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How To Take Back Control Of Your Life | The Dopamine Dilemma

Do you feel like life is controlling you, instead of the other way around? In this video, we explore the science behind the dopamine dilemma and how it affects our daily decisions. We will be discussing practical strategies to help you take back cont...

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Do you feel like life is controlling you, instead of the other way around? In this video, we explore the science behind the dopamine dilemma and how it affects our daily decisions. We will be discussing practical strategies to help you take back control of your life, so you can live with purpose, focus and fulfillment. Whether it's breaking bad habits, setting achievable goals, or finding a healthy work-life balance, this video will provide you with the tools you need to take charge of your life. So, grab a pen and paper and get ready to take the first step towards reclaiming control.

 

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1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,720 Are you in the driver's seat of your life or are you addicted to a feeling? 2 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:07,110 I think you might be shocked to know, you may not be steering 3 00:00:07,110 --> 00:00:08,730 this ride like you used to. 4 00:00:09,630 --> 00:00:13,440 We've hit a drug problem that's just rampant in most of the globe. 5 00:00:13,470 --> 00:00:14,280 It's everywhere. 6 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:19,290 And even worse, you and me and almost everyone else are already on it. 7 00:00:20,070 --> 00:00:20,520 Let's go. 8 00:00:21,210 --> 00:00:22,830 Here's the million dollar question. 9 00:00:23,310 --> 00:00:26,340 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow 10 00:00:26,340 --> 00:00:27,420 into the men we dream of? 11 00:00:28,215 --> 00:00:33,435 While taking care of our responsibilities, working, being good husbands, fathers, 12 00:00:33,435 --> 00:00:35,775 and still take care of ourselves. 13 00:00:36,675 --> 00:00:38,325 That's the question in this podcast. 14 00:00:38,669 --> 00:00:39,989 We'll help you with those answers. 15 00:00:39,989 --> 00:00:43,080 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 16 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:44,280 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 17 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:46,169 You're home for all things, man, husband, and father. 18 00:00:46,470 --> 00:00:47,760 Big shout out to Fallible Nation. 19 00:00:47,765 --> 00:00:49,680 You guys make these shows possible and warm. 20 00:00:49,684 --> 00:00:51,089 Welcome to our first time listeners. 21 00:00:51,480 --> 00:00:52,199 My name is Brent. 22 00:00:52,230 --> 00:00:53,550 I am the fallible man. 23 00:00:54,209 --> 00:00:59,610 Dopamine is a hot topic these days, guys, and it's complicated at best. 24 00:00:59,670 --> 00:01:01,230 So let's, let's break it down a little bit. 25 00:01:01,964 --> 00:01:07,245 Dopamine is a neurotransmitter your body makes, and it's absolutely 26 00:01:07,245 --> 00:01:08,955 critical for your health. 27 00:01:10,275 --> 00:01:12,525 So, so how can it be a problem? 28 00:01:13,605 --> 00:01:15,945 Well, dopamine affects how we feel pleasure. 29 00:01:16,215 --> 00:01:19,935 It's meant to reward our body for doing things that protect 30 00:01:19,940 --> 00:01:21,104 and nurture our species. 31 00:01:21,384 --> 00:01:25,695 There is a lot of dopamine released during sex because our bodies still act with 32 00:01:25,695 --> 00:01:30,255 the same impulses to reward continuing the species like you did in a hundred B. 33 00:01:30,899 --> 00:01:37,170 When life was a little bit harsher to say the least, the problem is we have so many 34 00:01:37,170 --> 00:01:45,840 triggers now that release dopamine, that it's flooding our system and teaching us. 35 00:01:46,515 --> 00:01:48,975 That bad things are good things. 36 00:01:49,605 --> 00:01:55,215 There are chemicals being used daily to trigger that reward response Even 37 00:01:55,215 --> 00:01:58,905 more difficult, there are useless activities like social media and 38 00:01:58,905 --> 00:02:02,985 entertainment that are designed to elicit that chemical response in your body. 39 00:02:03,785 --> 00:02:07,785 Games, movies, shows, drinks, food. 40 00:02:08,835 --> 00:02:09,825 Did you catch that last one? 41 00:02:10,275 --> 00:02:11,745 Did that throw you off a little bit? 42 00:02:12,405 --> 00:02:15,105 Food is even designed to trigger your dopamine. 