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Coworkers are NOT Your Friends, How to Work with Them MORE Effectively!

Coworkers are NOT Your Friends, How to Work with Them MORE Effectively!

Do you consider your coworkers as your friends? Think again. In this eye-opening episode of The Fallible Man podcast, we're breaking down the illusion of workplace friendships and revealing strategies to enhance your professional relationships. Get r...

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Do you consider your coworkers as your friends? Think again. In this eye-opening episode of The Fallible Man podcast, we're breaking down the illusion of workplace friendships and revealing strategies to enhance your professional relationships. Get ready to revolutionize the way you approach your colleagues and discover the keys to working with them more effectively.

In the modern workplace, it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that your coworkers are your friends. After all, you spend countless hours together, share personal anecdotes, and maybe even grab a drink after work. But are they truly your allies or simply acquaintances?

In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of coworker relationships, shedding light on the misconceptions and potential pitfalls. Join us as we explore practical strategies to navigate these complexities and unlock the secrets to working with your coworkers more effectively. It's time to redefine the boundaries, enhance your productivity, and create a thriving work environment. Tune in to this enlightening episode of The Fallible Man podcast and discover a new approach to building successful relationships in the workplace.

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1 00:00:02,910 --> 00:00:03,600 Picture of this. 2 00:00:03,900 --> 00:00:07,590 You walk into the office every day exchanging pleasantries with your 3 00:00:07,590 --> 00:00:11,130 coworkers, sharing laughs and, and even grabbing some lunch together. 4 00:00:11,490 --> 00:00:16,680 It feels like you've found your tribe, your work, family, but if you ever stop to 5 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:22,050 question if those coworkers are truly your friends, Are they in your corner when it 6 00:00:22,050 --> 00:00:24,240 matters most, or are they just colleagues? 7 00:00:25,050 --> 00:00:27,210 In this episode, we're pulling back the curtain on the illusion 8 00:00:27,210 --> 00:00:28,590 of workplace friendships. 9 00:00:29,100 --> 00:00:32,940 We'll explore the delicate balance between camaraderie and professionalism, 10 00:00:33,540 --> 00:00:36,810 and uncover some strategies for working more effectively with your coworkers. 11 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:40,110 It's time to shed those rose tinted glasses and uncover the 12 00:00:40,110 --> 00:00:41,730 truth about these relationships. 13 00:00:42,510 --> 00:00:47,490 We'll dive into the reasons why blurring the lions can be well. 14 00:00:49,154 --> 00:00:52,485 It can be a little dangerous to blow the lives between work and personal 15 00:00:52,485 --> 00:00:57,254 life, and it can lead to some unexpected pitfalls from office politics to 16 00:00:57,315 --> 00:00:59,114 competition, and even backstabbing. 17 00:00:59,114 --> 00:01:03,855 We'll tackle the uncomfortable truths head on, but don't worry because 18 00:01:03,855 --> 00:01:06,585 we're not here to discourage you from building connections at work. 19 00:01:06,715 --> 00:01:10,965 Instead, we'll equip you with the tools you need to foster a healthy, 20 00:01:10,965 --> 00:01:12,645 productive work environment. 21 00:01:13,215 --> 00:01:15,945 So grab your headphones and get ready to rethink the nature 22 00:01:15,945 --> 00:01:17,205 of your workplace friendships. 23 00:01:17,670 --> 00:01:21,330 Tune into this episode of the Fallible Man Podcast as we explore how to work with 24 00:01:21,330 --> 00:01:25,440 your coworkers more effectively, leaving behind those blurred lines and stepping 25 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:27,179 in the world of professional success. 26 00:01:32,429 --> 00:01:33,780 Here's the million dollar question. 