Masculine Frame: 5 Traits to Develop That Women Want You to Have (Even if they say otherwise)

1 00:00:00,870 --> 00:00:04,080 Are you tired of feeling like you're not attracting the right kind of women? 2 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:08,130 You know, not every guy has found that right woman yet like I have. 3 00:00:08,580 --> 00:00:12,450 And so today we're gonna show you how to develop a masculine frame with 4 00:00:12,450 --> 00:00:17,070 five traits that women truly want you to have, even if they say they 5 00:00:17,070 --> 00:00:18,600 don't want to in this modern age. 6 00:00:19,230 --> 00:00:19,960 Let's get into it. 7 00:00:21,060 --> 00:00:22,660 Here's the million dollar question. 8 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:26,370 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into 9 00:00:26,375 --> 00:00:29,940 the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsi? 10 00:00:30,314 --> 00:00:35,625 Working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. 11 00:00:36,525 --> 00:00:38,205 That's the question in this podcast. 12 00:00:38,504 --> 00:00:39,825 We'll help you with those answers. 13 00:00:39,825 --> 00:00:43,035 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 14 00:00:43,155 --> 00:00:45,075 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast, your home for all 15 00:00:45,080 --> 00:00:46,455 things, man, husband, and father. 16 00:00:46,815 --> 00:00:48,015 Big shout out to Fallible Nation. 17 00:00:48,015 --> 00:00:51,285 You guys make these things possible and a warm welcome to our first time list. 18 00:00:51,915 --> 00:00:53,685 My name is Brent and I am the fallible. 19 00:00:54,824 --> 00:00:56,474 So what is a masculine frame? 20 00:00:56,474 --> 00:00:56,745 Right? 21 00:00:56,745 --> 00:00:59,894 This is a newer phrase that didn't get to throw, be thrown 22 00:00:59,894 --> 00:01:01,425 around a lot when I was younger. 23 00:01:02,025 --> 00:01:05,774 So I, I looked into the actual definitions, right, and said A 24 00:01:05,774 --> 00:01:09,345 man with a masculine frame can be strong and powerful while still 25 00:01:09,345 --> 00:01:11,085 being able to control his emotions. 26 00:01:11,565 --> 00:01:15,554 He's composed, calm, collected, and he exudes confidence. 27 00:01:16,005 --> 00:01:19,304 Women are attracted to his manhood and respond positively to his aura. 28 00:01:19,875 --> 00:01:21,664 Men either admire him or despise. 29 00:01:23,464 --> 00:01:27,466 Masculine frame refers to the internal mindset and external behaviors that 30 00:01:27,470 --> 00:01:30,914 exude confidence, assertiveness, and strength, while still not being 31 00:01:30,914 --> 00:01:32,535 a total tool or jackass about it. 32 00:01:32,975 --> 00:01:35,384 I, I threw in that last part to make it accurate. 33 00:01:35,744 --> 00:01:40,035 Now see, growing up I would've just called this, this is a masculine 34 00:01:40,039 --> 00:01:44,625 man, but apparently masculine frame is the correct word, and at 43, I 35 00:01:44,625 --> 00:01:47,535 have to make sure I'm getting the correct terminology these days. 36 00:01:48,345 --> 00:01:49,845 You know, terms change. 37 00:01:49,845 --> 00:01:51,914 People use different ways of saying the same thing. 38 00:01:52,214 --> 00:01:54,975 It's all kind of funny to me, but, so that's, that's 39 00:01:54,975 --> 00:01:57,339 the new masculine, right man? 40 00:01:57,366 --> 00:01:59,406 We just, that's what we would've called it growing up, but I guess 41 00:01:59,406 --> 00:02:00,726 it's a masculine frame these days. 42 00:02:00,726 --> 00:02:01,146 Oh, well. 43 00:02:02,106 --> 00:02:05,196 Well, today we're gonna discuss five key traits that are essential 44 00:02:05,201 --> 00:02:09,396 to developing a masculine frame, including delusional self-belief. 45 00:02:09,396 --> 00:02:10,146 Yeah, I know it sounds. 46 00:02:10,866 --> 00:02:15,426 Willingness to lead self-control, unwavering in who you are despite the 47 00:02:15,426 --> 00:02:17,736 woman and unwavering emotional control. 48 00:02:18,306 --> 00:02:21,606 Now if those sound funny to you, give it a chance, stick with me 49 00:02:22,116 --> 00:02:23,340 and you know, see where it goes. 50 00:02:23,340 --> 00:02:23,880 Give it a shake. 51 00:02:24,030 --> 00:02:24,990 We'll see what you think of it. 52 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:27,690 So the first one, delusional self-belief. 53 00:02:27,690 --> 00:02:28,080 Right. 54 00:02:28,410 --> 00:02:33,690 Now, I know this probably sounds a little odd to, well most people, right? 55 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:36,000 A delusional self. 56 00:02:37,125 --> 00:02:42,735 Is the ability to maintain an unwavering belief in yourself, even 57 00:02:42,855 --> 00:02:44,685 when facing challenges and setbacks. 58 00:02:45,225 --> 00:02:49,515 This trait is essential to develop a strong, confident demeanor 59 00:02:49,845 --> 00:02:50,985 that women find attractive. 