43 00:02:16,420 --> 00:02:20,400 You know, hamburger buns have sugar in them and, and most foods 44 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:22,170 actually have added sugar these days. 45 00:02:23,130 --> 00:02:27,630 Sugar is a huge culprit in this issue, something terrible for you. 46 00:02:27,630 --> 00:02:30,420 That triggers the reward response like any other drug. 47 00:02:31,410 --> 00:02:34,260 One thing I usually don't share is how impactful the podcast 48 00:02:34,260 --> 00:02:35,370 has been for me personally. 49 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,970 There's a lot I love and appreciate because I have the podcast. 50 00:02:39,300 --> 00:02:41,550 I become somebody who can approach people easier. 51 00:02:41,550 --> 00:02:43,980 I have a better network of people to call upon when I need 'em. 52 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:48,570 I get to meet new people all the time from all walks of life and all over the globe 53 00:02:48,870 --> 00:02:50,550 and connect with 'em at a deeper level. 54 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:52,829 I have a voice to do what I love. 55 00:02:53,340 --> 00:02:56,940 I'm always put into situations where I'm having to stretch and learn something new. 56 00:02:57,299 --> 00:02:59,970 I've really grown as a person and a professional since I started doing 57 00:02:59,970 --> 00:03:03,840 my podcast, and that was even before my show really started growing. 58 00:03:04,739 --> 00:03:08,040 I hired a company called Grow Your Show, who's our sponsor, by the way, 59 00:03:08,640 --> 00:03:09,930 and I wanted to share them with you. 60 00:03:10,380 --> 00:03:13,239 The owner, Adam, has one of the very best podcasts for teaching 61 00:03:13,239 --> 00:03:14,519 you how to be a podcaster. 62 00:03:14,970 --> 00:03:16,109 I honestly wish I had found it. 63 00:03:17,234 --> 00:03:20,445 One thing that they've done to help me is to bring me to a much larger 64 00:03:20,445 --> 00:03:23,625 listener base so that my voice is being heard around the world. 65 00:03:24,105 --> 00:03:27,584 There's a good chance, in fact that they helped us connect, but they 66 00:03:27,584 --> 00:03:29,535 also do editing and post-production. 67 00:03:30,045 --> 00:03:33,435 They can even help you launch and start your podcast, which could 68 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:36,554 really help you in your business or whatever you're trying to achieve. 69 00:03:37,424 --> 00:03:39,135 So I just wanted to give them a quick shout out. 70 00:03:39,225 --> 00:03:42,975 I love to share great people and companies that I believe in, that I use person. 71 00:03:43,950 --> 00:03:46,649 So that's Grow Your show@growyourshow.com. 72 00:03:47,010 --> 00:03:50,399 I have a link in the show notes, and if you have a podcast or you wanna start 73 00:03:50,399 --> 00:03:53,700 a podcast or you're thinking about it, just scroll down there, click that 74 00:03:53,700 --> 00:03:55,769 link and go work with my friend Adam. 75 00:03:55,950 --> 00:03:56,880 He's gonna treat you right. 76 00:03:56,880 --> 00:04:00,000 The problem is too much dopamine in your system is dangerous. 77 00:04:01,589 --> 00:04:05,370 It leads to a lot of mental health issues and neurological problems 78 00:04:05,370 --> 00:04:07,140 and diseases even like Parkinson's. 79 00:04:08,070 --> 00:04:11,430 That's beside the fact that most of the sources. 80 00:04:12,300 --> 00:04:17,190 Out there that are triggering your dopamine response make you fat. 81 00:04:17,190 --> 00:04:20,040 Laser, plain, crazy, right? 82 00:04:20,340 --> 00:04:24,180 Drugs, social media, Netflix, and chill. 83 00:04:24,990 --> 00:04:30,510 And a lot of the foods that they're adding sugar to are just bad for you. 84 00:04:31,050 --> 00:04:35,760 And because the release of that response, it actually programs your brain to think, 85 00:04:35,820 --> 00:04:37,290 Hey, this is what I should be doing. 86 00:04:38,670 --> 00:04:39,210 So how do. 87 00:04:40,020 --> 00:04:43,320 Take control back, guys. 88 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:44,430 That's a really big question. 