27 00:01:34,320 --> 00:01:36,660 How do men like us reach our full potentials? 28 00:01:36,780 --> 00:01:41,160 Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 29 00:01:41,300 --> 00:01:45,750 working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. 30 00:01:46,875 --> 00:01:50,055 Well, that's the big question in this podcast. 31 00:01:50,265 --> 00:01:52,065 We'll help you answer those questions and more. 32 00:01:52,275 --> 00:01:54,725 My name is Brent and welcome to the Album Man podcast. 33 00:01:58,515 --> 00:01:59,775 Today's hyper-connected world. 34 00:01:59,780 --> 00:02:03,105 We spend a significant portion of our lives in the workplace surrounded by 35 00:02:03,105 --> 00:02:06,795 individuals who may start as strangers, but eventually become familiar faces. 36 00:02:07,425 --> 00:02:11,985 We forged bonds with coworkers and share personal stories and even partake in 37 00:02:11,985 --> 00:02:16,275 social outings, blurring those boundaries between professional and personal. 38 00:02:16,845 --> 00:02:19,335 However, it's essential to recognize that these nature of these 39 00:02:19,340 --> 00:02:23,155 relationships can be more nuanced than it seems at first glance. 40 00:02:23,765 --> 00:02:27,825 While some coworkers may actually generally become friends, 41 00:02:27,825 --> 00:02:30,765 eventually, eventually, eventually. 42 00:02:31,635 --> 00:02:35,115 Others might have different agendas, motivations, and even priorities. 43 00:02:35,745 --> 00:02:38,805 In this episode, we'll explore the pitfalls of assuming that all coworkers 44 00:02:38,805 --> 00:02:42,345 are friends and how these misconceptions can lead to misunderstandings, 45 00:02:42,465 --> 00:02:44,595 conflicts, and even emotional strain. 46 00:02:45,105 --> 00:02:48,855 We'll also provide practical strategies to work with your coworkers more 47 00:02:48,860 --> 00:02:52,395 effectively, fostering an environment of not only collaboration and 48 00:02:52,395 --> 00:02:56,505 productivity, but actually helping you build a better working relationship 49 00:02:56,505 --> 00:02:58,455 so you can be more effective at work. 50 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:01,650 By the way, welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 51 00:03:01,650 --> 00:03:03,030 You are home for all things, man. 52 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,540 A big shout out to Fallible Nation, that's our private community. 53 00:03:06,900 --> 00:03:08,790 You guys help us keep on the air like this. 54 00:03:08,790 --> 00:03:10,740 And a warm welcome to our first time listeners. 55 00:03:10,740 --> 00:03:12,840 Thanks for hanging out with us and giving us a chance. 56 00:03:13,290 --> 00:03:17,580 My name is Brent and I am the fallible man, being a very 57 00:03:17,585 --> 00:03:20,040 relationship focused person myself. 58 00:03:22,350 --> 00:03:24,570 I've had my share of bad experiences. 59 00:03:24,750 --> 00:03:28,750 I'm, I'm gonna be honest, there in the workplace, like just some really bad ones. 60 00:03:29,519 --> 00:03:32,820 I've had multiple mishaps where I misread what I thought was a 61 00:03:32,820 --> 00:03:35,850 positive relationship, leaning more towards friendship than a 62 00:03:35,850 --> 00:03:39,869 coworker, and it's cost me promising possibilities in some of my jobs. 63 00:03:40,350 --> 00:03:42,810 So why am I the person who should talk about this? 64 00:03:42,810 --> 00:03:45,630 Or you should listen to this because I've screwed it up guys. 65 00:03:46,140 --> 00:03:46,790 I know firsthand. 66 00:03:47,890 --> 00:03:53,500 I am a relationship coach, but I know firsthand what happens when you misread 67 00:03:53,500 --> 00:03:56,829 the situation, and I don't wanna see you make those mistakes, but I do 68 00:03:56,829 --> 00:04:01,089 wanna see you be successful in your working relationships because they are 69 00:04:01,095 --> 00:04:02,920 relationships that you have to have. 70 00:04:04,750 --> 00:04:08,049 More than likely you've run into this, if you've been in the working 71 00:04:08,049 --> 00:04:09,519 world for more than a few years. 