60 00:02:51,525 --> 00:02:54,195 However, it's important to balance this trait with a touch of 61 00:02:54,195 --> 00:02:59,025 humility and a willingness to be open-minded and learn from others. 62 00:03:00,045 --> 00:03:03,435 You have to be your biggest fan guys, including being willing to 63 00:03:03,495 --> 00:03:05,145 act on your own thoughts and belief. 64 00:03:06,450 --> 00:03:08,880 Now I actually do this one pretty well. 65 00:03:08,970 --> 00:03:12,450 I, I don't have all of this perfect, trust me, but I do this one pretty 66 00:03:12,450 --> 00:03:14,280 well because I am my biggest fan. 67 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:15,660 I like me so much. 68 00:03:15,660 --> 00:03:19,830 I don't actually need other people to like me and I will be the first 69 00:03:19,830 --> 00:03:23,580 to say, this can get a little, this can rub people the wrong way. 70 00:03:23,700 --> 00:03:24,150 Okay. 71 00:03:24,660 --> 00:03:25,980 You, there's a fine line. 72 00:03:25,980 --> 00:03:28,860 My wife tells me all the time between confidence and cocky, 73 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:30,810 and I don't always walk. 74 00:03:32,340 --> 00:03:34,170 That's my, I, that's my honesty right there. 75 00:03:34,170 --> 00:03:39,780 I, I don't always walk well, but I, I stride that line and you have to, okay. 76 00:03:40,260 --> 00:03:46,710 Being a strong man, being a confident man with a masculine frame, you have 77 00:03:46,710 --> 00:03:48,660 to actually kind of stride that line. 78 00:03:49,260 --> 00:03:52,740 And believe it or not, that actually if you cross over into 79 00:03:52,740 --> 00:03:56,090 the cocky side of it, too much can be obnoxious, but it's actually 80 00:03:56,095 --> 00:03:58,020 very attractive to a lot of people. 81 00:03:58,695 --> 00:04:01,185 People who spend all their time contemplating everything, but 82 00:04:01,185 --> 00:04:05,235 never take actions on their own thoughts and beliefs and ideas. 83 00:04:05,535 --> 00:04:08,595 They betrayed their lack of confidence in themselves. 84 00:04:09,585 --> 00:04:13,605 Sometimes you have to believe in yourself so much that you're ready to take action, 85 00:04:13,635 --> 00:04:19,665 even if the odds seem really high that you won't be successful or it won't work out. 86 00:04:20,265 --> 00:04:21,495 Our things don't seem perfect. 87 00:04:22,035 --> 00:04:26,955 You have to wake up and love yourself for who you are and who you're becoming. 88 00:04:28,725 --> 00:04:30,165 Why would you wanna be someone else? 89 00:04:31,335 --> 00:04:32,895 My general thought every day. 90 00:04:35,235 --> 00:04:36,555 I don't want to be anybody else. 91 00:04:36,825 --> 00:04:37,305 Honestly. 92 00:04:37,310 --> 00:04:40,845 I, I can honestly say to that I'm at a place in my life where I don't want 93 00:04:40,850 --> 00:04:44,865 to be anybody else because I wake up and people I look up to, right? 94 00:04:44,865 --> 00:04:46,215 I still have people I look up to. 95 00:04:46,220 --> 00:04:47,205 I still have mentors. 96 00:04:48,345 --> 00:04:54,345 I look at what I like about what they're doing, and I think I'll get there. 97 00:04:54,825 --> 00:04:55,575 I can learn that. 98 00:04:55,665 --> 00:04:56,535 I can figure that out. 99 00:04:56,565 --> 00:04:57,725 I can get I, I. 100 00:04:58,275 --> 00:05:00,645 I just haven't stepped through those hurdles yet, but that's, 101 00:05:00,645 --> 00:05:02,235 that's where you wanna be as a man. 102 00:05:02,235 --> 00:05:08,385 You have to be delusional, confident in yourself to the point of just 103 00:05:08,535 --> 00:05:11,355 I, being your biggest fan, I, I don't know how to better say it. 104 00:05:11,355 --> 00:05:12,765 I'm gonna just beat that one to death, I guess. 105 00:05:12,765 --> 00:05:13,215 I don't know. 106 00:05:14,775 --> 00:05:19,875 You have to believe in yourself even when nobody else is, or you don't think 107 00:05:19,875 --> 00:05:24,795 anybody else is, because that level of confidence is incredibly attractive. 108 00:05:25,710 --> 00:05:29,160 And it will make you a happier person, I promise. 109 00:05:30,930 --> 00:05:33,810 Now, before we go any further, I don't always share with you guys 110 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:36,900 how much I love doing the podcast and how it's affected my life. 111 00:05:37,470 --> 00:05:39,870 Doing the podcast has increased my speaking ability. 112 00:05:39,870 --> 00:05:43,650 I get to meet all kinds of extreme people, is great for my business 113 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:45,720 and I just really love it. 114 00:05:46,140 --> 00:05:49,380 And part of the reason I love it is I shove off some of the hard work on 115 00:05:49,380 --> 00:05:50,670 my good friends over at Grow Your. 116 00:05:51,735 --> 00:05:55,575 If you're interested in creating your own podcast, whether for a hobby 117 00:05:55,575 --> 00:06:00,405 or to explain your business, grow, your show is a podcast one stop. 118 00:06:00,555 --> 00:06:00,765 Okay? 119 00:06:00,765 --> 00:06:03,345 I can literally hit record and just send 'em to them. 120 00:06:03,405 --> 00:06:05,115 I don't, that's not how I do my show. 121 00:06:05,325 --> 00:06:07,275 But if you don't wanna do the nitty gritty, that's fine. 122 00:06:07,755 --> 00:06:08,955 I like doing that stuff. 