89 00:04:44,430 --> 00:04:47,910 That's why it's such a popular topic on the internet, because 90 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:49,620 it's, it's a hard question. 91 00:04:51,150 --> 00:04:54,930 Well, the simple answer is it's not simple, so you have to approach it 92 00:04:54,930 --> 00:05:00,210 the same way you in an elephant, one bite at a time because you almost 93 00:05:00,210 --> 00:05:02,190 can't break the cycle all at once. 94 00:05:03,930 --> 00:05:07,290 So the first thing you have to do is you have to create a plan of attack 95 00:05:07,740 --> 00:05:14,130 if you want to make changes, because dopamine triggers are rampant, guys, 96 00:05:14,130 --> 00:05:18,630 and I'm telling you, the over studying this, the over rerelease of dopamine, 97 00:05:18,635 --> 00:05:23,400 the excessive amounts of dopamine, constantly flooding your system, man, 98 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:29,220 they've been connected to all kind like, uh, Alzheimer's and all kinds of 99 00:05:29,700 --> 00:05:31,110 dementia and all kinds of horrible things. 100 00:05:32,385 --> 00:05:34,664 It's a chemical transmitter to your brain. 101 00:05:34,664 --> 00:05:38,055 So this just flushing of it all the time is doing bad things. 102 00:05:38,474 --> 00:05:42,765 So, because it is so rampant, because foods can trigger it, uh, 103 00:05:42,794 --> 00:05:46,965 visuals actually touching things, any number of things can trigger it. 104 00:05:46,995 --> 00:05:53,865 We have to create a plan of attack to narrow what's impacting us to 105 00:05:53,865 --> 00:05:55,784 get it back down to a controllable. 106 00:05:57,105 --> 00:06:00,465 So start with more easily controlled things like entertainment. 107 00:06:00,735 --> 00:06:02,175 I know this hits home for most of us. 108 00:06:02,355 --> 00:06:05,445 This is hard, but small steps are really important. 109 00:06:06,405 --> 00:06:10,575 Make a conscientious effort to spend less time on social media. 110 00:06:10,875 --> 00:06:14,985 Social media is designed to feed your dopamine response. 111 00:06:15,075 --> 00:06:20,175 That's the entire reason that likes and thumbs up and that 112 00:06:20,175 --> 00:06:21,915 crap on social media exist. 113 00:06:22,935 --> 00:06:24,975 Truly pushing that button. 114 00:06:26,430 --> 00:06:29,790 Getting all those likes and thumbs ups and loves and all, whatever 115 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:34,920 platform you're on actually feeds the dopamine response of the people who 116 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:36,330 are getting those likes and responses. 117 00:06:36,330 --> 00:06:39,780 That's why people are doing stupider and crazier stuff all the time on social 118 00:06:39,780 --> 00:06:41,940 media because they're desperate for that. 119 00:06:41,940 --> 00:06:47,400 Like the problem is the more you flood your system with it, the more your 120 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:48,720 body becomes slightly numb to it. 121 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:49,920 So you need more and more. 122 00:06:50,340 --> 00:06:52,710 So make conscious effort, spend less time on social. 123 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:58,770 Turn off the screens more often, play less games, turn off the porn. 124 00:06:59,490 --> 00:07:01,410 Take it easy on the energy drinks. 125 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:06,390 That one hurts, that, that, that even hurts to say cuz I, I 126 00:07:06,390 --> 00:07:07,650 like energy drinks and coffee. 127 00:07:07,650 --> 00:07:08,400 That's pretty much my life. 128 00:07:09,284 --> 00:07:11,025 So that hurts for me guys. 129 00:07:11,025 --> 00:07:13,335 I understand this is not an easy thing. 130 00:07:14,775 --> 00:07:20,025 Then consider maybe moving to having a day or a weekend when you 131 00:07:20,025 --> 00:07:22,094 take a total social media detox. 132 00:07:22,099 --> 00:07:22,275 Art. 133 00:07:22,275 --> 00:07:23,385 Take it a step farther. 134 00:07:23,864 --> 00:07:26,955 Maybe you need a screen time or a game detox. 135 00:07:28,605 --> 00:07:31,695 Try to increase that time over time. 136 00:07:32,115 --> 00:07:32,685 Maybe. 