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Are you tired of constantly hitting roadblocks in your relationships? Do you wish you could communicate with ease and truly connect with the people in your life? Well, get ready to say goodbye to those communication struggles and hello to harmonious relationships! In this exciting new show, we'll reveal the top 7 communication techniques that will revolutionize the way you interact with others. So grab a pen and paper, and get ready to take notes - your relationships are about to get a serious upgrade!

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1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:02,520 are you tired of constantly hitting roadblocks in your relationship? 2 00:00:02,760 --> 00:00:05,220 Do you wish you could communicate with ease and truly connect 3 00:00:05,220 --> 00:00:06,150 with the people in your life? 4 00:00:06,570 --> 00:00:09,210 Well, ready to say goodbye to those communication struggles and 5 00:00:09,450 --> 00:00:11,730 hello to Harmonious Relationships. 6 00:00:11,730 --> 00:00:12,210 Guys. 7 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:16,440 In this exciting new show, we'll reveal the top seven communication 8 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,200 techniques that will revolutionize the way you interact with others. 9 00:00:19,650 --> 00:00:22,350 So grab a pen and paper, get ready to take your notes. 10 00:00:22,470 --> 00:00:25,440 Your relationships are about to get a serious upgrade. 11 00:00:31,445 --> 00:00:32,915 Here's the million dollar question. 12 00:00:33,335 --> 00:00:35,644 How do men like us reach our full potential? 13 00:00:36,155 --> 00:00:40,144 Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 14 00:00:40,504 --> 00:00:44,915 working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 15 00:00:45,875 --> 00:00:49,715 Well, that's the big question In this podcast, we'll help you 16 00:00:49,715 --> 00:00:51,125 answer those questions and more. 17 00:00:51,275 --> 00:00:54,125 My name is Brent and welcome to the Album Man podcast. 18 00:00:58,724 --> 00:01:00,194 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 19 00:01:00,194 --> 00:01:02,084 You're home for all things, man, husband, and father. 20 00:01:02,294 --> 00:01:02,535 Big. 21 00:01:02,535 --> 00:01:03,644 Shout out to the fallible nation. 22 00:01:03,675 --> 00:01:06,045 You guys make things like this possible and a warm welcome 23 00:01:06,045 --> 00:01:07,155 to our first time listeners. 24 00:01:07,455 --> 00:01:08,774 Welcome to Fallible Nation. 25 00:01:09,164 --> 00:01:09,914 My name is Bre. 26 00:01:10,125 --> 00:01:11,445 I am the fallible man. 27 00:01:11,955 --> 00:01:15,104 Effective communication is key to building and strengthening relationships 28 00:01:15,104 --> 00:01:16,634 with important people in your life. 29 00:01:17,150 --> 00:01:21,650 Communication is just a critical skill that all of us could use some help on. 30 00:01:21,650 --> 00:01:24,560 I know I'm not perfect at it, and I'm guessing that you could use some help too. 31 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:25,490 That's why you're here. 32 00:01:25,790 --> 00:01:29,720 So here are seven techniques you can use to improve your communication 33 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:34,430 skills and just make your life a whole lot better when it comes to that. 34 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:37,730 Number one, guys is active listening. 35 00:01:38,780 --> 00:01:40,400 Active listening is. 36 00:01:40,950 --> 00:01:44,429 This, this used to, I, I used to make fun of this, honestly, but you 37 00:01:44,429 --> 00:01:48,030 know, pay close attention to what the other person is saying and show that 38 00:01:48,030 --> 00:01:52,230 you understand by reflecting what they said back in your own words. 39 00:01:52,620 --> 00:01:55,950 Now, this may be the only communication technique we were ever taught 40 00:01:55,950 --> 00:01:58,740 in school, and maybe your school didn't teach us, but this is the 41 00:01:58,740 --> 00:02:00,180 one they actually clued us in on. 42 00:02:01,020 --> 00:02:05,160 And it has to do not just with reflecting back what they said, right? 