123 00:06:09,765 --> 00:06:12,075 It's a one stop shop, and I love those guys. 124 00:06:12,075 --> 00:06:13,455 They've helped my show so much. 125 00:06:13,755 --> 00:06:17,625 So if you're interested in starting your own podcast or maybe expanding 126 00:06:17,630 --> 00:06:20,025 your business with a podcast, go see my friend Adam over it. 127 00:06:20,025 --> 00:06:20,355 Grow your. 128 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:26,550 I promise you they will take care of back to our show number two, 129 00:06:26,550 --> 00:06:28,740 guys, it's a willingness to lead. 130 00:06:29,790 --> 00:06:36,300 Now this should seem fairly apparent if you listen to my other stuff, okay? 131 00:06:36,300 --> 00:06:39,990 If you've listened to the podcast before, if you're new this, this probably 132 00:06:39,990 --> 00:06:44,370 shouldn't stand out too much as well, because this is a trait that we generally 133 00:06:44,370 --> 00:06:47,310 try and include with men, right? 134 00:06:47,310 --> 00:06:52,770 When we talked about masculinity, A willingness lead involves taking charge 135 00:06:52,775 --> 00:06:54,150 and making decisions confidently. 136 00:06:55,050 --> 00:06:59,520 This trade is crucial in relationships as women are attracted to men who can 137 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:01,500 take that lead and make decisions. 138 00:07:01,890 --> 00:07:05,520 However, it's important to note that being a leader does not always mean 139 00:07:05,525 --> 00:07:09,000 being in control, and certainly doesn't mean being dismissive of other opinions. 140 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:12,210 She may not want you to make every decision. 141 00:07:12,570 --> 00:07:16,320 My wife doesn't want me to make every decision, but you 142 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:18,060 should be ready to, if you need. 143 00:07:19,095 --> 00:07:22,545 You should always take other people's input, their thoughts, their feelings into 144 00:07:22,545 --> 00:07:27,045 consideration if it's valid input, but be ready to take charge when you need to. 145 00:07:28,095 --> 00:07:32,625 Now, being willing to take lead doesn't mean that you always have to lead. 146 00:07:33,675 --> 00:07:37,125 Remember, being willing to lead means that you simply can and 147 00:07:37,125 --> 00:07:38,415 are willing to step up to it. 148 00:07:38,865 --> 00:07:41,145 Not that you're always gonna be in charge, not that you're always 149 00:07:41,145 --> 00:07:46,485 gonna get your way or make the decisions, but as a man, if you want. 150 00:07:47,955 --> 00:07:49,905 Be attractive to women. 151 00:07:50,655 --> 00:07:54,315 You have to be willing to be a leader because women are looking for that. 152 00:07:55,155 --> 00:07:57,615 Now I'm gonna have a lot of women who get really bent about this 153 00:07:57,615 --> 00:07:58,965 episode and, and that's okay. 154 00:08:00,015 --> 00:08:06,075 I've had some experience and I promise guys, these five traits are critical 155 00:08:06,375 --> 00:08:08,205 to having that masculine frame. 156 00:08:08,565 --> 00:08:12,585 Women find incredibly, incredibly attractive, and half the time they don't 157 00:08:12,885 --> 00:08:14,295 even realize that they find it inactive. 158 00:08:14,300 --> 00:08:16,215 It's kind of funny number. 159 00:08:17,010 --> 00:08:18,240 Is self-control. 160 00:08:18,930 --> 00:08:21,660 You must have self-control. 161 00:08:22,620 --> 00:08:25,800 Self-control involves managing your emotions and your impulses. 162 00:08:26,220 --> 00:08:29,250 This trait is essential to maintaining a strong masculine frame. 163 00:08:29,670 --> 00:08:33,450 It's especially important in situations that may trigger anger or frustration. 164 00:08:34,290 --> 00:08:38,850 Women are attracted to men who can remain calm and composed in any situation. 165 00:08:38,850 --> 00:08:41,430 However, self control is much more than that. 166 00:08:43,290 --> 00:08:48,960 Self-control is why we aren't running around and doing stupider 167 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:50,730 things than we do sometime, right? 168 00:08:51,090 --> 00:08:54,450 Self-control is part of what separates us from dogs. 169 00:08:54,450 --> 00:08:54,900 Guys. 170 00:08:54,900 --> 00:08:55,710 Let's be honest. 171 00:08:56,670 --> 00:08:59,580 The fact that you're not running up and humping people's legs, right? 172 00:08:59,580 --> 00:09:00,600 That's self-control. 