137 00:07:32,745 --> 00:07:35,145 Maybe you start with just a couple hours a day. 138 00:07:35,505 --> 00:07:38,115 You don't reach for your phone before a certain time in the morning. 139 00:07:38,145 --> 00:07:40,575 You don't turn on a screen before a certain time in the 140 00:07:40,575 --> 00:07:42,855 day and then maybe, right? 141 00:07:42,855 --> 00:07:45,705 Cuz we're all about getting better sleep here on the Fallible Man. 142 00:07:46,035 --> 00:07:50,265 So maybe you turn off your TV and your other screens earlier in the evening. 143 00:07:51,195 --> 00:07:51,855 Read a book. 144 00:07:52,979 --> 00:07:54,690 Talk to the people you live with. 145 00:07:55,140 --> 00:07:57,719 Spend time with your loved ones and your family. 146 00:07:58,950 --> 00:08:01,020 Hopefully those are the same things, but just in case I had to cover 147 00:08:01,020 --> 00:08:06,000 both right now, try and gradually increase those time periods. 148 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:11,310 Either have more of those time periods or and increase the frequency of 149 00:08:11,310 --> 00:08:13,710 them, or lengthen those time periods. 150 00:08:13,710 --> 00:08:15,630 Either one is an effective start. 151 00:08:16,380 --> 00:08:18,690 Like I said, guys, we're taking baby steps outta here because 152 00:08:18,690 --> 00:08:20,219 they're not just gonna happen over. 153 00:08:21,555 --> 00:08:23,835 Now, I'm not saying you have to give this stuff up forever. 154 00:08:24,525 --> 00:08:28,515 If the idea of putting down for a whole day is hard for you though, if it's 155 00:08:28,515 --> 00:08:33,495 anxiety inducing for you, you definitely need to take this first thing guys. 156 00:08:34,275 --> 00:08:38,715 It should not cause you massive anxiety to forget your phone. 157 00:08:39,825 --> 00:08:41,054 I'm 43 years old. 158 00:08:41,115 --> 00:08:44,085 I remember before you could take your phone with you and we all 159 00:08:44,085 --> 00:08:45,555 lived through the dark ages, okay? 160 00:08:46,965 --> 00:08:50,325 If it causes you that much anxiety because you forgot your phone. 161 00:08:51,825 --> 00:08:54,165 You're probably on your phone too much and you definitely need to take 162 00:08:54,165 --> 00:08:57,345 this first Spin baby steps though. 163 00:08:58,215 --> 00:09:00,345 Then you can try some of the harder things. 164 00:09:00,525 --> 00:09:01,905 Maybe try a sugar detox. 165 00:09:02,025 --> 00:09:04,845 Ooh, as, that's a horrible thought, right? 166 00:09:05,355 --> 00:09:06,645 Give it up for a couple days. 167 00:09:07,215 --> 00:09:11,025 Actually, three days is a really magic number for this because you, 168 00:09:11,025 --> 00:09:15,105 you'll be amazed at the difference you feel after three days without sugar. 169 00:09:15,915 --> 00:09:20,025 Now, full disclosure, day one and two are gonna suck. 170 00:09:20,715 --> 00:09:21,105 Okay. 171 00:09:21,435 --> 00:09:23,415 They add sugar to everything. 172 00:09:23,415 --> 00:09:26,325 These days I've been on a diet. 173 00:09:26,325 --> 00:09:28,275 My favorite diet, I actually like keto. 174 00:09:28,335 --> 00:09:29,325 It's not for everybody. 175 00:09:29,325 --> 00:09:30,225 I'm not a dietician. 176 00:09:30,230 --> 00:09:32,265 I'm not recommending what you should do. 177 00:09:32,715 --> 00:09:34,095 I like the ketogenic diet. 178 00:09:34,155 --> 00:09:38,205 I like the keto carnivore, leaning on the ketogenic diet, and I like 179 00:09:38,210 --> 00:09:40,125 it because it's a low sugar, right? 180 00:09:40,335 --> 00:09:43,815 I feel better when I actually detox myself from sugar somewhat. 181 00:09:44,745 --> 00:09:51,464 So it can be really, When you first try, because they put sugar in everything. 182 00:09:52,454 --> 00:09:55,814 They put it in milk, they put it in bread, they put it in your 183 00:09:55,814 --> 00:09:58,425 french fries talking to you. 184 00:09:58,724 --> 00:10:04,094 Ihop, I'm sorry, sugar in my, uh, omelet. 185 00:10:04,305 --> 00:10:04,785 Really? 186 00:10:04,964 --> 00:10:05,265 Yeah. 187 00:10:05,805 --> 00:10:06,405 They do that. 188 00:10:07,395 --> 00:10:08,055 So guys. 189 00:10:09,285 --> 00:10:10,305 Take baby steps. 190 00:10:10,305 --> 00:10:11,895 That's how you get out of this, okay? 191 00:10:11,895 --> 00:10:13,515 You cannot do it instantly. 192 00:10:13,875 --> 00:10:15,225 You cannot do it cold Turkey. 