72 00:04:09,549 --> 00:04:12,970 It doesn't take long before you run into this kind of thing, especially 73 00:04:12,970 --> 00:04:16,630 in the modern climate of, of the complexities between men and women, right. 74 00:04:17,310 --> 00:04:21,330 There have been some nasty wake up calls for a lot of us over the age of 35 who 75 00:04:21,330 --> 00:04:27,030 started working in a different time period than what the climate's like now 76 00:04:27,390 --> 00:04:31,800 for what was considered to be socially acceptable and normal and perfectly okay. 77 00:04:32,340 --> 00:04:33,330 Trust me, it is. 78 00:04:33,330 --> 00:04:36,511 Uh, there have been some pitfalls that are just scary now. 79 00:04:36,870 --> 00:04:41,400 I look back on those as work changed over the years, what was okay and what was not. 80 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:44,340 It's like, ooh, I, I may have got outta the working world 81 00:04:44,340 --> 00:04:46,410 at a good time just because. 82 00:04:46,860 --> 00:04:48,630 I'm used to construction. 83 00:04:48,630 --> 00:04:52,740 I'm used to the military, and we have some pretty loose, fast rules 84 00:04:52,740 --> 00:04:54,090 in the way we talk to each other. 85 00:04:54,300 --> 00:04:57,990 Men and women alike on the other side. 86 00:04:58,425 --> 00:05:01,425 I have a handful of friends that started out in the workplace. 87 00:05:01,515 --> 00:05:02,025 Okay. 88 00:05:02,415 --> 00:05:03,225 Very few. 89 00:05:03,375 --> 00:05:06,795 But I have a handful of good friends that I started out with 90 00:05:06,855 --> 00:05:11,115 in the workplace, including one that is a big fan of the show. 91 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:14,235 And Tim, if you're listening, talking about you buddy, I look 92 00:05:14,235 --> 00:05:15,735 forward, we still talk every week. 93 00:05:15,735 --> 00:05:17,325 We haven't worked together in almost a year. 94 00:05:17,700 --> 00:05:21,090 We still talk every single week and catch up and talk about what's going 95 00:05:21,090 --> 00:05:22,619 on and how we're doing our lives. 96 00:05:22,619 --> 00:05:25,979 And he's been a big supporter of the Fallible Man since we started, 97 00:05:26,280 --> 00:05:29,880 and that's just become a great relationship that I really value. 98 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:34,890 I love his feedback and his input, but you're only gonna have a few of those. 99 00:05:35,109 --> 00:05:35,400 Okay. 100 00:05:36,010 --> 00:05:40,590 There are a lot of pitfalls to avoid, but I don't wanna dwell there. 101 00:05:40,620 --> 00:05:40,950 Okay. 102 00:05:40,950 --> 00:05:44,250 What I want to tell you is not everybody at work is your friend. 103 00:05:44,250 --> 00:05:45,630 In fact, the majority of them are not. 104 00:05:46,350 --> 00:05:51,030 And it's really easy and dangerous to misread them and treat them like 105 00:05:51,030 --> 00:05:54,480 friends, because hey, we talk, we even talk about personal stuff like 106 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:55,860 our families and stuff like that. 107 00:05:56,400 --> 00:06:00,030 It's really easy to misread that situation and assume it's actually 108 00:06:00,030 --> 00:06:04,140 a friendship when it's really just comradery among coworkers. 109 00:06:04,260 --> 00:06:09,510 What I do wanna dwell on today, however, what we wanna focus on in this episode 110 00:06:09,930 --> 00:06:12,330 is the skills you need to exercise. 111 00:06:13,065 --> 00:06:17,265 Are the skills you need to exercise to have successful workplace connections. 112 00:06:18,285 --> 00:06:21,015 These people, even the ones that are difficult or hard to get 113 00:06:21,020 --> 00:06:24,285 along with, people like me who are difficult and hard to get along with 114 00:06:25,125 --> 00:06:26,895 are a major factor in your life. 115 00:06:27,105 --> 00:06:30,405 You likely spend more time with them than you do your own family. 116 00:06:31,445 --> 00:06:38,025 So the good news is the skillsets that you need to be successful 117 00:06:38,025 --> 00:06:39,285 in those relationships. 118 00:06:40,245 --> 00:06:42,075 Work in all relationships. 