173 00:09:01,650 --> 00:09:04,831 Now, I've seen beautiful women and I know the, you're attracted to 174 00:09:04,836 --> 00:09:05,940 beautiful women, and guess what? 175 00:09:07,140 --> 00:09:09,360 If you run up and try and hump their leg, you deserve to get 176 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:11,130 punched in the face, or worse just. 177 00:09:12,060 --> 00:09:12,360 Okay. 178 00:09:12,690 --> 00:09:17,880 The self-control is bigger than just our attractiveness women and 179 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:22,200 our ability to control ourselves around attract women with this 180 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:23,760 whole toxic masculinity movement. 181 00:09:23,970 --> 00:09:24,820 There's a big, 182 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:26,100 how do I say this? 183 00:09:26,370 --> 00:09:31,350 There is a big floating concept out there that most guys are 184 00:09:31,350 --> 00:09:33,690 no better than dogs, right? 185 00:09:33,870 --> 00:09:35,130 People are going to extremes. 186 00:09:35,940 --> 00:09:37,260 They feel like they're gonna get assaulted. 187 00:09:37,260 --> 00:09:38,430 Just walk you down the street. 188 00:09:39,210 --> 00:09:40,110 That's ridiculous. 189 00:09:40,530 --> 00:09:42,570 If you live in a neighborhood where you're afraid you're gonna get assaulted 190 00:09:42,570 --> 00:09:45,030 walking down the street, you're be hanging with a crowd, wrong crowd, or 191 00:09:45,030 --> 00:09:50,010 living in the wrong place, just that's how it's, but self-control extends 192 00:09:50,010 --> 00:09:53,760 farther, and that self-control making you more attracted, extends farther. 193 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:55,950 For example, how's your health? 194 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:58,320 It's a self-control issue. 195 00:09:58,710 --> 00:10:03,090 If you're carrying around too much body fat, self-control issue, if 196 00:10:03,270 --> 00:10:07,215 you get winded walking to your mailbox, Self-control issue. 197 00:10:08,295 --> 00:10:10,845 My gut has to do with self-control issue. 198 00:10:11,175 --> 00:10:12,045 I see ice cream. 199 00:10:12,045 --> 00:10:14,445 I have very little self-control as something I'm growing 200 00:10:14,445 --> 00:10:15,435 in and trying to work on. 201 00:10:16,245 --> 00:10:19,125 How's your bank account self-control issue? 202 00:10:19,635 --> 00:10:24,195 You don't have to make a fortune to have money in the bank or to 203 00:10:24,195 --> 00:10:26,385 have money on hand if you need it. 204 00:10:27,075 --> 00:10:31,665 You have to have self-control to control your spinning urges and the way you 205 00:10:31,665 --> 00:10:33,285 live if you're living above your means. 206 00:10:33,285 --> 00:10:34,155 That's a self-control. 207 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:36,930 How about your time management? 208 00:10:37,590 --> 00:10:38,880 It's a self-control issue. 209 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:43,110 If your time management is crap, it's because you aren't controlling your 210 00:10:43,110 --> 00:10:46,800 time wells cuz you aren't doing the things that you know you need to do. 211 00:10:47,460 --> 00:10:49,770 It's because you're overscheduling and overextending yourself. 212 00:10:49,770 --> 00:10:51,330 That's a self-control issue. 213 00:10:52,380 --> 00:10:53,370 How about your vices? 214 00:10:53,670 --> 00:10:54,480 I have vices. 215 00:10:54,660 --> 00:10:55,770 Most people have vices. 216 00:10:56,460 --> 00:10:58,140 Are you in control of them? 217 00:10:58,140 --> 00:10:59,790 Are, are they in control of you? 218 00:10:59,970 --> 00:11:02,040 Have they become more than vices? 219 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:03,330 Have they become addictions? 220 00:11:03,330 --> 00:11:03,570 Have they. 221 00:11:04,575 --> 00:11:05,715 Distractions to your life. 222 00:11:06,615 --> 00:11:07,965 These are self-control issues. 223 00:11:08,805 --> 00:11:12,585 Trust me, having it together makes you more attractive 224 00:11:12,645 --> 00:11:14,265 as a person, not just women. 225 00:11:14,535 --> 00:11:18,405 It makes you more attractive as a person, and self-control extends 226 00:11:18,410 --> 00:11:20,175 to a lot of parts of our life. 227 00:11:20,505 --> 00:11:22,245 So something we all need to work on. 228 00:11:22,245 --> 00:11:26,385 Like I said, I know I got some work to do on it and I'm wagering that 229 00:11:26,385 --> 00:11:28,815 in one of those areas you might have some work to do on it too. 230 00:11:30,015 --> 00:11:30,405 Number four. 231 00:11:32,220 --> 00:11:39,240 This one gets people every time Ahm so tired of this, become unchanging in 232 00:11:39,245 --> 00:11:42,210 who you are regardless of her looks. 233 00:11:44,940 --> 00:11:48,060 Fourth trait is the ability to remain unchanging in who 234 00:11:48,060 --> 00:11:49,860 you are because of her looks. 