answer in their hearts and they just haven't connected the dots. Because time and time again, we're told as men that women are complicated and we expect women to be complicated. It's this great ruse that benefits women and leaves men feeling a little off kilter when dealing with women.

The various industries such as the jewelry, flower, lingerie, and chocolate and more have spent billions of dollars trying to further this mystique and make it complicated because it serves them, right? That's just good business for them. It's not a slight at them. That's just the facts. Us feeling [00:04:00] confused are like, we don't really know how to properly deal with the women in our lives in a healthy relationship benefits them, right?

So that's why they further that mystique, but I don't want to drive this out. I made you a promise. So here's what you need to know from the youngest daughter, your girlfriend, your wife, all the way up to your mom, all women want one thing more than any other in a relationship, ready? You're going to think this is simple, your full intentional focus, see them, hear them, remember what they tell you, keep track of their secrets, spend quality time with them, be present when engaging with them.

Every woman in your life wants this thing. Now it sounds really simple, but in a world full of distractions, it can actually be very complex. And it's why it's so valuable. Okay. This is why every woman wants [00:05:00] this. And frankly, most men want this. It's because in a world filled with distractions, when people multitask and touching their phones all the time and doing this and doing a thousand things.

Your full undivided attention when you're present. I'm not saying 24 hours a day. Your full undivided attention when you are present with them is the most valuable gift you will ever give them. If you think about the things that really score big, right, with Valentine's Day, it always has something to do with you spending quality time with them.

That should have been a hint. They want to be valued. And we show real value by the time we spend and focus on things. Right. There's that great saying that says, if you want it to know what's important are, don't tell me what's important to me, to you. I should have written this down. I didn't don't tell me what's important to you.

Show me your calendar and your wallet. And I'll tell you how, what's important to you. Everybody [00:06:00] wants to feel value in a time when we were showing less value to people by multitasking and being so busy and not actually really paying attention to what people are saying. In fact, 80 percent of people aren't listening to the conversation.

They're thinking of the next thing they're going to say. Bad guys is a bad, okay? Men will spend fortunes to buy more time. Billionaires do it all the time. I read a statistic, not a statistic, I read from a billionaire the other day on a post human aid, he spends, I think, 7, 500 a month on menial tasks, like washing dishes and stuff like that.

And cooking, paying other people to do it for him 75 hours of time and he builds his time out at almost a half a million dollars an hour. We can always make more money. People spend a fortune to buy more time because time is truly finite. So having your undivided attention, being intentional [00:07:00] with your presence, when you're with the women in your life is uber valuable and it's what they all want.

If you listened to the podcast before, you probably heard the story. If not, it will be new to you. But several years ago, I was sitting on the couch with my oldest daughter watching a movie. When I say watching guys, I'm using air quotes because I was flipping through my phone, looking at schedules, answering emails and scrolling.

I'm sure doing scrolling on social media or something. And it was a movie I had seen with her probably a dozen times already. And her little hand reached over and landed on top of my phone. And she gently. Pushed my phone down into my lap and I looked at her. So what's up, honey? She said I want you to watch the movie with me.

I said, baby, i'm watching the movie with me You're cuddled up next to me She's like no, I want you to watch the movie with me and it dawned on me right then and there I said, baby. Do I need to put my phone away? She said yes didn't matter that we had seen it [00:08:00] many times before it wasn't that we were watching a movie It was we were spending quality time together.

Nothing makes the women in your life happier Then when you demonstrate that you, they have value to you, when your daughter knows that they're truly in, that you are truly, truly deeply listening to her and you're interested in what she's saying to you, then you have struck pure gold, my friend, because she will tell you everything for the rest of your life.

You don't have to worry about her hiding troubles and bad things from you. If she learns that you truly will listen to her and pay attention to her. When she talks to you, there's no into it. When your wife knows you heard her because you randomly grab something for you that she mentioned in passing two years ago, and you just had it in your head that you need to look out for it.

It doesn't matter if it's super valuable or fancy or expensive. But you remember, she told you it was important to her. [00:09:00] She'll know she's loved when your mom sees you passing on the knowledge, skills, and values that she taught you as a child to your children and treating your spouse the light way. She's happy because you listened to her and we're paying attention.

You can spend a fortune and never have a woman be happy. Demonstrate that you're listening and focused and intentional with her and present with her when you're spending time with her and she'll love you forever. Everybody wants to be valued. Now, today is Friday, so I want to shout out one of my listeners with a podcast review.

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I actually had to stop doing giveaways because I get carried away in these giveaways and tend to give away way more than I intend to. So guys, if you want to really, really win with the women in your life, stop making it complicated. It really, really is not that complicated. And you've been lied to all this time.

Stop complicating your relationship with the women in your life. Be intentional, be present and be focused on them. When you're interacting with them, I guarantee it will change every relationship with the women in your life until next time, better tomorrow, because what you do today, and we'll see how the next one, this has been the fellow woman podcast, your home for everything, man, husband, and father.

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