193 00:10:15,375 --> 00:10:16,725 Well, you can, but guess what? 194 00:10:16,730 --> 00:10:21,645 You're actually gonna have some detox reactions, just like if you were coming 195 00:10:21,645 --> 00:10:26,715 off a drug, especially if you try and make that break from the outs outside 196 00:10:26,715 --> 00:10:32,595 Stimuluses, like social media and Netflix and things like that, and from food. 197 00:10:32,595 --> 00:10:35,145 At the same time, if you try and do all that, you're gonna 198 00:10:35,145 --> 00:10:36,495 have a really rough time of it. 199 00:10:36,495 --> 00:10:37,275 So take baby. 200 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:40,230 But start putting yourself back in control. 201 00:10:41,910 --> 00:10:49,050 That detox is necessary because right now that dopamine hit is ever prevalent. 202 00:10:49,140 --> 00:10:52,980 Every marketing company in the world is using it right now to try 203 00:10:52,980 --> 00:10:56,070 and tap into your brain and keep you addicted to their product. 204 00:10:56,970 --> 00:10:58,680 It really is a marketing tactic. 205 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:00,840 They purposely designed it that way. 206 00:11:01,740 --> 00:11:02,520 Take control back. 207 00:11:04,410 --> 00:11:05,790 I've done a sugar detox. 208 00:11:07,020 --> 00:11:11,790 I can honestly tell you after like five days on keto carnivore, I ate 209 00:11:12,330 --> 00:11:14,760 one of my grandmother's brownies I made, and I'm really good at 210 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:17,760 baking guys, but I ate a brownie. 211 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:18,810 I made for an event. 212 00:11:18,810 --> 00:11:23,700 We went to like, so you take food to it and I ate a brownie and 213 00:11:23,705 --> 00:11:25,140 it's the brownies I grew up with. 214 00:11:25,290 --> 00:11:28,740 I have warm emotional connections to these brownies. 215 00:11:29,610 --> 00:11:32,790 After five days of not eating sugar, they didn't even taste good to me. 216 00:11:32,790 --> 00:11:33,240 They tasted. 217 00:11:36,135 --> 00:11:38,865 You will actually change within a couple days. 218 00:11:38,865 --> 00:11:39,645 It's incredible. 219 00:11:40,305 --> 00:11:44,435 Give it a try guys, where you're not being driven by the chemicals 220 00:11:44,435 --> 00:11:47,084 in your body, but where your brain is telling you where to go. 221 00:11:47,415 --> 00:11:49,964 I promise it will change your life drastically. 222 00:11:50,685 --> 00:11:55,094 Now guys, it's Friday and I love to user your reviews on Friday because you guys, 223 00:11:55,094 --> 00:11:59,925 I just am so grateful when you share with us how you're feeling about the show 224 00:11:59,925 --> 00:12:01,185 and when you share it with your friends. 225 00:12:01,635 --> 00:12:03,224 So I wanted to read this and it's. 226 00:12:03,900 --> 00:12:05,730 C I D K 92. 227 00:12:05,820 --> 00:12:06,720 I can't pronounce that. 228 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:10,320 I would left us a five star review that says on point. 229 00:12:10,740 --> 00:12:11,910 What a great podcast. 230 00:12:11,940 --> 00:12:16,050 I enjoy the straight talk to the Point talk, great show to listen to each 231 00:12:16,050 --> 00:12:17,580 week and to stay focused on the goal. 232 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:19,020 Thank you so much. 233 00:12:19,020 --> 00:12:21,840 C I D K 92. 234 00:12:22,470 --> 00:12:23,430 Uh, your handle. 235 00:12:23,610 --> 00:12:23,970 Wow. 236 00:12:24,540 --> 00:12:24,780 I don't know. 237 00:12:24,780 --> 00:12:26,820 Everybody's determined to leave their stuff like. 238 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:28,440 Anonymous or something. 239 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:28,920 That's fine. 240 00:12:29,550 --> 00:12:31,650 But thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. 241 00:12:31,650 --> 00:12:33,390 Thank you for taking the time to leave us to review. 242 00:12:33,395 --> 00:12:34,230 It means a lot. 243 00:12:34,230 --> 00:12:35,820 It helps us get in front of more people. 244 00:12:36,300 --> 00:12:39,990 Guys, as always, be better tomorrow because of what you do today, and 245 00:12:39,990 --> 00:12:40,890 we'll see you on the next one. 246 00:12:42,360 --> 00:12:44,850 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