235 00:11:49,860 --> 00:11:53,550 Now I'm saying it that way, but let's, let's re-say that, right? 236 00:11:54,030 --> 00:11:56,890 How about become unchanging and unwavering in who you. 237 00:11:57,390 --> 00:12:02,190 Despite how attractive you find her, that's a more accurate phrasing of this. 238 00:12:02,190 --> 00:12:03,750 I, I phrased it wrong, and I'm sorry. 239 00:12:04,170 --> 00:12:05,640 The notes are gonna look all wonky. 240 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:10,950 The trait involves recognizing that true confidence comes from 241 00:12:10,950 --> 00:12:13,890 within and is not dependent on external factors such as appearance. 242 00:12:14,050 --> 00:12:16,980 Women are attracted to men who are comfortable in their own skin and 243 00:12:16,985 --> 00:12:22,166 can appreciate the beauty of a woman without being intu in intimidated. 244 00:12:23,606 --> 00:12:24,596 We'll see if I can talk today. 245 00:12:25,946 --> 00:12:28,316 You see what people have termed since, right? 246 00:12:28,316 --> 00:12:28,616 Have you? 247 00:12:28,676 --> 00:12:29,486 Have you seen that term? 248 00:12:29,486 --> 00:12:33,686 I really hate that term, I think is one of those modern terms that is 249 00:12:33,686 --> 00:12:35,996 used on the internet that just sucks. 250 00:12:36,001 --> 00:12:39,386 But for all intents and purposes, it's actually a great example right here. 251 00:12:39,806 --> 00:12:41,906 So we see the guys, people call Sims, right? 252 00:12:41,936 --> 00:12:48,416 Men who fall all over themselves over a women men who lose all sense of self 253 00:12:48,476 --> 00:12:50,606 and give up all their personal activit. 254 00:12:51,041 --> 00:12:52,271 They blow off friends. 255 00:12:52,271 --> 00:12:56,321 They give their goals over women on the internet. 256 00:12:56,321 --> 00:13:03,380 We see it even worse because we see men losing it all over non reachable women 257 00:13:04,150 --> 00:13:09,430 over, over internet tramps and, you know, Instagram, hotties and all that. 258 00:13:09,430 --> 00:13:15,340 We see guys sipping on and like dumping money into only fans and 259 00:13:15,430 --> 00:13:17,050 PornHub and all these other places. 260 00:13:17,425 --> 00:13:20,215 And dumping money on women, they will never touch her half. 261 00:13:22,075 --> 00:13:23,875 They just go to pieces over these women. 262 00:13:24,835 --> 00:13:26,815 Well, we all have friends who do that too, right? 263 00:13:27,505 --> 00:13:31,915 Men who lose their shit over women they're attracted to is, is a sim. 264 00:13:32,845 --> 00:13:37,075 If she was attracted to you and you go acting like this, she's 265 00:13:37,075 --> 00:13:38,215 not gonna be attracted to you. 266 00:13:38,215 --> 00:13:39,565 She's not gonna stay attracted to you. 267 00:13:39,955 --> 00:13:41,125 Go back to that first trait. 268 00:13:42,025 --> 00:13:45,205 Be confident in yourself, become your biggest fan. 269 00:13:45,595 --> 00:13:46,375 Women are drawn to. 270 00:13:47,260 --> 00:13:51,070 Who have a purpose, they have a mission, they have a focus, and 271 00:13:51,070 --> 00:13:53,020 they are locked onto their goals. 272 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:59,350 Men who are on track to where they want to go are much more attractive to 273 00:13:59,350 --> 00:14:01,780 women than guys who fawn over women. 274 00:14:02,500 --> 00:14:02,740 Okay? 275 00:14:02,740 --> 00:14:07,780 Being they're drawn to guys with similar goals, and guess what? 276 00:14:07,780 --> 00:14:12,250 She's more drawn to where who she thinks you're going to be, who to 277 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:14,830 who she thinks you're gonna be, to where she thinks you're gonna. 278 00:14:16,165 --> 00:14:17,935 Than she are is to you right now. 279 00:14:18,295 --> 00:14:18,595 Okay? 280 00:14:18,595 --> 00:14:22,615 She's more attracted to your future than to you in this present moment, guys. 281 00:14:23,125 --> 00:14:26,605 So men who have purpose and focus in their life, focus on their 282 00:14:26,605 --> 00:14:29,365 goals, are a lot more attractive. 283 00:14:30,775 --> 00:14:32,245 Don't change who you are. 284 00:14:32,875 --> 00:14:37,675 If she, if she likes you right now, changing who you are is 285 00:14:37,735 --> 00:14:39,175 absolutely going to ring you. 286 00:14:39,475 --> 00:14:43,990 And if you think she doesn't like you, Changing who you are 287 00:14:44,140 --> 00:14:46,240 is just going to get you crushed. 288 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:48,610 It's not gonna do anything for you at all. 289 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:52,420 So guys, get locked into who you want to be. 290 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:55,540 Don't, don't play the game. 291 00:14:56,740 --> 00:14:58,480 Don't fall apart over a pretty face. 292 00:14:59,230 --> 00:15:00,370 We've all been guilty of it. 293 00:15:00,375 --> 00:15:01,300 Okay, I'll, I'll admit it. 294 00:15:01,300 --> 00:15:02,950 We've all, we've all made that mistake. 