119 00:06:42,555 --> 00:06:46,155 Now we're gonna apply them to the workplace relationship, but understand 120 00:06:46,155 --> 00:06:50,355 these are the core skills you need in every relationship, whether it's 121 00:06:50,355 --> 00:06:56,025 parenting or whether it is friends, or whether it's, uh, romantic relationship. 122 00:06:56,295 --> 00:07:00,795 These are five core pieces that you need for healthy relationships. 123 00:07:01,785 --> 00:07:04,305 These skills are interchangeable no matter what kind of 124 00:07:04,305 --> 00:07:05,535 relationship you want to have. 125 00:07:06,945 --> 00:07:08,445 Now, let me be clear, okay? 126 00:07:08,445 --> 00:07:09,855 I'm the perfect example of this. 127 00:07:10,155 --> 00:07:13,245 You must choose to apply these skills to your coworkers. 128 00:07:13,725 --> 00:07:16,725 Just knowing these skills doesn't automatically fix that. 129 00:07:16,725 --> 00:07:18,405 Let me tell you why I'm the perfect example. 130 00:07:18,855 --> 00:07:25,455 I've had a lot of coworkers who would tell you I'm kind of icy and not real nice, 131 00:07:25,455 --> 00:07:31,395 and I can be difficult to work with, and it's because I had no desire to expressly 132 00:07:31,395 --> 00:07:34,005 apply my skillset at relationships. 133 00:07:34,305 --> 00:07:36,344 With those people, they weren't that important to me. 134 00:07:37,275 --> 00:07:43,875 However, I am also the guy who knows how to fix this, and so I've 135 00:07:43,875 --> 00:07:45,675 had a lot of issues with coworkers. 136 00:07:45,975 --> 00:07:51,445 It was only when I intentionally applied these skills to those relationships skills 137 00:07:51,705 --> 00:07:55,365 that I thought were uniquely for romantic relationships or family relationships. 138 00:07:55,965 --> 00:07:59,565 That's how I found out they were universal because I replied these actively to 139 00:07:59,565 --> 00:08:03,735 work with some coworkers I had that I was always hitting a wall with. 140 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:05,055 And you know what? 141 00:08:05,175 --> 00:08:08,445 Those relationships change drastically into very successful 142 00:08:08,445 --> 00:08:09,675 professional relationships. 143 00:08:09,945 --> 00:08:13,245 People I still chat with on social media and stuff like that. 144 00:08:13,665 --> 00:08:18,765 So these can be applied to every relationship in your office and it 145 00:08:18,765 --> 00:08:23,895 will take that relationship to a better level professionally and that the ground 146 00:08:24,195 --> 00:08:27,885 skills you need for every relationship, but it will help you be more effective 147 00:08:27,885 --> 00:08:30,615 professionally in these relationships. 148 00:08:31,455 --> 00:08:33,645 Number one is extreme ownership. 149 00:08:35,069 --> 00:08:36,929 Look, the other person may be a total tool. 150 00:08:37,020 --> 00:08:37,770 Let's be honest. 151 00:08:38,159 --> 00:08:39,240 We've all worked with those. 152 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:41,280 And you may be thinking, yeah, you are Dolan. 153 00:08:42,089 --> 00:08:44,850 Once you take ownership of every situation, you are 154 00:08:44,850 --> 00:08:46,920 gonna move ahead a long way. 155 00:08:47,850 --> 00:08:51,660 If it's someone else's fault, then you're a victim and you're helpless and you're 156 00:08:51,660 --> 00:08:52,771 at someone else's mercy to save you. 157 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:53,520 And guess what? 158 00:08:53,819 --> 00:08:54,600 No one's going to. 159 00:08:55,589 --> 00:09:03,360 If it's all on your head, then you can save yourself and excel at whatever it is. 160 00:09:03,750 --> 00:09:07,890 You can move forward if you own it, but only if you own it, because that 161 00:09:07,890 --> 00:09:09,329 puts the power back in your court. 162 00:09:09,329 --> 00:09:12,180 So your work relationship with your coworkers. 163 00:09:12,180 --> 00:09:15,540 If you're having a difficult relationship with one of them, it's on your head. 164 00:09:16,050 --> 00:09:17,939 Take that approach and own that. 165 00:09:18,930 --> 00:09:20,219 That gives you the power to fix it. 166 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:22,479 Number two, personality types matter. 