43 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:06,990 They remember, they tell, tell. 44 00:02:08,870 --> 00:02:13,500 Rephrase it back in your own words when they break, so they understand that you 45 00:02:13,500 --> 00:02:16,260 are listening and can confirm that you're understanding the right thing, right? 46 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:20,040 But it's not just about saying it back. 47 00:02:20,459 --> 00:02:21,959 It's about body language. 48 00:02:21,990 --> 00:02:23,549 It's about eye contact. 49 00:02:23,555 --> 00:02:27,000 It's about being open physically, right? 50 00:02:27,209 --> 00:02:30,630 If you're sitting back with your arms crossed and your legs 51 00:02:30,630 --> 00:02:33,540 crossed, You are less open. 52 00:02:33,570 --> 00:02:35,850 There's actually a physical communication skill. 53 00:02:35,850 --> 00:02:40,290 In fact, I was getting ready for a different show and the estimate was 54 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,920 57% of your communication is nonverbal. 55 00:02:44,220 --> 00:02:46,019 So that's part of active listening. 56 00:02:46,019 --> 00:02:49,680 So open up, make sure you have a good posture, that you're open to 57 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:51,870 speaking within, that you're looking at them, that they're making eye 58 00:02:51,870 --> 00:02:54,150 contact and that you're listening. 59 00:02:54,269 --> 00:02:58,200 Not planning your responses, but making sure that you 60 00:02:58,200 --> 00:02:59,340 understand what they're saying. 61 00:02:59,609 --> 00:03:00,930 That's active listening. 62 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:02,430 Right. 63 00:03:02,430 --> 00:03:05,490 Pretty straightforward and, and I think you guys can nail that one with ease. 64 00:03:05,550 --> 00:03:07,500 I know that's one of my stronger suits. 65 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,920 Not perfect, but it, it is one of the better out of this list for me, for sure. 66 00:03:11,580 --> 00:03:13,140 Number two is to be present. 67 00:03:13,950 --> 00:03:18,360 Now, we talk about presence in a lot of context on this show, whether 68 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:21,480 that's being with your kids or being with your spouse or a loved one, 69 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:22,890 or a friend or whatever, right? 70 00:03:22,890 --> 00:03:23,370 Putting down the. 71 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:28,590 Give your full attention to the person you're communicating with and 72 00:03:28,590 --> 00:03:35,520 avoid distractions like your phone, emails, uh, text messages, right? 73 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:37,410 I've got an Apple watch I didn't use to have that. 74 00:03:37,415 --> 00:03:40,950 My friend gave me an Apple watch as a gift, and it's amazing, 75 00:03:40,950 --> 00:03:44,130 but I get notifications all the time now, and I don't even have 76 00:03:44,130 --> 00:03:45,030 to have my phone on me now. 77 00:03:45,030 --> 00:03:47,850 It just comes straight to my wrist and it's really hard 78 00:03:47,850 --> 00:03:50,100 not to look down at my watch. 79 00:03:50,579 --> 00:03:52,230 So avoid these distrac. 80 00:03:52,775 --> 00:03:55,445 Be present in the moment when you're communicating with a person. 81 00:03:55,445 --> 00:04:00,605 I promise it makes an amazing, I was looking for astounding, but just an 82 00:04:00,605 --> 00:04:03,965 amazing level of difference in your communication with another person. 83 00:04:05,075 --> 00:04:08,584 Now, before we go any further, I wanted to share with you guys, I don't always 84 00:04:08,590 --> 00:04:15,365 tell you how much I love doing my podcast, like I passionately love what I'm doing 85 00:04:15,875 --> 00:04:19,714 and one of the things that makes my life better as a podcaster is to work 86 00:04:19,714 --> 00:04:21,365 with a company like Grow Your Show. 87 00:04:21,825 --> 00:04:24,105 Grow Your show is a one-stop podcast. 88 00:04:24,105 --> 00:04:24,675 Do it all. 89 00:04:24,945 --> 00:04:28,035 Now I use Grow Your Show for my marketing, but Grow Your Show 90 00:04:28,035 --> 00:04:29,385 is literally a one-stop shop. 91 00:04:29,385 --> 00:04:31,695 You can record your episode and just drop it off with them 92 00:04:31,700 --> 00:04:32,625 and they take it from there. 