295 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:06,010 A lot of the guys managed to grow out of it in their younger years, 296 00:15:06,010 --> 00:15:10,450 but not all of them don't change who you are over an attractive. 297 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:12,850 Be who you are. 298 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:18,430 Let them be attracted to you, not to who you think they want you to 299 00:15:18,430 --> 00:15:20,800 be or to how much you can give them. 300 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:24,130 Or there there's a name for those and most of 'em are aren't only fans. 301 00:15:24,130 --> 00:15:29,560 Okay, now before we hit number five guys, we're gonna roll to our other sponsor 302 00:15:29,890 --> 00:15:30,940 ghost bed and we'll be right back. 303 00:15:31,570 --> 00:15:32,800 How well do you sleep at night? 304 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:35,500 Do you toss and turn and wake up more tired than when you went to bed? 305 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:39,520 Sleep is commonly one of the critical elements people fall short on in their. 306 00:15:40,285 --> 00:15:43,165 The quality of sleep you get directly affects your ability to control 307 00:15:43,165 --> 00:15:46,555 your weight, your ability to add muscle, your stress levels, and your 308 00:15:47,005 --> 00:15:48,265 everyday job and life performance. 309 00:15:48,895 --> 00:15:52,825 If you're ready to move to the next level, then sleep has to be part of the plan. 310 00:15:53,455 --> 00:15:56,635 Check out our friends@ghostbed.com if you're ready to get your best sleep. 311 00:15:56,695 --> 00:15:57,595 I love my ghost bed. 312 00:15:57,600 --> 00:16:00,725 I've been sleeping on one for a couple years and has made a 313 00:16:00,725 --> 00:16:01,915 huge difference in how I sleep. 314 00:16:02,305 --> 00:16:06,295 Hit ghost bed.com and use the code, the Fallible Man 30 to get 30% off your 315 00:16:06,300 --> 00:16:08,065 order and start getting better night's. 316 00:16:08,065 --> 00:16:09,265 Sleep tomorrow. 317 00:16:10,315 --> 00:16:12,235 Now let's go on to the show. 318 00:16:12,715 --> 00:16:13,465 Welcome back guys. 319 00:16:13,465 --> 00:16:14,185 And I got a shout out. 320 00:16:14,215 --> 00:16:17,365 I you just saw the ad for Ghost Bed, or listen to the ad for GhostBed 321 00:16:17,425 --> 00:16:18,535 depending on what platform you're on. 322 00:16:18,535 --> 00:16:20,365 Guys, I love my ghost bed. 323 00:16:20,365 --> 00:16:21,685 I've been sleeping on a ghost bed for years. 324 00:16:21,805 --> 00:16:24,625 I, I still love them and I have a lot of love for 'em. 325 00:16:24,630 --> 00:16:27,565 They have a lot of faith in us by giving us that discount and 326 00:16:27,565 --> 00:16:29,215 letting it share that with you guys. 327 00:16:29,755 --> 00:16:33,385 So if you're in the market for a bed, it's actually where I learned about Ghost 328 00:16:33,385 --> 00:16:35,095 Bed was on a podcast just like mine. 329 00:16:35,125 --> 00:16:37,615 So, hey, here we go. 330 00:16:37,615 --> 00:16:38,155 Full circle. 331 00:16:39,295 --> 00:16:43,465 Number five is unwavering emotional control. 332 00:16:45,325 --> 00:16:46,885 Good, right one on the video. 333 00:16:47,485 --> 00:16:51,775 The fifth final trait is unwavering emotional control, which 334 00:16:51,805 --> 00:16:55,705 involves maintaining emotional stability in any situation. 335 00:16:57,325 --> 00:16:59,905 This trait is essential, guys. 336 00:17:00,805 --> 00:17:04,765 It's essential in maintaining a masculine frame, and it's especially 337 00:17:05,035 --> 00:17:07,405 essential and important in situations. 338 00:17:08,920 --> 00:17:13,806 There's, there's something that could trigger anxiety or stress or anything 339 00:17:13,806 --> 00:17:15,666 else that sends you over the edge, right? 340 00:17:16,026 --> 00:17:18,396 This could be essential on the road, right? 341 00:17:18,401 --> 00:17:23,016 If you're a road rage person, women are attracted to men who can remain calm and 342 00:17:23,016 --> 00:17:26,286 levelheaded even in the face of adversity. 343 00:17:27,456 --> 00:17:29,106 Now, this is a weird one, okay? 344 00:17:29,616 --> 00:17:32,556 Because women tell us they want us to be emotional and tell us we repress our. 345 00:17:33,561 --> 00:17:38,571 You have feelings and emotions the same as she does, but you need to master and 346 00:17:38,571 --> 00:17:41,061 control your emotions and your feelings. 347 00:17:41,751 --> 00:17:44,751 Women associate emotional outbursts with children or 348 00:17:44,751 --> 00:17:47,241 other women, not high value men. 349 00:17:48,201 --> 00:17:51,501 She wants you to be in touch with your feelings, and I'm air quoting 350 00:17:51,501 --> 00:17:55,461 that for all of you on the audio version of the show, but not be 351 00:17:55,461 --> 00:17:57,771 driven by them or manipulated by them. 352 00:17:59,271 --> 00:18:00,901 There's a time and a place for everyth. 