167 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:27,270 Most experts agree there are four or five major personality types depending 168 00:09:27,270 --> 00:09:28,439 on which expert you wanna read. 169 00:09:28,439 --> 00:09:29,880 There's been four for a long time. 170 00:09:30,270 --> 00:09:32,069 There's some debate among that group. 171 00:09:32,069 --> 00:09:36,209 Now, if there's a fifth personality, to make sure you're working with someone 172 00:09:36,209 --> 00:09:39,719 effectively, you need to identify and understand their personality type. 173 00:09:39,989 --> 00:09:44,640 So if you have a difficult relationship at work, you need to understand that 174 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:49,680 person's personality type and your own, and it will give you some insights 175 00:09:49,680 --> 00:09:51,239 into the proper way to deal with them. 176 00:09:52,170 --> 00:09:52,979 Now, number three. 177 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:57,660 And before you stop the show and, and walk away, let me explain. 178 00:09:58,530 --> 00:10:00,360 You need to understand that person's love language. 179 00:10:01,170 --> 00:10:04,170 Gary Chapman wrote a book that simplified and consolidated years 180 00:10:04,175 --> 00:10:07,740 of research for all of us simple people, so we could understand it 181 00:10:07,740 --> 00:10:09,120 called the Five Love Languages. 182 00:10:09,150 --> 00:10:13,500 It is a number one bestseller and has been for 15 plus years. 183 00:10:14,130 --> 00:10:17,430 This book did more for my work relationships than it did 184 00:10:17,430 --> 00:10:18,840 for my marriage relationship. 185 00:10:20,070 --> 00:10:21,750 It helps you understand how people. 186 00:10:22,095 --> 00:10:23,865 Hear and feel appreciated. 187 00:10:25,485 --> 00:10:27,645 Recognition and being seen. 188 00:10:28,095 --> 00:10:28,605 Okay? 189 00:10:28,995 --> 00:10:32,085 Everyone wants to be appreciated, and you may think that you're appreciating 190 00:10:32,085 --> 00:10:36,825 your coworker, however you're doing it the way you prefer to be appreciated 191 00:10:36,825 --> 00:10:40,905 and recognized, which makes perfect sense to you, so you don't understand 192 00:10:40,905 --> 00:10:43,185 why your coworker doesn't get it, that you're trying to be nice, that you're 193 00:10:43,185 --> 00:10:46,755 trying to appreciate them, but to your coworker, it's obnoxious and you're 194 00:10:46,755 --> 00:10:48,465 just heading like totally deadpan. 195 00:10:49,319 --> 00:10:54,210 And it's because what speaks appreciation, recognition, being 196 00:10:54,210 --> 00:10:58,439 seen to them is different than what speaks those things to you. 197 00:10:58,560 --> 00:11:03,420 Understanding someone's love language, like seriously this, this was a game 198 00:11:03,420 --> 00:11:08,250 changer in my professional relationships, understanding my coworkers need of how 199 00:11:08,670 --> 00:11:10,890 they prefer to be appreciated and seen. 200 00:11:12,180 --> 00:11:14,640 Number four, thinking style and speed. 201 00:11:15,795 --> 00:11:19,065 Not everyone thinks and processes like you do. 202 00:11:19,305 --> 00:11:20,205 It's just a fact. 203 00:11:21,075 --> 00:11:25,785 The one thing you need to hear in this, okay, cuz this 204 00:11:25,785 --> 00:11:27,525 was always a problem for me. 205 00:11:28,605 --> 00:11:35,385 People think in different ways and speeds while I was getting frustrated that they 206 00:11:35,385 --> 00:11:39,375 still hadn't given me an answer or worked. 207 00:11:40,245 --> 00:11:40,515 Right. 208 00:11:40,515 --> 00:11:44,625 They still hadn't had proc time to adequately process their i the idea that 209 00:11:44,625 --> 00:11:48,855 had been presented or the thought, or to really formulate an opinion on it. 210 00:11:49,005 --> 00:11:51,915 And I'm sitting here getting frustrated because I'm like, go, go, go, go, go. 211 00:11:51,915 --> 00:11:53,355 My brain goes through it really quickly. 212 00:11:53,815 --> 00:11:54,105 Okay. 213 00:11:55,740 --> 00:11:57,990 Whatever thought or idea I had shared with them, I'm just 214 00:11:57,990 --> 00:11:59,490 like, what aren't you getting? 215 00:11:59,490 --> 00:12:03,120 It's not that they didn't get it, it wasn't an intelligence issue. 