93 00:04:32,655 --> 00:04:33,585 It's amazing. 94 00:04:34,215 --> 00:04:37,905 If you are interested in picking up podcasting, it's a hobby or maybe 95 00:04:37,905 --> 00:04:40,995 you're looking to expand your business and use podcasting, that aspect. 96 00:04:41,489 --> 00:04:43,349 Talk to my friends over Grow your show. 97 00:04:43,349 --> 00:04:44,400 Adam will take care of you. 98 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:45,330 I guarantee it. 99 00:04:45,719 --> 00:04:46,349 I trust him. 100 00:04:46,349 --> 00:04:50,940 He's my friend, he's my business colleague, and I wouldn't trust 101 00:04:50,940 --> 00:04:52,109 anybody else with my show. 102 00:04:52,799 --> 00:04:57,210 Number three, use I statements I didn't use to understand this. 103 00:04:57,210 --> 00:04:58,799 It's, it's taken, I'm a little thick. 104 00:04:59,450 --> 00:05:03,989 But when expressing your feelings or needs use, I state. 105 00:05:04,725 --> 00:05:10,335 Instead of blaming or accusing the other people, for example, say, I 106 00:05:10,335 --> 00:05:13,185 feel hurt when you do X, Y, or Z. 107 00:05:13,485 --> 00:05:17,115 Instead of you always do X or, and it's not fair. 108 00:05:17,115 --> 00:05:18,255 You always do that. 109 00:05:18,255 --> 00:05:22,575 Or why do you always, that's not the right answer when you're communicating 110 00:05:22,575 --> 00:05:30,165 with somebody, effectively use I statements like, I feel hurt, right? 111 00:05:30,945 --> 00:05:32,415 I feel like you're not listening to me. 112 00:05:33,255 --> 00:05:34,544 My feelings get hurt. 113 00:05:34,544 --> 00:05:39,104 It's still technically an I statement, but it's, I statements are about 114 00:05:39,104 --> 00:05:44,385 how you translate an action and it impacts you not blaming somebody else. 115 00:05:45,525 --> 00:05:47,294 And that's a huge jump forward. 116 00:05:47,835 --> 00:05:50,055 Number four is ask open-ended questions. 117 00:05:50,294 --> 00:05:53,655 Now, this is a talent as somebody who's done a lot of 118 00:05:53,655 --> 00:05:55,094 interviews and stuff over the. 119 00:05:56,520 --> 00:06:00,480 This is actually a major talent to develop and this will help you not just 120 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:04,800 in your communication, but this will help you in all kinds of areas of your life. 121 00:06:05,730 --> 00:06:09,780 Use questions that encourage conversation and show interest in 122 00:06:09,780 --> 00:06:11,070 the other person's perspective. 123 00:06:11,670 --> 00:06:14,220 Don't ask OP just close statements. 124 00:06:14,670 --> 00:06:15,540 Do you like this? 125 00:06:15,900 --> 00:06:16,440 Yes. 126 00:06:17,610 --> 00:06:21,630 Parents need to master this with their kids because this is what gets us 127 00:06:21,635 --> 00:06:24,200 when we talk to our kids about school or other things going on in their. 128 00:06:25,740 --> 00:06:27,180 Open-ended questions. 129 00:06:27,570 --> 00:06:30,480 Don't ask a question that they can just say, yes, no, or eh. 130 00:06:30,599 --> 00:06:34,500 To avoid questions that be answered with a simple yes or no. 131 00:06:35,780 --> 00:06:38,610 Que ask questions that will actually elicit some kind of 132 00:06:38,615 --> 00:06:42,659 response other than, yeah, whatever. 133 00:06:43,980 --> 00:06:45,000 Number five, guys. 134 00:06:45,730 --> 00:06:46,469 Practice empathy. 135 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:51,659 Now, for some people, empathy is more difficult than others. 136 00:06:51,659 --> 00:06:53,250 This is not one of my strongest suit. 137 00:06:54,495 --> 00:06:57,795 Practicing empathy will improve your communication with whoever 138 00:06:57,795 --> 00:07:00,285 you're talking to in a massive way. 139 00:07:00,945 --> 00:07:05,055 Try to understand the other person's perspective and show that you not only 140 00:07:05,055 --> 00:07:08,835 understand their perspective, but you care about their feelings and their needs. 141 00:07:09,315 --> 00:07:11,805 This was never one of my really great strong suits, especially 142 00:07:11,810 --> 00:07:13,034 in the professional world. 