353 00:18:03,381 --> 00:18:06,651 And you need to process your emotion, okay? 354 00:18:06,651 --> 00:18:07,911 I would never tell you not to. 355 00:18:08,121 --> 00:18:11,721 It's unhealthy to bottle 'em up and not have a healthy outlet for them. 356 00:18:12,981 --> 00:18:14,901 There is a time and a place for everything. 357 00:18:15,201 --> 00:18:20,121 And despite what you hear from a lot of loud, annoying, whiny voices about men 358 00:18:20,121 --> 00:18:22,941 are out of touch with their feelings or men need to open up, shut up. 359 00:18:22,971 --> 00:18:23,721 No, they don't. 360 00:18:23,726 --> 00:18:23,961 Okay. 361 00:18:24,501 --> 00:18:26,211 Men need to process their emotions. 362 00:18:26,211 --> 00:18:27,081 That is correct. 363 00:18:27,741 --> 00:18:29,961 No woman wants a whiny. 364 00:18:31,476 --> 00:18:33,006 That is as emotional. 365 00:18:33,306 --> 00:18:36,936 Our acts as emotional are even more so than she does. 366 00:18:38,106 --> 00:18:39,036 It's unappealing. 367 00:18:39,036 --> 00:18:40,026 It's unattractive. 368 00:18:40,446 --> 00:18:45,456 And to develop your masculine frame, you need to master processing your emotions in 369 00:18:45,456 --> 00:18:48,276 a healthy time and place in a healthy way. 370 00:18:49,026 --> 00:18:51,936 Emotional outbursts are unattractive to anybody. 371 00:18:54,366 --> 00:18:59,376 Now, guys, developing a strong masculine frame is an ongoing process that require. 372 00:19:01,521 --> 00:19:02,301 Dedication. 373 00:19:02,811 --> 00:19:03,141 I know. 374 00:19:03,141 --> 00:19:03,831 Big words, right? 375 00:19:03,831 --> 00:19:04,971 Self-awareness. 376 00:19:05,031 --> 00:19:05,841 Ooh, al. 377 00:19:05,841 --> 00:19:06,441 That one hurts. 378 00:19:07,071 --> 00:19:09,111 Willingness to learn and grow. 379 00:19:10,041 --> 00:19:11,301 Ah, you're killing me, Brent, right? 380 00:19:12,741 --> 00:19:13,131 . Trust me. 381 00:19:13,136 --> 00:19:14,631 That's how I feel about it some days too. 382 00:19:15,621 --> 00:19:21,261 By focusing on these five key traits, delusional self-belief, willingness 383 00:19:21,321 --> 00:19:27,751 to lead, self-control, becoming unchanging who you are, despite who she. 384 00:19:28,274 --> 00:19:32,624 And having unwavering emotional self-control or emotional 385 00:19:32,624 --> 00:19:36,464 control, you can cultivate the confident, assertive demeanor 386 00:19:36,464 --> 00:19:38,264 that women find attractive in men. 387 00:19:39,164 --> 00:19:44,024 You will help hear women scream all day long at this point that we don't need men. 388 00:19:44,054 --> 00:19:44,894 I don't need a man. 389 00:19:44,894 --> 00:19:45,914 I, okay, great. 390 00:19:46,364 --> 00:19:47,444 You can be alone if that's cool. 391 00:19:47,984 --> 00:19:48,914 Your choice, no big deal. 392 00:19:50,774 --> 00:19:55,799 They'll also tell you, The old ways of chay and being what we would 393 00:19:55,799 --> 00:19:57,929 call a gentleman are outdated. 394 00:19:57,929 --> 00:19:59,249 I don't need a man to hold the door for me. 395 00:19:59,249 --> 00:19:59,819 I don't need a man. 396 00:20:00,179 --> 00:20:00,599 You know what? 397 00:20:02,009 --> 00:20:06,479 Women are a whole lot happier when you stay along that masculine frame 398 00:20:06,479 --> 00:20:11,789 and some of those stoic concepts that you hear out there of controlling your 399 00:20:11,789 --> 00:20:14,219 emotions and so on and so forth, right? 400 00:20:14,549 --> 00:20:19,679 There's a lot of validity in that and there are probably some really. 401 00:20:22,334 --> 00:20:26,684 Feminist out there, and I don't mean that in disrespectful way, who truly believe 402 00:20:26,684 --> 00:20:28,454 they don't want men like this anymore. 403 00:20:28,874 --> 00:20:29,474 That's fine. 404 00:20:30,524 --> 00:20:36,164 There are more women who want men like this, who want that traditional 405 00:20:36,164 --> 00:20:43,754 gentleman who has a unlock, who is driven, who is confident, who is 406 00:20:44,084 --> 00:20:46,364 strong emotionally and physically. 407 00:20:46,724 --> 00:20:47,504 We didn't even talk about. 408 00:20:48,374 --> 00:20:51,044 That's a whole nother show talking about your physical masculine 409 00:20:51,044 --> 00:20:52,634 frame, because that's matters. 410 00:20:52,964 --> 00:20:56,054 Men who have self-control, men who will lead the way. 411 00:20:56,384 --> 00:20:59,024 There are a lot more women who are still interested in men like 412 00:20:59,029 --> 00:21:01,394 that than there are, that are not. 413 00:21:02,714 --> 00:21:04,784 So chew on that for a while, guys. 414 00:21:04,784 --> 00:21:07,124 Let me know in the comments what you think of that. 415 00:21:09,494 --> 00:21:11,084 Like I said, I'm probably gonna get a lot of flack for the 416 00:21:11,084 --> 00:21:12,404 show, but I don't really care. 417 00:21:12,404 --> 00:21:12,854 That's fine. 418 00:21:12,974 --> 00:21:14,324 I, I can get some flack for a show. 419 00:21:14,324 --> 00:21:16,064 It doesn't bother me now guys. 420 00:21:16,064 --> 00:21:16,904 It is Friday. 