216 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:05,760 It wasn't, uh, I'm better at my job than you issue. 217 00:12:05,970 --> 00:12:11,700 It was a difference in the style and speed in which I think and process things versus 218 00:12:12,330 --> 00:12:14,070 some of the coworkers I had issues with. 219 00:12:15,180 --> 00:12:17,610 It will change things radically for you. 220 00:12:18,630 --> 00:12:23,040 Understand, not everybody thinks and processes at the same speed 221 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:25,319 are in the same style that you do. 222 00:12:25,500 --> 00:12:27,959 This was big in my marriage as well, cause my wife and I 223 00:12:28,260 --> 00:12:29,729 process things very differently. 224 00:12:30,750 --> 00:12:32,459 Number five is communication style. 225 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:35,219 People communicate differently. 226 00:12:36,060 --> 00:12:37,890 Not everybody communicates the same. 227 00:12:38,969 --> 00:12:42,689 I had a guest, Jim Fuller, who wrote incredible book on communication. 228 00:12:42,689 --> 00:12:43,709 I'll have a link for that. 229 00:12:44,490 --> 00:12:46,680 Uh, so I'm not gonna go deep on this one. 230 00:12:47,430 --> 00:12:52,650 Because Jim Fuller wrote probably the best book I ever wrote on communication, 231 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:56,460 but I'll link that episode in the description and it'll be the next video. 232 00:12:56,460 --> 00:12:57,750 If you're watching this on YouTube. 233 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:01,200 Learn how someone communica learning how someone communicates 234 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:03,000 will unlock a lot of doors. 235 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:07,170 Nine times out of 10, if you have problems at work, it's communication. 236 00:13:07,170 --> 00:13:12,300 Issues are love language issues like I, I swear, when it comes to 237 00:13:12,300 --> 00:13:15,900 interpersonal communication, our interpersonal relationships at work. 238 00:13:16,814 --> 00:13:20,175 Communication and love languages are at the core of most of it. 239 00:13:21,015 --> 00:13:22,635 Now, this sounds like a lot of work, right? 240 00:13:23,084 --> 00:13:24,895 I'm not gonna lie, it is it. 241 00:13:24,900 --> 00:13:25,755 It really is. 242 00:13:26,985 --> 00:13:29,714 You can spend your whole life mastering these skills. 243 00:13:30,015 --> 00:13:33,615 Any one of them alone will help improve your relationships with 244 00:13:33,620 --> 00:13:35,295 your coworkers or anybody else. 245 00:13:35,564 --> 00:13:37,515 So start with just one. 246 00:13:38,805 --> 00:13:41,594 Just trying is gonna make a huge difference because few people 247 00:13:41,594 --> 00:13:45,435 actually put in the work to be really great at relationships. 248 00:13:45,944 --> 00:13:47,954 So start with ownership, okay? 249 00:13:47,954 --> 00:13:51,194 You'll earn the respect and admiration from your coworkers regardless 250 00:13:51,194 --> 00:13:52,365 of whether they say it or not. 251 00:13:53,084 --> 00:13:56,444 If you become a person of extreme ownership and take responsibility 252 00:13:56,444 --> 00:13:57,346 even when it's not your fault. 253 00:13:59,070 --> 00:14:02,520 At that point, they're gonna start thinking that it's worth their time 254 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:06,030 working on their relationship with you just because of that one trait, 255 00:14:06,030 --> 00:14:09,210 which will open up and make the easier other ones easier to follow. 256 00:14:10,680 --> 00:14:11,760 Pursue number one. 257 00:14:12,030 --> 00:14:12,600 Okay. 258 00:14:13,680 --> 00:14:14,490 Stream ownership. 259 00:14:14,910 --> 00:14:17,130 Then start pursuing them one after another. 260 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:22,320 The other four will change your life radically. 261 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,270 But you gotta start there at extreme ownership. 