143 00:07:13,919 --> 00:07:16,919 and I struggled frequently with some of my coworkers because we are very 144 00:07:16,919 --> 00:07:20,310 different people and I wasn't good at understanding the feelings and 145 00:07:20,310 --> 00:07:24,510 emotions that they processed with things versus the way I saw it. 146 00:07:24,515 --> 00:07:26,640 It's just very cold ones and zeros. 147 00:07:27,330 --> 00:07:31,200 So practicing empathy actually helped improve my relationships massively 148 00:07:31,205 --> 00:07:34,950 in the professional world when I worked in the corporate environment. 149 00:07:34,950 --> 00:07:37,380 So practice empathy, guys, give it a chance. 150 00:07:37,380 --> 00:07:37,979 It's crazy. 151 00:07:37,979 --> 00:07:41,820 I know little things, but man, they matter. 152 00:07:42,630 --> 00:07:43,950 Avoid interrupting. 153 00:07:46,950 --> 00:07:49,140 You know, I feel like I shouldn't have to say this because I say this 154 00:07:49,140 --> 00:07:53,520 to my children, , my daughters are eight and 11, and so I feel like I 155 00:07:53,525 --> 00:07:57,570 shouldn't have to share this with an adult, but let the other person finish 156 00:07:57,570 --> 00:07:59,640 what they're saying before responding. 157 00:08:00,330 --> 00:08:02,820 Interrupting can be seen as disrespectful. 158 00:08:03,630 --> 00:08:06,360 Let's face it, it is just seen as disrespectful and it can 159 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:07,770 hinder effective communication. 160 00:08:07,770 --> 00:08:09,240 Now, I will not say I'm perfect to. 161 00:08:10,695 --> 00:08:14,145 I have a friend of mine who will be glad to tell you that I am not perfect at this. 162 00:08:14,685 --> 00:08:16,424 So it is something I'm working on as well. 163 00:08:16,424 --> 00:08:20,534 I know that's a fault in my life, but I don't feel like as adults, we should have 164 00:08:20,539 --> 00:08:24,435 to be told this, but we constantly do it to one another and, and it's just rude. 165 00:08:24,765 --> 00:08:26,505 It, it doesn't, it doesn't help guys. 166 00:08:26,510 --> 00:08:30,284 So avoid interrupting number seven. 167 00:08:31,005 --> 00:08:34,184 Take responsibility now, if you've been on the channel before, you 168 00:08:34,184 --> 00:08:39,615 know, I'm a huge advocate of personal responsibility, uh, extreme ownership 169 00:08:39,855 --> 00:08:42,015 like Jocko Willie termed it in his book. 170 00:08:42,405 --> 00:08:46,245 Whatever you wanna say, take responsibility if you made a mistake. 171 00:08:46,455 --> 00:08:50,895 If you hurt somebody, take responsibility for your actions and apologize. 172 00:08:50,985 --> 00:08:51,795 Sincerely. 173 00:08:52,035 --> 00:08:53,055 Don't blame shift. 174 00:08:53,055 --> 00:08:56,385 Don't try and, oh, I didn't mean don't, don't try and explain it away. 175 00:08:56,385 --> 00:08:57,675 Don't try and make an excuse. 176 00:08:57,675 --> 00:08:58,725 Everybody's got an excuse. 177 00:08:58,725 --> 00:08:59,365 They suck. 178 00:09:00,180 --> 00:09:03,420 Just apologize on what you did and move forward. 179 00:09:03,750 --> 00:09:04,740 I promise. 180 00:09:05,069 --> 00:09:06,240 I promise. 181 00:09:06,870 --> 00:09:11,219 By practicing these tips and techniques, you can improve your communication 182 00:09:11,219 --> 00:09:15,240 skill and build stronger, healthier relationships with the important 183 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:19,500 people in your life, and it will make your life a lot better and theirs. 184 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:21,480 Now guys, it's Friday. 185 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:24,630 And I always like to highlight one of my listeners on Friday because you guys 186 00:09:24,630 --> 00:09:29,310 do amazing things like leave me reviews and that helps us out immensely on 187 00:09:29,314 --> 00:09:32,490 Apple Podcasts and getting in front of other people and expanding our audience. 188 00:09:33,060 --> 00:09:36,210 So I want to thank Bright Side Mets. 189 00:09:36,569 --> 00:09:38,090 I love the names you guys come up with. 190 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:42,750 Uh, sometimes for these Brightside Mets left me a five star review 191 00:09:42,750 --> 00:09:46,650 that says Authentic to errors human to share your error as brave. 192 00:09:47,700 --> 00:09:48,270 Tfm. 193 00:09:48,270 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