421 00:21:17,729 --> 00:21:22,469 Let's share a listener review cuz you guys just blow me away with how kind you are. 422 00:21:22,829 --> 00:21:26,759 I wanna highlight listener cam N 95 C. 423 00:21:27,209 --> 00:21:29,939 Good content for all men and all people Five star Review. 424 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,999 It's easy to listen to an episode and start to think that there 425 00:21:32,999 --> 00:21:34,889 isn't things that are applicable. 426 00:21:35,159 --> 00:21:38,339 However, I found that listening to this podcast, there are topics 427 00:21:38,339 --> 00:21:41,399 that are absolutely pertinent to my life and the way the host presents. 428 00:21:41,399 --> 00:21:42,509 This topic is well done. 429 00:21:42,569 --> 00:21:43,019 Thank you. 430 00:21:43,799 --> 00:21:45,359 For example, there's no finger point. 431 00:21:46,214 --> 00:21:48,734 It's, this happened to me, it can happen to you. 432 00:21:48,764 --> 00:21:51,254 Let's fix it together type of mentality. 433 00:21:51,914 --> 00:21:55,574 This is great as it causes the listener to be more open to suggestions. 434 00:21:55,574 --> 00:21:57,164 I e, the dopamine topic. 435 00:21:58,004 --> 00:21:59,834 I look forward to listening to more in the future. 436 00:22:00,374 --> 00:22:01,814 Cam in 95 C. 437 00:22:01,934 --> 00:22:03,194 Brother, thank you so much. 438 00:22:03,404 --> 00:22:05,894 I appreciate the generous review. 439 00:22:06,224 --> 00:22:09,974 These reviews help us so much, guys and I, I can't thank you How enough 440 00:22:09,974 --> 00:22:13,064 to tell you how much they mean to me, how much they help us on the show. 441 00:22:13,069 --> 00:22:14,984 They help us get out to more fe people. 442 00:22:15,344 --> 00:22:16,544 With positive reviews. 443 00:22:16,544 --> 00:22:20,914 Apple Podcast shares my podcast out farther and wider to other listeners 444 00:22:20,919 --> 00:22:23,674 cuz they go, oh look, this must be an okay show after all, huh? 445 00:22:24,064 --> 00:22:25,244 The guy's not a complete idiot. 446 00:22:25,255 --> 00:22:26,185 We'll see about that. 447 00:22:26,245 --> 00:22:28,045 But thank you for that generous view. 448 00:22:28,045 --> 00:22:31,315 You guys help us so much when you leave these reviews for us, 449 00:22:31,315 --> 00:22:32,755 and I'm very grateful for it. 450 00:22:33,235 --> 00:22:33,685 Guys. 451 00:22:35,245 --> 00:22:39,655 I love working with men because I know that you guys are the key 452 00:22:39,655 --> 00:22:40,885 to making this world a better. 453 00:22:42,355 --> 00:22:45,895 If you're jammed up right now and having problems jumping over a little hurdle 454 00:22:45,895 --> 00:22:49,135 or there's, there's that next step and you just can't quite work your way 455 00:22:49,135 --> 00:22:53,575 around it, and you'd like to come work with me directly, I do do coaching. 456 00:22:53,935 --> 00:22:57,235 You can go to the fallible man.com/coaching and 457 00:22:58,105 --> 00:22:59,374 schedule discovery call. 458 00:22:59,434 --> 00:23:03,544 Let's see if I'm the right person to work with you, or maybe I can point you to one 459 00:23:03,544 --> 00:23:05,134 of my friends who does coaching as well. 460 00:23:06,154 --> 00:23:07,294 Let us walk with you. 461 00:23:07,299 --> 00:23:09,334 Let us help you because we all need help, guys. 462 00:23:09,364 --> 00:23:10,294 I, I have a business. 463 00:23:11,329 --> 00:23:12,169 And mentor. 464 00:23:12,169 --> 00:23:15,319 So we all need help in different areas of our lives. 465 00:23:15,949 --> 00:23:17,929 You shouldn't feel like you have to work alone. 466 00:23:17,959 --> 00:23:19,579 You shouldn't feel like you have to walk alone. 467 00:23:19,879 --> 00:23:21,349 And that's why we have the fallible man. 468 00:23:21,679 --> 00:23:26,299 We're here to walk with you and to help you on your journey, just like you're here 469 00:23:26,299 --> 00:23:27,889 gonna help other men along their journey. 470 00:23:28,159 --> 00:23:31,069 Join us on Fallible Nation on our Facebook group, fallible Nation. 471 00:23:31,069 --> 00:23:34,729 If you haven't been, join us there where we can support each other in real time. 472 00:23:35,689 --> 00:23:38,719 And until next time guys, be better tomorrow cuz of what you do today. 473 00:23:39,049 --> 00:23:39,889 We'll see you on the next one. 474 00:23:40,399 --> 00:23:42,919 This has been the Fallible Man Podcast. 475 00:23:43,519 --> 00:23:46,729 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 476 00:23:47,659 --> 00:23:49,999 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 477 00:23:50,809 --> 00:23:57,169 Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get 478 00:23:57,169 --> 00:23:58,669 your own Fallible man gear.