262 00:14:25,095 --> 00:14:28,575 Like I said, these five skills will help you in any relationship, but it'll 263 00:14:28,575 --> 00:14:30,405 make your work life better for sure. 264 00:14:30,465 --> 00:14:33,975 Trust me, when I was in the co corporate world of enterprise level, 265 00:14:33,975 --> 00:14:37,245 it, these five things saved my height. 266 00:14:37,245 --> 00:14:40,995 Like they honestly kept me from getting fired because I was having negative 267 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:45,015 relationships with some of my coworkers and these were game changers in the 268 00:14:45,020 --> 00:14:48,314 way I handled those relationships because I finally figured out, I was 269 00:14:48,314 --> 00:14:51,885 like, oh, I actually have to make these relationships work, or they're just gonna 270 00:14:51,885 --> 00:14:53,745 get rid of me cuz I'm the difficult one. 271 00:14:54,689 --> 00:14:59,580 So remember, your coworkers aren't necessarily your friends, 272 00:14:59,730 --> 00:15:01,439 but they are a relationship. 273 00:15:02,370 --> 00:15:05,700 Please don't make the mistake of being too trusty and too quick with your coworkers 274 00:15:05,700 --> 00:15:07,500 because they are not your friends. 275 00:15:07,770 --> 00:15:10,950 Remember, they're your colleagues and you share some common ground 276 00:15:10,950 --> 00:15:12,000 because you work together. 277 00:15:12,610 --> 00:15:16,380 But if you want to solidify those relationships and make them more 278 00:15:16,380 --> 00:15:21,000 successful at work and have a more successful, uh, relationship with your 279 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:23,400 coworkers, so your career does better. 280 00:15:24,750 --> 00:15:27,420 These five skills will help incredibly. 281 00:15:27,959 --> 00:15:31,290 And if you wanna fast track this process even more, right? 282 00:15:31,500 --> 00:15:35,099 If you're like Brent, that's a whole lot to take on our relationship. 283 00:15:35,099 --> 00:15:38,520 B Builders Group Coaching Course is the perfect program for anyone who 284 00:15:38,525 --> 00:15:42,620 wants to build deeper relationships, more meaningful relationships with 285 00:15:42,620 --> 00:15:44,910 the important people in their lives. 286 00:15:45,180 --> 00:15:49,109 That can be your coworkers, in this case, your friends, your spouse, your kids. 287 00:15:49,109 --> 00:15:49,829 It doesn't matter. 288 00:15:50,430 --> 00:15:54,090 We'll guide you through a series of exercises and strategies designed 289 00:15:54,090 --> 00:15:56,610 to help you communicate more effectively, understand your own 290 00:15:56,610 --> 00:16:00,300 needs and desires, and cultivate empathy and emotional intelligence. 291 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:03,540 Develop new habits and routines that will prioritize quality 292 00:16:03,540 --> 00:16:05,100 time with people you care about. 293 00:16:06,120 --> 00:16:09,780 The next session starts in June, so sign up today to reserve your spot, and I will 294 00:16:09,785 --> 00:16:11,730 fast track you through this in 10 weeks. 295 00:16:11,735 --> 00:16:11,930 Guys. 296 00:16:13,095 --> 00:16:15,645 This is, this is the core of what I do is relationships. 297 00:16:15,645 --> 00:16:17,895 Relationships are the foundation of the fallible man. 298 00:16:18,495 --> 00:16:21,405 So if you wanna fast track it, you're certainly welcome to go at 299 00:16:21,405 --> 00:16:24,945 this on your own, or you can jump into our group coaching program. 300 00:16:25,245 --> 00:16:28,605 That's what I really do is work with gentle men generally directly. 301 00:16:29,115 --> 00:16:30,985 So if I can help you, let me know. 302 00:16:31,665 --> 00:16:33,195 Go schedule a discovery call. 303 00:16:33,495 --> 00:16:36,345 As always, thanks for hanging out and sharing your valuable time with us. 304 00:16:36,645 --> 00:16:39,885 Be better tomorrow because of what you do today, and we'll see you on the next one. 305 00:16:42,270 --> 00:16:44,180 This has been the Fallible Man Podcast. 306 00:16:45,330 --> 00:16:48,600 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 307 00:16:49,500 --> 00:16:51,780 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 308 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:58,890 Head over to 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